bubblyblonde11 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 I want to cry and just want to lay down and just stay there. I am so tired. Everything seems such a struggle/battle. I've gone from doing pretty well, to feeling about the same when I first broke up, but this is not all about him its just how I feel about life in general right now. I'm not saying this to gain compliments or people just disagreeing just as an insight to how I feel... I feel that I might never find someone for a LT relationship That I am not worthy of love I am fat and ugly People don't like me I am pathetic People wish I would just get over it, so there lives can go back to normal I wish I could get over it so my life can get back to normal I don't hate my life but I hate life It's too hard I can't cope and at 34 that is pathetic I should be excited about my holiday and I am not really I just feel tearful all the time I am so tired I have no energy anymore I don't even get my fat bod down the gym anymore Can't even do well at work Its sad, I feel like a loser and all I want is to be happy again and I don't know how to get there. AND ENA I'm sorry for swearing or using cover up words for it, its part of how I express myself that is all. I apologise.
Atticus90 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 You're like this, because you're makeing yourself like this. You have the ability to get up and do what ya gotta do. If you think you need to loose weight, then do it. Your motivation? You want a life, well that should be all the motivation you need. When you think you're a loser, you most likely are. But if you think you're a champion and a winner, then you are!! Don't be so negative. Turn your life around. 34 is still young.. 50 or so more years to go.. that's a long time!!
JCLEE Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 I am one of them who is inspired by reading your previous posts. I saw some good thoguths u shared with people. I do not know what exactly happened to you but from you posts i can see you are quite competent to take good care of yourself. U just need to keep up you faith on the road to happyiness. Hang on there.
PeanutButter Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 being a vegetarian makes you feel better and most people who turn that way lose weight instantly=D!!! get a puppy and make yourself walk em every morning and night!!! take some fitness or dance classes. or take some modivation or hey hypnosis to have you push yourself!! =] you can get up and make your life so incredible!! its all up to you!! i know you can do it!! =]
barbielovesmac Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 I feel that I might never find someone for a LT relationship There are a billion people in this world. That I am not worthy of love Every living, breathing thing on this planet is worthy of love. I am fat and ugly You are not fat and ugly. You are insecure. People don't like me I like you. I am pathetic No your not. Your human. People wish I would just get over it, so there lives can go back to normal Your reading into what people MIGHT think too much. I wish I could get over it so my life can get back to normal Only you can control your thoughts. It's up to you to get over it and get back to normal. I don't hate my life but I hate life Don't hate life, as life is a gift that should be handled with care. It's too hard No one ever said it would be easy. I can't cope and at 34 that is pathetic People cant cope at any age. I should be excited about my holiday and I am not really GET EXCITED! BE HAPPY. LIVE LIFE. I just feel tearful all the time When you feel this way, do something else. I am so tired I have no energy anymore I don't even get my fat bod down the gym anymore Stop complaining about it and just do it. Can't even do well at work
Gracelove Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Hang in there, k. I can totally understand how you are feeling. Life is really hard. But it's worth living it, even if it doesn't feel like it. If you are able to just lay in bed, do it. Sometimes we're not able to, but if you are, give it a shot. I'm sure nothing bad will happen. I once had a nurse tell me, that if you're feeling bad, wait 10 minutes, and soon you'll have another emotion. I know that pain you're feeling isn't likely to dissipate (sp?) that quickly, but, that nurse was right. Sometimes you are going to feel miserable, and that's alright. Sometimes you feel powerless to change you're situation, and you just have to survive the moment. When it comes to other people wanting you to move on....they are likely to always feel that way. Either because seeing you in pain hurts them, or because it's an inconvinence(sp?) to them. Either way you have to live life the best way you know how. Sometimes it pays not to listen to other people. Are you in therapy? I find that therapy really helps. Therapist can help you gauge things, judge where you are. For example, sometimes I don't understand why I'm sad, and I'm wondering if it's my depression or the other things. And my therapist will tell me that what I've been through would make anyone sad. So therapist can help guide you in that way. I can also relate when you say you just want to feel better. I can really relate to that, LOL. Often times I'm suffering through something, and all I'll hear from surrounding family is, "I want you to get better". I think sometimes people don't realize that you are doing the best you can. And that you want you to be better, more than anyone else could. And even though they may not like what they see, they aren't getting the brunt of it, you are. thereforeeee what you are feeling is ten times worse than what they are seeing. I would say, don't beat yourself up. There's no point. You are who you are right now, and that's okay. You may not be at your best, your prime, but you'll get there. I can understand the "fat" feelings as well. I gained a lot of weight over the past year and I feel really fat sometimes. Such things can be extra hard to deal with if you have a previous eating disorder and are used to being on the opposite end. Sometimes you have to say, "so what?", when that little voice in your head tells you that you're fat. You're just as good as anyone else. I'm sure you see people everyday who are fatter than you are, thinner than you are, much more unattractive than you are...but do they seem to care? Does that stop them from living? I think when you feel the way that you are feeling right now, it's easy to come up with reasons as to why you aren't good enough to do something, or to just be. I want to tell you that you are good enough. Hang in there. You are feeling really badly right now, but something unexpected will come along to cheer you up. It gets better.
