The brain is a very powerful organ

[kimmie11479]

My boyfriend was seeing this girl last year she ended up going over sea’s (army) he is also in the army and they both are in the same unit. The girl came back and he’s been talking to her which has made me feel a bit insecure. I feel like he may still be curious about what could have been with her and I think she may feel the same but I’m not fully sure. I have expressed my feelings about this issue I have with my boyfriend, and he has admitted to me that he was a bit curious, and now it’s over. I feel like he’s hiding things from me but I don’t want to tell him that nor do I want to act jealous, because it will only drive him away. What should I do?

[LostInMyThoughts]

Has your boyfriend ever done anything to make you mistrust him? You know him better than us.

 

Talk to him about how you are feeling insecure because he was talking with a girl he use to see. As long as you talk about it being *your* issue, and not his issue, he'll hopefully not get defensive. Mention that you believed him when he sad he was a bit curious, but you can't shake the feeling, and ask him.

 

Look into his eyes when he responds.

[kimmie11479]

When we first started dating he kept breaking up with me. I think it was because he had been single for a long time and was a bit unwilling to settle down. This happened about 3 times and everytime he came back, but it was about a month later after he had his fun I would think.

[kimmie11479]

Since then I have a bit of a problem trusting him. It bothers me from time to time. But I'm trying to forget the past and move toward the future.

[LostInMyThoughts]

Have you told him how you feel?

[kimmie11479]

Yes, but he still talks to her, I’m not sure what he talks to her about. But they are in the same unit (army) but they don’t work together. I would think he talks to her as a friend and that still bothers me