setsuko1981 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 This more of a survey again: GUYS (let's say you're of legal age - 18 and above, if you're not) Would you consider seriously dating a girl who is at very least 5 years older than you? Would it "weird" you out? GALS (let's say you're of legal age - 18 and above, if you're not) Would you consider seriously dating a guy who is at very least 5 years younger than you? Would it "weird" you out? I mean as guys, wouldn't you want to be the mature person, leader, someone who takes charge of things? I have always envision dating a girl who is at most 3 years younger than me...
Dako Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I've dated women way beyond the narrow age ranges you specified. In each case, it was a partnership, not a fixed leader/follower relationship based upon gender. I know that's hard for some to grasp, but it's the real deal. If you prefer the male-dominant older male model, good for you. As your sig suggests, "don't be afraid to tell someone you love them if they're older/younger than you."
catwalk Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I tend to like younger guys, so yes, 5 years wouldn't be a big deal, especially at my age although when I was 18 I would not have gone out with a 13 year old!
CarnelianButterfly Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 If I were 18, there would be no way in hell I'd date someone younger, gross. At my age (26), I'd still not date someone younger unless he showed exception maturity. I don't want kids, so I sure as heck don't need to raise a 20 something toddler.
niczeegs Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Personally, since I'm 20 and he would be 15. I would be weirded out. But when I'm 30 and he's 25 - that's fine with me.
Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 i dated someone 5 years older than me didnt bother me i was 18/19 at the time
shes2smart Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 There's an 11 year age difference between me and my husband. I'm the older one. We're compatible on so many different levels, the age difference is a non-issue. There are times/situations where he's got more experience than I do, and times/situations I have more experience than he does. My last bf was 18 years older than me. I made the assumption that he'd be more mature, have some clear ideas about what he wanted and have more insight into how to create a healthy relationship than guys my age. Have you heard that old saying about what happens when you assume? You make an "ass" out of "u" and "me." That relationship ended when I caught him cheating. Oh, and just to throw another curveball into your survey, my husband and I met on a BDSM-themed website as we are both into the lifestyle. He's the dominant, I'm the submissive...yeah, even with the age difference and an initial huge difference in experience. As long as both people are of legal age, age is only an issue if one or both of them decide to make it an issue.
matts0344 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I don't want to date a women much older than me. If I was in my 30s I could do like 3-4 years older max. I'm 21 now, I don't think I would want to date a girl who was 26+ Really I'd only be interested in 18-23 year olds. More towards the 18-21 though.
downward spiral Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 All the women I have ever dated accept one were younger. Although when I was 18 I couldnt pay a HO to go out with me, I was fugly. I matured and grew into my ears and body and as I got older I dated on avg about 2-4 yrs younger. i am 34 now and my gf is 27. no big thing.
bih2003 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 hmmmm... I dated guys MY AGE AND above. Least being MY AGE 21 and highest being 29 but also had a major crush on a VERY SUCCESSFUL unmarried, no kids, FBI and SWAT agent for the president of haiti who was of the age 40. BUT NEVER BEEN WITH HIM NOR TOUCHED HIM NOR SEEN HIM especially NOT KISSED HIM. sooooooooooo highest being 29 , i would like to have someone who is 2 -5 yrs older than me and NOT YOUNGER! I wanna be his girlfriend not babysitter.
setsuko1981 Posted October 1, 2007 Author Posted October 1, 2007 Thanks for the responses! OK I lied, there's actually a reason as to why I asked that survey. First of all, I like this girl who is a year younger than I, and I'm pretty sure she knows that, well cause I told her...so far nothing has happened between us; I think it's mostly because she's confused whether she likes me or not. When we live close to each other; she kept on giving me hints that she likes me (she was short of saying it herself). Just before she moved, I talked to her about being more than friends, she completely backed out; she said we're just friends, yet she keeps telling me of her goals and dreams. I told her, I'm willing to receive less attention from her (behind her goals), but I'll be there to help her achieve it. I still like her and it would not mean that I'd leave her. HERE'S WHAT PROMPTED THE SURVEY: There's this another girl who I just met recently; we became friends. She's (I think) at least 7 years older than me. She keeps on dropping these hints that she's interested in me (HINTS LIKE: touching, she keeps on saying 'whenever you (I) feel like going places, you (I) can always drive me (her) around town", her decisions on whether she would go to our (common friends) outing is always based on whether I'm going or not (if I'm not going then she'll say she'll not go either), and when we (us friends with our other common friends) planned to go on a boating trip to the state where the girl above lives, I told her I'm inviting the girl above - she cancelled the trip citing that they're not opened during the time that we want to go; I checked every single boating/rafting places in that area that I could find in the internet and they're ALL open!) She keeps on saying that she's just being nice that way (she's just being friendly with me)... So, I just took her word for it besides like I still like the girl above... Still, the "hint dropping" kept on going; now I'm having second thoughts about the first girl that I mentioned, and ask the girl above.
stranded247 Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 ask the girl above! she sounds like a safer bet. the younger one doesn't sound interested. However the older one sure does!
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