Lana0120 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 BB - this is just a lapse. It isn't how it's going to be forever. You just need to keep picking yourself up like you keep on doing. One thing you should remember no matter what: don't let a man define your worth. It isn't pathetic to be single at 34, you aren't unworthy of a fulfilling relationship either. Don't crave a relationship for the sake of it. Your ex was a jerk, so you don't want him back. There's another man out there who is waiting for the accident where you happen to meet, but you can't do that if you're not the person you are, okay?
hopeless66 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Hey now...I know life gets hard, and yeah somedays feel better than others.. Some just suck... When my exfiance left 5 weeks ago, it killed me... It still does. The thing I realized is that life is what you make of it... Sounds cliche' but things could be alot worse...The last 5 weeks of my life had been a complete rollercoaster. First my fiance broke up with me. The same week, my sister called and her husband of a year wants a divorce. The day after that I booked a big acting job that could potentially bring in alot of money for me. 3 days after the shoot for the commercial, my good friend called to tell me his niece, 10 months old, passed from a brain tumor. About a week or so after that my other good friend had his first child. The day after the child was born, I got a cartoon series.. Life is crazy. You don't know what is going to happen. Cherish it. There is ups and downs. There is alot of negatives...ALOT!! At the same time, you tend to overlook the positives that make life what it is...You will be happy again. I will put everything I got on that. Life will always throw you a curveball...Its what you make of it that defines you as a person...You are a good person...You don't need anyone to tell you that, you have to believe it for yourself.. Good luck and take care of yourself...I'll let you burn a pic of my 350z...lol
Jess... Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 I am fat and ugly Bubbly you are not! I've seen pictures of you, you are so pretty! You're just having a rough time - chin up. Remember we here at ENA love you. We're here for you. You can do it!
nuttybuddy Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 i saw your pic in the other thread. u don't look fat and u certainly are not ugly. but u do sound depressed. i think u should try seeing a doctor. maybe antidepressants can help u get back on the right track.
brando Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 So far it sounds like you are still grieving this relationship. But also their sems to be some other issues that are coming out. Youappear to have a negative self image. Or at least right noyou do. If you truly believe all of these things you mentioned, then it is no wonder why. THis is the time you need to take to dispell these beliefs about yourself. Each and everyone of us have some core beliefs about us. Some of us have deeply rooted negative ones, and we continue to believe these things are true that which we think, and never challenge them any longer, we accept them. This is where the hard work comes into play. You cant dispell these beliefs with a new relationship, then you would be basing your feelings on another person, this will only leave you off much worse then if you become your own motivator. Choices, it is all about choices, in what we think how we feel, I believe it is our thoughts that which cause us to feel good or bad. Nothing more. SO in order to feel good you need to check out what you are thinking, and challenge those thoughts/beliefs of their validity. Maybe som etime ago someone told you these things, and no they are being reinforced due to this breakup and your lingering thoughts on how often you may have herad those negative coments. You do not need someones approval to love yourself. Time to face your worse enemy, YOU. be well, brando
ComputerGuy Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 It honestly sounds to me like you are insecure about yourself more than anything. You label yourself as fat and ugly, and this attitude towards yourself shines through to others, one thing I have learnt is that how you perceive yourself plays a big part in how others perceive you - you have got to learn to accept who you are and like it before you can really expect others to. I know that's easier said than done, and though I haven't been on ENA for a long time, if you look back over my older posts you'll see that I was in the same position. At some point you need to stop and accept that this is who you are and be happy with it. Also it's not pathetic to feel like that just because you are 30+, since when does age mean anything? Everyone feels insecure at all ages, even the most ougoing and confident person on the planet has insecurities - it's art of being human. As for not being worth being loved, I'm sure you know deep down that's true. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder as the old cliche goes and cheesy as it is, I'm sure you'll find plenty of people that miss you terribly when you are away and truly care about you So cheer up and try not to be too hard on yourself - we are our own worst critics and sometimes we need to slap ourselves and bring ourselves back down to earth. PS sorry for saying ourselves too many times in that last paragraph o_0
bobsiesprincess Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 I want to cry and just want to lay down and just stay there. I am so tired. Everything seems such a struggle/battle. I feel that I might never find someone for a LT relationship That I am not worthy of love I am fat and ugly People don't like me I am pathetic People wish I would just get over it, so there lives can go back to normal I wish I could get over it so my life can get back to normal I don't hate my life but I hate life It's too hard I can't cope I just feel tearful all the time I am so tired I have no energy anymore I don't even get my fat bod down the gym anymore Can't even do well at work Its sad, I feel like a loser and all I want is to be happy again and I don't know how to get there. Bubbly, you are not alone. i have quoted everything that you have said which i could have said, i only had to edit out a few things. things can only get better from here so we just have to grit our teeth and get through this terrible time.
