Seeing A Therapist

[alwaysthegirlfriend]

So I decided that maybe it's time to see a therapist about my relationship problems also some issues at home.

 

I suggested once that me and him see a therapist about what happened in our relationship and he said "I don't think we need counseling we can fix things on our own."

 

When we decided to take a break which we are still on he finally admitted to seeing a therapist for a couple weeks now. I told him I thought he said he didn't want counseling. Maybe he just didn't want to go to couple's counseling.

 

Now that he is attending counseling and seeking help. I was starting to think maybe I should tooo. Not only to improve our relationship but to also improve on me. I have a lot of self esteem issues and a lot of negativity that I have inherited from my family.

 

I am the youngest of three but I feel like I am way older that both my siblings who both are married and have kids. I feel like I'm not my age and feel way way older. Now that I am back at home I miss having a life again. I am back to babysitting my siblings kids. Don't get me wrong I love my nieces to death but sometimes I just feel like shouting 'THEY ARE NOT MY KIDS TAKE CARE OF YOUR OWN KIDS!"

 

I gues I have more issues other than just me and his relationship. I looked online and shopped around. $75 dollars a session of 50 minutes. I don't think I can afford to go every week but maybe every other week if I save or just once a month.

 

Any thoughts? Has anyone else been through counseling? Any suggestions of a therapist in the San Diego area?

[Gath]

I am the youngest of three but I feel like I am way older that both my siblings who both are married and have kids. I feel like I'm not my age and feel way way older. Now that I am back at home I miss having a life again. I am back to babysitting my siblings kids. Don't get me wrong I love my nieces to death but sometimes I just feel like shouting 'THEY ARE NOT MY KIDS TAKE CARE OF YOUR OWN KIDS!"

 

I don't really have anything to say about the therapist, but you should not allow your family to turn you into their unpaid childcare.

 

I think you'd be better off sitting alone at the mall, or maybe at a bookstore or a park, than letting them do that to you. Some people will walk all over you if you let them, and you need to stand up and make it stop. I've got relatives who routinely do this to my uncle, and i hate it. They would never do it to me, but for years they'd dump stuff like that on him. It is disrespectful, rude, and irresponsible. There's nothing wrong with watching them now and then, but you need to remind them that you have your own life to live.

[alwaysthegirlfriend]

I don't really have anything to say about the therapist, but you should not allow your family to turn you into their unpaid childcare.

 

I think you'd be better off sitting alone at the mall, or maybe at a bookstore or a park, than letting them do that to you. Some people will walk all over you if you let them, and you need to stand up and make it stop. I've got relatives who routinely do this to my uncle, and i hate it. They would never do it to me, but for years they'd dump stuff like that on him. It is disrespectful, rude, and irresponsible. There's nothing wrong with watching them now and then, but you need to remind them that you have your own life to live.

you are right I occasionally do stick up for myself and tell them I can't cause I'm going out. But when I'm not out and just at home I feel like I have not choice. My brother watched me when I was younger when our parents went to work and now that he has his little girl I feel like it's my turn to watch his kid cause he took after me when I was younger.

 

Maybe you are right and I should just go to the bookstore or sit at the beach just so that I have a place to go. I get really tired of watching their kids. I'm only 23 I should be going out and having fun not being a young single mom.