My ONE friend is a bum!

[puff.tm.dragon]

My ONE friend is a freakin bum! He does absolutely nothing. When i ask him to hang out he prefers to hang out at his house and do almost nothing. I encourage him to GET OUT OF THE HOUSE every time I'm over but all he does is complain about money. Like oh how he doesn't want to spend $5 for freakin Pop-eyes chicken or if we went to the cinema he would talk about his $9 instead of how good the movie was. He's a freakin single child that still lives with his loaded mommy that makes 300k a year doing 2-3 pharmacy jobs.

 

All he does is sit at home and watch TV or play old Playstation 2 games. He is clueless. He's trying to make new friends and even talk to girls but I think he's losing motivation. I encourage him but he doesn't like to take advice at all.

[natalie121687]

I know many guys like that.......I don't know why they'd want to waste their time doing nothing at home or playing video games but hey if that is what they want, whatever! But if he is looking for a girl, I don't think many like guys who sit home all day playing video games! I'm sure there has to be SOMETHING the guy likes to do. Maybe he's into nature...or art...? There are lots of free ways to enjoy things outside of the home, he just needs to try. P.S. If he smokes weed that is the number one problem RIGHT THERE!!

[MadGenius]

I am cheap beyond all reckoning. I don't like to spend money. I do go to alot of movies though, and I dropped 40 dollars on a night with some friends on Monday.

 

Umm...I guess I'm not so cheap. Remind him that money is for spending, not filling your vault with and swimming in it.

 

And call him a chump. That will make him mad.

 

edit: Steal his weed, and make him go out to get some more.

[jengh]

i have one ? for you...if he's everything you say he is...why do you continue to hang out with him? He sounds annoying and like a waste of time.

[puff.tm.dragon]

i have one ? for you...if he's everything you say he is...why do you continue to hang out with him? He sounds annoying and like a waste of time.

 

Well I don't really have anyone else. We're really close. I can come over and raid his fridge. I know his mom well. I can even sleep over whenever I want. We drive each other's cars and talk about almost everything. I think he's depressed though because all I do is talk about girls and he can't ask one out. He doesn't want my advice. He pretends to listen and never really apply them. And if I leave him he will have no one either. We're just two lonely souls. His mom would ask where I've been or how come I don't come over as much when I think like you do.

[itsallgrand]

My own best female friend has fallen into this too. And she makes more money than me, with less responsibilities as she lives with family. No expenses!

 

Seeing how I've had a rather long, rough patch I have been keeping my mouth shut for a good long while.

It used to be a more even balance. But I've been spending a lot of time on my comp when not working. grr. My bad.

 

Now, tho, after so many offers turned down, her being fashionably late so much, the perpetual "why don't you just come to my house?", the phone calls that get replied to when she feels like it bc she is busy (on the phone. a lot.) , I'm working up my nerve to talk to her.

 

I'm a bit older than you puff, but know the closeness you are talking about. I even lived with her family for a while, back in the day in between one apartment and another. We've been like sisters.

 

She got used to me being the initiator on outings, and I got used to her way of really being there for me. We've shared a lot. I don't have any blood sisters.

 

I'm going to try and talk to her. People take different paths and make different choices sometimes. It's happened before. But no way am I gonna resent her for it. I think I need to tell her how I feel.

 

I'm not exactly sure how guys work this out . This is what I'm going to try tho. Cause at the end of it, I care for her too much to just walk away and would like her in my life somehow - but some new balance needs to be struck.

 

Like her meeting me out sometimes. lol.

[rbr85]

It's a possibility your friend might be depressed, or suffering from some sort of anxiety disorder.

[Shin kensen]

I'm a bum also, but I don't use "money" as an excuse... It IS an excuse (or at least you're making it sound like it is for him.) I use "work" as my excuse, which is bullshunt (bloody censoring, we can say weed, heroine and suicide, but not poop). for anyone who knows me, because I am very smart so it doesn't take me long to do my work. That said, I pay for everything myself (I have a loan), except my parents pay for the rent (thanks dad )

 

But regardless, I also sit at home, watch a LOT of TV shows, I mean a LOT. Can be like 10 hours a day. I go to bed very late, wake up late, when I live with my parents (during holiday time) I usually get shouted at to do stuff, which I'll then do, but it just means I go to bed later. When I'm back at uni, living with my flat mates, I do so very little.

 

Nontheless, I have plenty of friends, and go out socialising when I feel like it, get a girl here and there, does it make me happy? not usually, I prefer staying in most of the time, but hell, really the reason I go out is to meet more people, like me, so we can just bum around drink nd smoke while we watch films and listen to music.

 

 

 

 

Everyone with some kind of upset is depressed these days, or got a disorder, I doubt he has, he's just lazy and can't be bothered supporting himself, so he leeches. I bet he's got nothing to get up for in the mornings, that's the main problem. (at least it's mine)

[Postive-Aura]

Well its a tricky situation , i would say set him up with a girl or like fix a double date he might like getting out once he has experienced and woman hehehe much better than a ps2 although A PS3 IS QUITE close hehehe.