butterflyx0 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 bubbly... it must be something in weird in the atmosphere (i rhymed lol) because I have been feeling like this the last few days as well. I've been doing really well up until this point. I guess I have to come to terms with the fact that this isn't going to be easy. It's really hard- I agree. And it's so hard to not feel pathetic when you feel like you have nothing to be happy about- especially if you're like me and feel like your ex is having the time of his life. Just remember... you will eventually find something, or someone, that will make you happy. But you just have to have an open mind about things, and don't sit around waiting for it to come. I've realized that the things that have made me happiest in life have just sprung up without warning. Life is full of surprises, yes, bad ones...but also very good ones as well. Whenever I get upset I just try to think about the good surprises that are coming along the way. I know it's hard...but stuff like this makes people stronger in the long run.
bubblyblonde11 Posted October 2, 2007 Author Posted October 2, 2007 You're like this, because you're makeing yourself like this. You have the ability to get up and do what ya gotta do. If you think you need to loose weight, then do it. Your motivation? You want a life, well that should be all the motivation you need. When you think you're a loser, you most likely are. But if you think you're a champion and a winner, then you are!! Don't be so negative. Turn your life around. 34 is still young.. 50 or so more years to go.. that's a long time!! Mmm on the losing weight front, well been going to the gym lots recently until last week and have put on weight and inches, probably because I have a thyroid/diabeties problem but won't know until I get my test results. Its only been the last week I have been so negative, I am totally exhausted I have no energy to be bubbly and positive but do try as best I can I am one of them who is inspired by reading your previous posts. I saw some good thoguths u shared with people. I do not know what exactly happened to you but from you posts i can see you are quite competent to take good care of yourself. U just need to keep up you faith on the road to happyiness. Hang on there. Thank you that I really nice of you to say, I want to get back to that way I think I am just to exhausted at the moment. being a vegetarian makes you feel better and most people who turn that way lose weight instantly=D!!! get a puppy and make yourself walk em every morning and night!!! take some fitness or dance classes. or take some modivation or hey hypnosis to have you push yourself!! =] you can get up and make your life so incredible!! its all up to you!! i know you can do it!! =] Like meat too much for that, and I prefer cats to dogs. Hyponis have done before so is a possability for sure. I feel that I might never find someone for a LT relationship There are a billion people in this world. That I am not worthy of love Every living, breathing thing on this planet is worthy of love. I am fat and ugly You are not fat and ugly. You are insecure. People don't like me I like you. I am pathetic No your not. Your human. People wish I would just get over it, so there lives can go back to normal Your reading into what people MIGHT think too much. I wish I could get over it so my life can get back to normal Only you can control your thoughts. It's up to you to get over it and get back to normal. I don't hate my life but I hate life Don't hate life, as life is a gift that should be handled with care. It's too hard No one ever said it would be easy. I can't cope and at 34 that is pathetic People cant cope at any age. I should be excited about my holiday and I am not really GET EXCITED! BE HAPPY. LIVE LIFE. I just feel tearful all the time When you feel this way, do something else. I am so tired I have no energy anymore I don't even get my fat bod down the gym anymore Stop complaining about it and just do it. Can't even do well at work Seriously I am totally exhausted, I have no energy for the gym or anything I just want too sleep. I am shattered and my mind and body need a break from everything. But I get what you say. Hang in there, k. I can totally understand how you are feeling. Life is really hard. But it's worth living it, even if it doesn't feel like it. I hope so hun xxxx If you are able to just lay in bed, do it. Sometimes we're not able to, but if you are, give it a shot. I'm sure nothing bad will happen. I once had a nurse tell me, that if you're feeling bad, wait 10 minutes, and soon you'll have another emotion. I know that pain you're feeling isn't likely to dissipate (sp?) that quickly, but, that nurse was right. Sometimes you are going to feel miserable, and that's alright. Sometimes you feel powerless to change you're situation, and you just have to survive the moment. When it comes to other people wanting you to move on....they are likely to always feel that way. Either because seeing you in pain hurts them, or because it's an inconvinence(sp?) to them. Either way you have to live life the best way you know how. Sometimes it pays not to listen to other people. Are you in therapy? I find that therapy really helps. Therapist can