I dipped down in my roller coaster

[Murasaki]

Hi ENAers, haven't been on in a while. Yesterday I felt really bad. I'm thankful that I could still work and meet people and have fun, but when left to myself sometimes I feel sad. Yesterday I started thinking about what I used to have, and without explanation I just felt crummy. It's been nearly four months now and I feel like I should be over it by now but I'm not. It's difficult . . .

[Taking The Lead]

Do your best. After all, we're all human here too. Best of luck.

 

-David

[HajiMaji]

You shouldnt be over anything. That line of thinking is for the people in life who are displeased with your pain.

 

Breaking up is one of the biggest losses that one has to deal with in a lifetime. Dont sweat the fact that you dont feel great.

 

You will get over it in an indeterminate amount of time. Its hard enough to deal with your situation. Dont make it harder by saying you should be over it by now!

 

The way I see it, progress isnt such a straight line. Thoughts become triggered, and sometimes that means a day is extra rough. The good news is, each bad day you have is helping you get it all out of your system. So, even though it seems bad, you are doing well. Just keep on living, and do what you are doing. Thoughts are gonna come up, and sometimes, being sad is just what life brings. Itll be ok.

[Desiderata]

You're doing just fine, my darling, I know I felt like this a few weeks ago. I quickly realized that coming on here and talking about it brought me a step above where I felt I was - I was talking things through with supportive people, so I was moving along at some kind of rate. Do not sell yourself short by "believing" that you have to be at a certain point in your healing as we all heal at different rates, have different experiences and do different things to cope and move on.

 

I've been thinking about what I used to have too, but I know that it's not right to think about. What is right right now for me is to just move away from it, to just move past what happened to me in hopes for a better future. It's the only thing you can do because dwelling on the past is so detrimental to your healing. It will be okay, I promise you. Just be patient and focus on what's really important to you in your life right now. *hugs*

[Beginningandend]

Solitude can easy be the biggest hurdle in getting over a relationship if you allow it. The only thing I can recommend is going back to a hobby you may have neglected or finding some activity to keep your mind occupied. Anything that keeps your mind busy can do wonders. Focus on yourself and what you enjoy doing.