breaking down...

[jinxz]

im currently getting over the first girl i ever loved, and i see her on msn and i see her name having something to do with this situation, and i want to make sure shes ok, but i cant talk to her anymore or ill never get over her. everytime the phone rings im wishing its her wanting to try to fix things, i feel really empty and depressed, but usually only when im by myself when i have time to really think about it, which is the basis of my problem, what can i do to keep my mind off of her ? i already do somethings, but when im not doing those what else can i do? its really getting to me and i duno what ot do... thanks

[justagirl]

Hey jinkz

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Things will get better, no worries.

There really isn't anything you can do to not think about it. your minds way of healing is to think and analyze until everything comes together and you get an understanding of what went wrong and what happened. If you just recently broke up, you are probably in shock of what is going on, so you are constantly thinking about it. Try taking up a physical activity such as running, golf, working out, or a sport. Since you have to think while doing any of those activities you will be preoccupied with thinking about what you are doing instead of what you are missing and the hurt you are feeling. Also excersice will boost your endorphine level, and will lessen the depression you are experiencing. The emptiness will fade away eventually. I hope this helps a tiny bit. Best of luck.

~*Justagirl*~

[jinxz]

thanks alot for the advice, i know physical activities help alot, i try to keep busy and active, but the majority of the stuff i do either depends on weather, or my gym class. i do alot of skateboarding, its really the only time when i can just forget about everything and just calm down. today has been the worst day by far because i got a final good bye letter from her in the morning... dont get the wrong idea though, its not like we dont love each other anymore, or someoen did somehting wrong, its just that under the circumstances im getting really hurt and i cant save our relationship anymore, and i had to say good bye. after i read the letter i totally broke down, i was sitting outside in the rain for a long time until a guidance counsellor saw me out there and brought me inside, i was reluctant to talk about it, but after i did i felt better. its really hard to stay at school while this is happening because im not myself and im not to fun to be around ,and also i always see her, even though i try not to look. im getting help from my guidace counsellor, i have an appointment later htis week, now im just trying to do all the things i heard about, like talking to peple about it, trying to forget, keep busy, be around people who care about you etc. hopefully i can get trhough this, but i really love her with all my heart andi miss her to death.. and its only been 1 day... thanks for reading

[justagirl]

you're welcome for reading, anything to help. Well considering its only been 1 day, you are going to have good days and bad days dealing with this. Just try to keep your head up and stay busy. It will get easier to be at school. Don't force yourself to get over her, it'll happen naturally. I really do hope you feel better...at least a bit.

~*Justagirl*~