help you gauge things, judge where you are. For example, sometimes I don't understand why I'm sad, and I'm wondering if it's my depression or the other things. And my therapist will tell me that what I've been through would make anyone sad. So therapist can help guide you in that way. I can also relate when you say you just want to feel better. I can really relate to that, LOL. Often times I'm suffering through something, and all I'll hear from surrounding family is, "I want you to get better". I think sometimes people don't realize that you are doing the best you can. And that you want you to be better, more than anyone else could. And even though they may not like what they see, they aren't getting the brunt of it, you are. thereforeeee what you are feeling is ten times worse than what they are seeing. I would say, don't beat yourself up. There's no point. You are who you are right now, and that's okay. You may not be at your best, your prime, but you'll get there. I can understand the "fat" feelings as well. I gained a lot of weight over the past year and I feel really fat sometimes. Such things can be extra hard to deal with if you have a previous eating disorder and are used to being on the opposite end. Sometimes you have to say, "so what?", when that little voice in your head tells you that you're fat. You're just as good as anyone else. I'm sure you see people everyday who are fatter than you are, thinner than you are, much more unattractive than you are...but do they seem to care? Does that stop them from living? I think when you feel the way that you are feeling right now, it's easy to come up with reasons as to why you aren't good enough to do something, or to just be. I want to tell you that you are good enough. Hang in there. You are feeling really badly right now, but something unexpected will come along to cheer you up. It gets better. Thank you for your kind and great words I have read and will re read and take in perhaps later. Thank you xxxxx BB - this is just a lapse. It isn't how it's going to be forever. You just need to keep picking yourself up like you keep on doing. One thing you should remember no matter what: don't let a man define your worth. It isn't pathetic to be single at 34, you aren't unworthy of a fulfilling relationship either. Don't crave a relationship for the sake of it. Your ex was a jerk, so you don't want him back. There's another man out there who is waiting for the accident where you happen to meet, but you can't do that if you're not the person you are, okay? MY problem is in 4yrs of being single shall I tell you how many times I pulled while out in a bar, pub, club, gym, etc - once yep once. I mean this, I never get chatted up even though I am the most approachable, chattiest, smiliest person in a place normally yet blokes don't seem to fancy me. Internet dating seems my only option as having sex with my fellow Sales people is not an option. I want to be doing those things that couples do, I want romance, I would like days out, evenings out, weekends and holidays away. Laying next to someone etc etc Hey now...I know life gets hard, and yeah somedays feel better than others.. Some just suck... When my exfiance left 5 weeks ago, it killed me... It still does. The thing I realized is that life is what you make of it... Sounds cliche' but things could be alot worse...The last 5 weeks of my life had been a complete rollercoaster. First my fiance broke up with me. The same week, my sister called and her husband of a year wants a divorce. The day after that I booked a big acting job that could potentially bring in alot of money for me. 3 days after the shoot for the commercial, my good friend called to tell me his niece, 10 months old, passed from a brain tumor. About a week or so after that my other good friend had his first child. The day after the child was born, I got a cartoon series.. Life is crazy. You don't know what is going to happen. Cherish it. There is ups and downs. There is alot of negatives...ALOT!! At the same time, you tend to overlook the positives that make life what it is...You will be happy again. I will put everything I got on that. Life will always throw you a curveball...Its what you make of it that defines you as a person...You are a good person...You don't need anyone to tell you that, you have to believe it for yourself.. Good luck and take care of yourself...I'll let you burn a pic of my 350z...lol Send me that pic of the 350z, I will have a burning cermony as I have some other stuff I can add too it too. xxxxxxx Thank you for being so kind. Bubbly you are not! I've seen pictures of you, you are so pretty! You're just having a rough time - chin up. Remember we here at ENA love you. We're here for you. You can do it! Thank you hun, again if I am so pretty then how come I cannot pull and why have I been single for so long. Its nice to know people on here are so kind and caring though, I thank you. xxxx i saw your pic in the other thread. u don't look fat and u certainly are not ugly. but u do sound depressed. i think u should try seeing a doctor. maybe antidepressants can help u get back on the right track. Scary hun I am on them, was trying to take smaller dose, think might have to revisit tomorrow. And thank you for what you said. xxxx
