WOMEN: What do you consider sexy (sex-appeal) in a man?

[OmegaMan]

This is probably going to sound very much so superficial, and in a sense it is, but I'm very curious about that. Actually, most men are I believe. So share your wisdom with us women, tell us, what do you consider sexy in a men? Or what turns you on the most? (extremely cheesy line I realise, but bear with me, english isn't my birth language )

 

This may include behaviours, personnality traits, certain physical parts ( yeah, I know this sounds very suggestive, just think in a global sort of way ok )

 

Keep those reply comin'

 

I will read impatiently to read them,

 

OMEGA MAN

[Colls]

I like a guy who carriies himself well and isnt afraid of the world. The biggest turn off is a guy who walks with his head down or cant look you in the eyes. It drives me absolutely crazy to try and talk to a guy when he is too insecure to look me in the eyes and give his opinion. Having said that, a guy doesnt always have to agree with me, speak whats on your mind dont be afraid to be different. A sense of humor is the buggest turn ON for me, it shows confidence, and just that I could have a good time with this guy.

 

As for MY personal physical traits that I like in a guy, IMO, i like a clean shaven guy, with muscles but not over muscular, nice smile, nice eyes. I like the dark hair type, blondes arent MY first choice, but thats not necessarily for every guy I come accross. I am not attracted to long hair, messy dress, untaken care of, and dirty clothes ( lol ) it shows that he does not take care of himself and that he may be lazy.

 

This is all just my opinion, many different woman have many different tastes. Hope I helped.

[OmegaMan]

This is exactly was I wondering about, thank you Colls. What would you consider too muscular anyway? I guess I'd better stop wearing dirty stinky clothes then (joke!)

 

C'mon people, tell us what you think

[Mar]

Colls is absolutely right. I'll add to that and say that I truly enjoy a man who has a sense of humor (because who doesn't like to laugh?) and can laugh at himself, as well. Someone who can listen without distraction, and can give you all the time you need for a problem you trusted enough to share, without interjecting your own personal story, completely invalidating that trust. Someone who can make a fool of themselves and laugh it off and not get angry. Someone who's considerate to strangers (GREAT way to tell someone's character, if you see someone who goes out of their way for a stranger), someone who can admit when they're wrong without arguing ferociously, (and no, I haven't forgotten the original question, this truly IS all stuff that makes someone sexy to me.....lol) someone who can show PDA's without it being considered "unmanly", someone who can stray from the "norm" and watch "chick flicks", etc., without it being a blow to their masculine pride....

 

There are a lot of subtle things that may not be considered "sexy" by most, but are to me, at least. As far as physical traits, that's easy: I like height, a decent body (by no means perfect, since mine's not, just not grossly out of shape), nice teeth, strong forearms, long legs (yeah, women like legs too....my fiance's got GREAT gams......lol), and a nice butt!!

 

Mar

[OmegaMan]

Mar

 

Mar, allow me to drinking from your fountain of knowledge as once again, your reply was most helpful Again, I bow to your wisdom and thank you for your advice.

 

From your number one fan! \

 

What about all of you women out there, do you like the same things as Coll and Mar or different things?

 

Omega Man

[Hope21]

One attractive trait that stands out to most is if you carry yourself confidently. I think that most people like someone who has traits that they admire. Granted, they also must be attracted to that person. It is different for everyone.

[tomekk]

lmao @ Mar you would love me then, i make a fool outa myself all the time and laugh at it 8)

[optimistic person]

I love a man with a high self esteem, beening understnding knows what is best for both of us.

 

BUT in terms of trust I don't trust guys very much about 5% out of 100%.

I had certain experiences in life thereforeeee I don't trust them.

 

For example. so you would know what I am taking about this a a few.

 

1. Relationship 2 yrs, i was at secondary school, was only getting $7 to take to school, and my bf asked me for money every week saved my money and bought a chain from that for me and stole his mom's pendent to put on it.

 

2. Had his guy, we kissed and we made out (used a condom) but lastly if found out he had an STD.

 

3. Had his guy, he had another girl i don't know about, she got vex with her so when they went to have sex he cut off the tip of the condom (cause he was vex) and got the female pregnant and told me that it was not his child and made the female feel like if she does not know who the child was for.

 

4. Had a guy that when to prision for killing a man lately the police found the man and the guy was free but not until 3 yrs.

