dantheram Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I been apart from my girlfriend for 3 weeks and i just cant get over her at all. We were together for 5 1/2 years (since i was 17 and she 16), i went travelling in july for 8 weeks, when i got back my girlfriend said she had got stronger and being alone was what she wanted. Whilst i was away she would send my txt telling me how much she loved me, one thing that really upsets me is the message she sent me when she won a teddy, she said 'ive named it Dan so your always with me'. I cant understand how she went from that to ending it within 6 weeks. When i was away i always told her how much i loved her and wanted to be with her, we seemed fine until one of her friends told her that i had said something about her to one of my friends, this was untrue and moreover the guy i was supposed to have said it to was hardly a friend, i hadn't seen him for yrs!! i feel so alone and confused, i just cant understand how someone who loved me so much just gave up on everything! I cant even contact her as she got a new phone its driving me up the wall. we used to do everything together and now everything i do upsets me because it reminds me of her.
Cloud802 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Are you positive there's no way to contact her? If not then I'm sorry to say that unless she contacts you then you might have to move on anyways. I know it's harsh, but it might be your only choice, if she's willing to throw away a nearly six year relationship for a retarded rumor then I don't see why she dated you in the first place. If you can't contact her then you might have to, it's only been three weeks, and it takes a long time, especially with a relationship that lasted that long.
dantheram Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 I could contact her if i really wanted to but i don't think she'd listen and i dont know what to say. I hate being confused and not understanding what went wrong. when she came to see me when i got back she brought round some presents for me and then ended it. Ive still got all the things i brought her from when i was travelling and i desperately want to give them to her. its eating me up inside, i cant even look at my photos because she gave me the camera i took them with so the memory of her ruins the pics!
Cloud802 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 This is a situation where you have to contact her. As for the problem of what to say just ask her why she ended a relationship like this. And don't accept the answer, "I just wanted to be strong and alone." I've had enough of that in my current relationship to know that it's completely not sturdy as a valid argument. Be firm but don't be aggressive or angry, that'll only tick her off. This is the last thing you can do, if she isn't willing to listen to someone that she loves then she's not the one you're looking for.
amtjrtcet Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Do you think maybe there was someone else? I mean it just seems strange how her feelings changed so quickly
dantheram Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 i didnt get the feeling she was with someone else. it was more of a confused feeling, that is why im so confused, its rubbed off on me. I suppose she could be but i just dont know, and im pretty sure she would have told me, atleast i hope so.
KAT MOMMY Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I am sorry-some people are just disrespectful as hell. My guess is that she had someone on this side and this is nothing that happened over night. I know that 5+ years is a long time-but thank god you have no attachements. I was with the father of my only child for 6+ years and we split and never did he give me a warning shot. Live for you honey and sometimes when people walk away from us know that they were not built to stand beside us in the first place. Take it as a blessing in disguise and know that when God closes one day he will open another. Keep your head up and stop beating yourself up, it is not your fault. Things get greater later/ XOXOXOX
dantheram Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 Well shes lost out, i never did anything to hurt her and i never would. If she is with someone else i hope she gets dumped, not out of spite, just so my faith in karma is restored!!
Cloud802 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 If she really wants to ditch you like this she'll get hers eventually.
dantheram Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 see the thing is when i saw her last she still had on her watch that i brought and was wearing a top i brought her. I dont see how anyone would be able to do that if they were seeing someone else.
Zackinlaw Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 see the thing is when i saw her last she still had on her watch that i brought and was wearing a top i brought her. I dont see how anyone would be able to do that if they were seeing someone else. One of my exes was cheating on me, and she asked me to bake a lasagna to take to a party. In reality, she was going to meet her lover ... as I found out when she called me at around midnight! Don't underestimate some people's capacity for depravity. Zack. ps ... I even paid for the ingredients!!!
dantheram Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 Bloody hell that is just horrible! when i think about her cheating im so tempted to go on ebay with her account and buy something for £10,000, but im not sure she did so i cant really!! I really dont think she would but now i see what some people are like maybe im being naive!!
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