bubblyblonde11 Posted October 2, 2007 Author Posted October 2, 2007 It's the depression and exhaustion getting to me, celebs can afford to go to rehab and rest for weeks on end, I cannot which is a shame as I need a break before I do a Britney. Thank you for your words it helps, alot xxxxx Yeah I think the grief I should have been going through in months 0-3 from the break up is now coming out, especially as I am totally run down and out of energy. Every minute of everyday is a struggle at the moment. I am physically weak. Thanks again, very nice words and thoughts there I am trying to take the positive vibes from everything that has been so kindly said to me here today (and previously). xxxxx
EricAK Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Bubbles, NO ONE is going to make your life happier or better FOR YOU. It is all up to you. Lemme say that again, it is all up to you. Hell, I am sure everyone of us here at ENA have walloed in the pool of self pity. And guess what that got us all? Wrikled up skin from being in the soggy water. SO, you can either let this beat you, or you can choose to go forth, suck it up and make it better and ultimately your life better. Don't just write a bunch of words down on a cyber-forum saying you are happy and doing better, GO AND MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY AND DO BETTER. You have the capacity to do this. Consider this a cyber kick in the tuckus to get you up and going. Eric
bubblyblonde11 Posted October 2, 2007 Author Posted October 2, 2007 I have one question I need honest opinions on please Ok it took me 4yrs to open my heart fully to another man (ie the ex) I am totally confused and feeling very unsure as too weather to close it back up again for along time again or If I got hurt again, will the hurt be less than this time, because I had not ever experienced a post teens being dumped this last time, hence why it was sooo bad and is taking so long to get over. ??????? I am scared
papalazarou Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Hey you (((((hugs))))) I have learnt so much from my relationship from the ex (still learning) but as for opening you heart well yes you should when you are ready. When you meet someone (and you will babe) you will know to take it slowly. god knows in hindsight I rushed into things as it felt so right. Then you know what comes up... But yes in your next relationship you will know hun and if its only a short relationship then you will deal with it better. I have had a couple of short relationships with people and let me tell you you dont feel it as bad as what happened with the person you loved (or at the time you did) when you split up. Keep smiling hun you are going on holiday soon hun xxxxxxxxxxxx
andy5128 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Hi Ya Hun Fat... er no.. I have seen you in the flesh and trust me alot of women would die for a figure like yours... Ugly....er no... You are a very attractive woman both outside and in... Listen Hunnie, it's only been a few months for you.. This does take time and what you are going through I went through and many others have or are aswell. It is just a phase you have to go through.. It will get better.. You will meet someone nice to spend your life with You will have a great holiday and come back looking tanned and lovely and refreshed I am sure All that hard work at the gym has paid off no harm in taking a break hun.. just get back to it after your hols.. You have a night on the beer with me too look forward too end of October hope thats still on really looking forward to it.... I am way down the road in healing since Feb thats why I feel ok but I still have my off days too but you will get better and will feel much better very soon... Chin up hunnie... Call/Text me if you ever need to... Take care Andy xx
andy5128 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 I have one question I need honest opinions on please Ok it took me 4yrs to open my heart fully to another man (ie the ex) I am totally confused and feeling very unsure as too weather to close it back up again for along time again or If I got hurt again, will the hurt be less than this time, because I had not ever experienced a post teens being dumped this last time, hence why it was sooo bad and is taking so long to get over. ??????? I am scared Life is about taking chances sometimes.. I understand your concern.. You will just know when you meet the right person and are ready to take the risk and see how it goes... It just happens when you least expect it... You could be in Tesco's tomorrow and meet him.. who knows! Just get loving Bubs as we want her back as much as you do and it will happen.. when you least expect it too usually..!!! Andy
