SingleStar Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Amy Winehouse - but so true to me Im running a pattern EVERY boyfriend i have every had... at a later date i have become the other woman for a short while...(not with my knowledgeall the time i might add im nto that kinda girl) The total is running to nearly 10 ex's now It turns out im always good enough to cheat on the new miss perfect with but not goodenough for keeps My first love said to me last week: Your like Madonna.. at best, goodlooking but with massive sex appeal, its more prominent than ur personality. My second Love: I cant resist you... you get 'me' and i fancy u, but your never enough.. My Nickname Pixie-Minx apparently sums me up completely... however i tried removing the outgoing side of me, in fact i covered up in dress sense, quietened down and everyone in my life went mad that i was not being myself Im fed of of not being enough... whats wrong with me.
TheFallenShadow Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 Nothing nothing is wrong with you, and dont let anyone make you feel that way. weather you give them the power or not, it can be done, you can be made to feel less then or not good enough, been there, done that, myself....and what i have come to realize is, that i am good enough as i am. and no one can make me or tell me any differant... so never feel that something is wrong with you, its usually because the person that is trying to make you feel that way, is some how deficient themselves
Crazyaboutdogs Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 You know what, even dressing conservatively and being more conservative would not induce certain types of men to take you seriously enough to not just view you as the other woman. The problem is with those types of men and their issues and deficiencies and lack of respect for women. They view women as their playthings....like the way a cat toys with a mouse. Face it, when someone is regarded as the other woman by a man, that means the man is disrespecting both this woman and the woman he currently calls his partner. So, being regarded as the other woman is not a slap in the face to you...it is merely an indication of the lack of integrity and empathy of the man in question.
Belle Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 I'm thinking that this image may have something to do with the number of exes that you've already had at such a young age. I think you need to look at what you're doing and the bait you're using. It has everything to do with what kind of guy you attract.
JadedStar Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 I'm thinking that this image may have something to do with the number of exes that you've already had at such a young age. I think you need to look at what you're doing and the bait you're using. It has everything to do with what kind of guy you attract. I agree. You mentioned you "covered yourself up". Well, if your normal attire is to have boobs busting out and an overall painted look you are likely not going to be taken as seriously. There is a way to dress sexy and not look cheesy. Maybe you need to just work on refining your look. I am not saying tha will suddenly make you taken more seriously, because it is more than that. Your actions have a lot to do wtih it too. Wihtout knowing you it is hard for us to give you any real tips. "We attract who we are". In other words, if you are putting off a persona of i'm easy and i like sex, you are likely going to attract the kind of guy who wants a quick roll in the sack. I am not saying this is you, just going by your post. If you have been the other woman TEN times then there is something definitely going on here. YOu can enahnce who you are without changing the inner you. The fact that you chose a username of pixie minx might even be your subconscious shining thru. If you are portraying yourself as not much more than a minx then you likely will keep attracting men wanting one night stands or misstresses.
JadedStar Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 You know what, even dressing conservatively and being more conservative would not induce certain types of men to take you seriously enough to not just view you as the other woman. The problem is with those types of men and their issues and deficiencies and lack of respect for women. They view women as their playthings....like the way a cat toys with a mouse. Face it, when someone is regarded as the other woman by a man, that means the man is disrespecting both this woman and the woman he currently calls his partner. So, being regarded as the other woman is not a slap in the face to you...it is merely an indication of the lack of integrity and empathy of the man in question. I think that it is a bit short sighted to completely blame all the men. This has happened TEN times. It might be more valuable advice for her to at least look into the image she is projecting because that might have LOTS to do with it. OUr personal image to the world means A LOT. Men can't make one his mistress without a willing partner. Even if she doesn't know that is what is goig on at first, sometimes you gotta open your eyes to see the vibe the man is putting out there. Now don't get me wrong, i'm not saying these guys aren't jerks, but it is better to take a look at ourselvevs and the role we play over what happens in our lives vs saying "its all them,i 'm innocent". Ten times to be the other woman is a pretty steep number. Not the norm.
Hopefloats Posted October 3, 2007 Posted October 3, 2007 My first love said to me last week: Your like Madonna.. at best, goodlooking but with massive sex appeal, its more prominent than ur personality. My second Love: I cant resist you... you get 'me' and i fancy u, but your never enough.. One of my favorite quotes, that a good friend said to me after a break up is... "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." ~Eleanor Roosevelt It's so true and I think, with what other men have told you, you need to start believing that! You can't be the other woman, if you portray some sort of confidence and find this unacceptable. Stop accepting this as being a part of "who you are"; stop wondering what's wrong with you - and merely change how you view yourself.
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