 

5. Had a guy that almost make me go off insane because he had another female that i did not like and she was 5 yrs younger than me, lied to my mom sayong that they were not in a relationship and then if foung out that he bought her a samsung cell phone for $600 that was christmas so he could not buy anything for me because he had no money.

 

6. Had a guy that all me wanted was sex and unprotected sex and because i said no he got vex and left the relationship.

 

So I DON"T TRUST MEN. ok

[Happy_Go_Lucky_Heb]

Hey everyone, happy here

 

Glad I found myself this interesting topic. Its one of those things everyone wonders about... Thanks a lot.

 

Everyone: Nice, a lotta insighful posts

 

Omega Man: Great topic!

 

Optimistic person: Don't loose hope in guys, I'm totally not like the guys you've met and there's gotta be more people like me out there. I really do feel for you, I hope one day that you'll find a guy who you'll come to trust, one who'll treat you right and make you happy. But first, you'll have to learn to trust them just a little bit, or else how are you going to find that someone special?

 

Happy Heb

[Princess777]

Greetings,

These are just MY preferences, OK??

I am attracted to a guy who can look me in the eyes when he talks to me, not at my other body parts so I know he's sincere and who has a friendly smile, not slimy or deceptive. Someone who has good values, who is honest and loyal, who follows through with what they say, someone I can trust, who treats me with respect, appreciates what I do for him, and cares about his looks and hygiene. Someone who is not only after sex, because I can get that from any guy, he has to show me that he is different from the normal dogs. As far as an initial attraction, if he doesn't look at me like a piece of meat but looks at me with wonder and admiration in his eyes, says something respectful and complimentary without sounding corny, that's always interesting. Intellectual conversation is a major component for me... and the ability to take care of everyday issues without being told or asked is a big plus. The ability to make decisions is a huge factor also and is very underrated in a relationship..... we ladies don't want to have to decide every single time where to go to eat or whatever. A man in charge really turns me on. Someone who'll say, "Baby, I'm gonna take you out and show you a great time tonight, we're going to go to this certain place, etc.". A man who plans ahead has an advantage in my view because it shows that he was thinking of me all day, wondering how he could impress me or do something nice for me. I do a LOT for my man and am extremely loyal, probably spoil him too much because I am very loving, and I want him to do the same for me and not take me for granted.

Physical and visual stimulations for me include a great smile, nice eyes, clean cut or a well-trimmed goatee, very stylishly dressed, nice shoes, clean socks - yes, guys, we look when you take your shoes off!, clean fingernails, broad shoulders and nice muscles but not too big like the body builder look, and I prefer him to be taller than me.

Sexually he has to be very attentive and he know what he's doing, while being passionate and caring, and not just bolting out the door as soon as it's over.

Good self-confidence with a little bit of jealousy thrown in there is cute. I gotta know that he's slightly afraid of losing me.

One thing that keeps me so in love with my husband is his sense of humor.... he is always acting silly whether we're out in public or alone, just to make me laugh and does not care what anybody thinks as long as I am smiling. Making me smile makes him happy and he says that's his mission.

Wow, reading this back I sound kind of picky.... sorry!

Hope some of this helps.

Princess777

[OmegaMan]

I had written a whole paragraph but the whole thing crashed!

 

Optimistic

 

Would you mind telling a bit more of what you perceive as sexy/sex appeal in a man? From what I've read so far, you've had many experiences, so maybe you could share a bit more of your wisdom. I must admit your reply didn't completely satisfy my curiosity .

 

Happy

 

It is popular isn't? 220 views! I'm glad people are gonna learn something from this, I know I am.

 

Princess

 

Thank you for the insight and taking the time to type all of the information!

 

I wonder what is going to come up next?

 

OmegA MaN

[sisterlynch]

I like guys who are friendly but somewhat protective of themself. If a guy is sort of big and flashy, I always figure out that they will cheat. That would be too painful. So I like guys who are entertaining and easy to understand. Sweet, gentle, passionate, submissive! These are the traits that I look for in a guy, personality, but not the top dog type! I don't want someone moody or unpredictable. These guys are just trying to push your buttons. I like a guy who is open with his feelings and those feelings are mostly positive toward me and the world in general.

 

I also like guys who know where they stand with others. I don't like the little boys who always need reassurance that what they are doing is either right or wrong...most of us has a little voice inside us that tells us when we are pushing the limits and to back off.