bubblyblonde11 Posted October 2, 2007 Author Posted October 2, 2007 Bubbles, NO ONE is going to make your life happier or better FOR YOU. It is all up to you. Lemme say that again, it is all up to you. Hell, I am sure everyone of us here at ENA have walloed in the pool of self pity. And guess what that got us all? Wrikled up skin from being in the soggy water. SO, you can either let this beat you, or you can choose to go forth, suck it up and make it better and ultimately your life better. Don't just write a bunch of words down on a cyber-forum saying you are happy and doing better, GO AND MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY AND DO BETTER. You have the capacity to do this. Consider this a cyber kick in the tuckus to get you up and going. Eric Thanks am going to get through the next couple of days, go away on hols and hopefully come back refreshed and with a plan and some goals instead of just coasting along. Thank u again xxxxx Hey you (((((hugs))))) I have learnt so much from my relationship from the ex (still learning) but as for opening you heart well yes you should when you are ready. When you meet someone (and you will babe) you will know to take it slowly. god knows in hindsight I rushed into things as it felt so right. Then you know what comes up... But yes in your next relationship you will know hun and if its only a short relationship then you will deal with it better. I have had a couple of short relationships with people and let me tell you you dont feel it as bad as what happened with the person you loved (or at the time you did) when you split up. Keep smiling hun you are going on holiday soon hun xxxxxxxxxxxx Thats good to know hun, thank you. I hope that after my hols bubbly blonde pre 2007 will be back in full force. None of you have seen her yet, but she is a pretty cool gal with glass always (ok most of the time) half full, except when out on the lash then its always empty cause I drank the contents no other reason. xxxxx Hi Ya Hun Fat... er no.. I have seen you in the flesh and trust me alot of women would die for a figure like yours... Ugly....er no... You are a very attractive woman both outside and in... Listen Hunnie, it's only been a few months for you.. This does take time and what you are going through I went through and many others have or are aswell. It is just a phase you have to go through.. It will get better.. You will meet someone nice to spend your life with You will have a great holiday and come back looking tanned and lovely and refreshed I am sure All that hard work at the gym has paid off no harm in taking a break hun.. just get back to it after your hols.. You have a night on the beer with me too look forward too end of October hope thats still on really looking forward to it.... I am way down the road in healing since Feb thats why I feel ok but I still have my off days too but you will get better and will feel much better very soon... Chin up hunnie... Call/Text me if you ever need to... Take care Andy xx Thank you hun, like I said to someone else, I think I should have let some of this out months ago but pushed myself too hard and closed off to grieving. Doh! Hoping that holiday and having some goals for when I get back will be whats needed. I'm gonna go to fencing lessons as always fancied trying it Get back down gym and lose some weight/tone up Hit target at work Get back on the dating scene I'm working on some others too. I just need a break, to rest the mind and body (ok although theme park mania is not quite rest but you get my drift), no work, no stress, no internet, no 350z and nearly crashing 1billion times at every metallic blue car that goes the other way on the motorway, no email, just lots of fun, sun and laughs hopefully. All I can say is I am trying to get through this, and I am sorry to all for being a grumpy cow lately and not being much help to anyone on here. And a massive thank you without some of you I would be a total mess, you know who you are. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Lana0120 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 Hey BB - I think your method of meeting guys says it all. I don't know many people who have formed lasting relationships from people from clubbing. Actually, I don't know of any. Meeting people on the internet is good, but there are also other ways... at work (although dodgy if you break up) and any other social thing.
andy5128 Posted October 2, 2007 Posted October 2, 2007 A break sounds good and what you have mentioned sounds like a great plan to me... To add to Lana's point.. Just meet someone where you feel most comfortable.. whether it be a club, tescos or Marks and Sparks(if your after a posh bloke!), the gym, through a group, internet.. It does not really matter in my book.. I have met people through many different types of places... You will just know when it feels right for you thats the most important thing... also as I said before it happens when you least expect it.. when you get to the point like I did and think sod it I can't be bothered with it all anymore they seem to appear out the woodwork!! So get YOU back hun thats priority numero uno and then the rest will fall into place anyhow.. Andy
bubblyblonde11 Posted October 3, 2007 Author Posted October 3, 2007 Thank you all, your words have helped me so much. To one person in particular who sent me a long and great PM which I am waiting for there permission to post it, wow you really made me open my eyes again. What you said about the ex, so true and I closed off alot of that forgetting alot of what he did and remembering the nicer things. I have two more days to get through, then I am outta here and here How cool is that (I am trying to get the excitement juices flowing)
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