What do i say?

[stacie]

There's this guy that sits behind me in like 4 classes and i really like him but i've never actually talked to him. All my friends think that we would be a cute couple and that i should ask him out, but since i've never talked to him i think i should get to know him first. I'm really shy and i don't know how to initate a conversation with him. What should i do?Do you think i should ask him out?

[Mar]

I think you should start out with a simple "hello", first....lol Forget about asking him out.....get to know him first, and find out if this is a guy who you truly DO like, past looks, and who you have something in common with.

 

Start out with a simple "hi", maybe try to initiate a conversation about the classes you share, the teachers, etc. See how he responds. BE CONFIDENT. Granted, shyness is awfully hard to overcome, but men admire confident women, same as women admire confident men.

 

If you get a favorable response to small talk, casually ask if he wants to go for a coffee or something after school one day....baby steps. You don't want to jump into unknown waters, after all!

 

 

Mar

[OmegaMan]

I'd go with Mar advices. I think you should try at the very least to talk to him. Make your own luck you know. Don't let shyness prevents you from doing something you want, because frustration is going to come up next and that's much worse.

 

Omega Man

[Happy_Go_Lucky_Heb]

Hey stacie, remember me happy

 

Yea Mar's basically got the conversation flowing, I'd go with easy stuff like your surroundings because that's where you are and its easier to talk and people will feel easy about it too. However, I don't feel that you have to be confident, its best if you do but if he knows that you like him (which there is a chance) then it seriously won't matter if you're shy because then you can give him a chance to be less shy as if you seem really confident there's a chance that he might be shy about it. However everyone's different so it really depends on you two.

 

And for your doubts on asking him out:

 

Isn't life all about takin chances? you shouldn't think about things, just do it because you know, chances are you'll never be able to predict the future. But life's just too short, screw thinkin twice.

 

What if he's just feelin what u're feelin, someone's gotta spill it out sonner or later, sure u might screw ur friendship ova for a while but at least he'll kno and u might get a chance in the future. Like me, I was in the same situation and now me and my really good friend's togetha.

 

And plus, you have no friendship right now so there's nothing to destroy. But its really up to you, wether you want to have a friendship first and know each other better or go out first and totally learn things about each other way faster than a friendship (I'd go with the relationship).

 

I think it's just you thinkin too much and worrying about things before they surpass but I suppose, sometimes people like to be prepared even though there's just way too many possiblities lol "ooh.. the possibilities" - some sorta toy ad catchphrase. Anyway, right back to this, even if u do worry, somethin else you might not b prepared for might occur, then wouldn't it have been a waste of time?

 

I think you should tell, coz you know it's definitely the best way i reckon. Because that way you wouldn't waste your time, if he says no, u'll know what he feels sooner and plus, even if he says no, at least he knows you like her and now so he could reconsider.

 

Don't think twice. Go for it. Like I said, life's way too short once you get down to it.

 

'luck

 

Happy Heb

[stacie]

Hey! Thanks for all the help..i think im going to go with what Heb said..but how would i bring something like that up??

[Happy_Go_Lucky_Heb]

Hey stacie! Heb here

 

In case you ever have doubts or things don't work quite as planned, read through my response again and you'll realise that you actually have less to loose that way (i've put up arguments for that in it already).

 

It really depends on wether ur shy or not. Everyone's shy in a way anyway so maybe that wasn't a good question.

 

I think maybe you should just ask him out somewhere, not mention how you feel yet. Someplace casual and don't make it sound like bf/gf status yet, more of a casual friendship thing. At the end of the night, make a choice, is he who you think he is, do you like him like that? If you like what you've seen already, then tell him that you don't want to be friends, you want to be more and hope that he'll feel the same way.

 

I'm sure you will think up what to do or say, if you want more help, be more specific so I can help you better. I'm not sure what you want to do or say but I know I can give you way more suggestions.

 

Happy Heb