What helps when you're really hurting and sad?

[dan39]

 

 

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[Entropy Smith]

1)I personally smoke w--d...but do know in some places in this universe that may be against da law.

 

2)Talk to someone

 

3)Surf it down, until it passes, use harm reduction

[soulseeker86]

Let it out, cry as much you want cuz holding it in will just make it worse.

And find a close friend u can talk to. A counsler is also helpful.

[evepm]

smoking pot actually has an after effect of depression.

 

Is there something specific that is making you feel this way?

[creaminthecoffee]

Eat a lot of ice cream and cookies, yum...No, jk

Go find someone you're very close to/cares about you a lot, and go tell them. I swear, just telling someone will help you feel better. Crying or any sort of emotional release would help as well- I sob dramatically while my bf plays the drums like a maniac-don't ask. Try doing something like that.

You might also want to do something soothing and relaxing such as taking a nice warm bath, and then going to sleep for a while. You might feel better when you wake up

[Lana0120]

Doing something that makes you laugh, like watching a really funny film or just one that gives you that feel good sensation.

[Entropy Smith]

smoking pot actually has an after effect of depression.

 

evidence please...

[creaminthecoffee]

Going back to what Lana said, she's completely right. Personally I love comics like Calvin + Hobbes and Garfield. You could also go see Superbad- it's supposed to be really funny.

[dan39]

smoking pot actually has an after effect of depression.

 

Is there something specific that is making you feel this way?

 

 

 

I was alright at first but now I'm feeling crappy and finding it hard not to think of the good times and all the things I'll/we'll never do again.

 

It's too late to speak to a friend. I do feel really lonely though. I'm not looking forward to trying to sleep tonight. Oh dear it sounds pathetic

[onewithbooks]

Depends. If I havent had a good cry, I go and have a good cry. I watch a sad movie, and let myself wallow a bit. I listen to music that fits my mood. I make comfort food. After I start feeling better I up the ante on the music and start dancing to some happy tunes.

[Optigan]

Sleep. Work (anything useful). Nice food. Fleetwood Mac. A good book. ...

[JFk]

Comfort food only leads to unhealthy habbits. Personaly I just blast music (not fall out boy or any of that other emo music about breaking up) and just get angry. Just let it out, cry, get pissed, just blast your music and let whatever you feel come out, just get angry and reassure yourself that whatever your facing is an easy obstical and that if its an argument, or a breakup that your the one whos right and turn everything aginst the other person. Just know that you will soon be a far better and happyer person. Anger isn't the best habbit but sometimes you need a narrow one sided view of life to pull you though the darkness and help you rebuild.

[onewithbooks]

Comfort food only leads to unhealthy habbits.

 

Too much of anything is not healthy, to that I will agree. However to say that comfort food only leads to unhealthy habits is very stereotypical. Who says comfort food has to be unhealthy? For me one of the best comfort food is homemade vegtable soup, and its very healthy.

 

 

reassure yourself that whatever your facing is an easy obstical and that if its an argument, or a breakup that your the one whos right and turn everything aginst the other person.

 

There are two sides to this. I get what you are saying, I really do, but to convince yourself that you were right and turn everything against the other person, well, I disagree with that. I dont think that that is always wise.

 

 

Anger isn't the best habbit but sometimes you need a narrow one sided view of life to pull you though the darkness and help you rebuild

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I agree anger isnt the best habit, but I believe that its a step in the healing process and that its ok to have anger, as long as you can get past it so that you can heal.

[Nixee]

CRY. seriously.. I don't care if you are male, female, butch, macho or sensitive and emo. CRY. Let it out. Listen to music that makes you cry... makes you wallow. Watch a sad or touching movie.

 

THEN... when its all out.. be still for a bit. Meditate for a moment. Talk to someone really close. Get a hug, get several hugs.

 

Then the next step... the really important one... LAUGH. Watch a movie that always cracks you up... watch some stand-up comedy... hang out with friends who always make you laugh. Actuallly... speaking of stand up, Dane Cook has a bit about "we all cry" on his Vicious Circle show. If you like his stuff, you might relate to it and laugh a lot. If you don't like him.. watch something/someone you like.

 

Anyhow... that is what helps me

[Shin kensen]

[...] smoke w--d...but do know in some places in this universe that may be against da law.

 

i second that motion

[dan39]

Thanks for the suggestions people they were helpful

 

I gave up smoking weed two years ago.. that required a lot of discipline and I'm a much better person for it, so I'm not about to throw that away.

[Theartofforgetting]

watch a documentary of starving children in Africa. It will make all your worries go away cuz you realize your worries are nothing compared to having flies swarming you while you're starving.

 

Does this sound bad?

[Aurian]

That one kinda sucks because in addition to feeling sad, you feel like sh*t with guilt for being sad about something "trivial" in comparison to THAT.

 

Pain is pain. You can`t measure it and feel better because its not as bad as someone else's pain.

[Nixee]

watch a documentary of starving children in Africa. It will make all your worries go away cuz you realize your worries are nothing compared to having flies swarming you while you're starving.

 

Does this sound bad?

 

Actually, I think I get this. its the idea of making yourself feel small. The world is much bigger than you, and the problems the world round are much bigger than yours.

Just the thought of how many BILLIONS of people are on the planet... and how many of them have felt like you do right now, and then how many of them have way worse problems... yeah... that often shuts me up fast.

 

Of course then I start to feel guilty for not being a more helpful human being.

And of course, the way to get over crippling guilt is to go back to being self-centered right?

[Theartofforgetting]

Actually, I think I get this. its the idea of making yourself feel small. The world is much bigger than you, and the problems the world round are much bigger than yours.

Just the thought of how many BILLIONS of people are on the planet... and how many of them have felt like you do right now, and then how many of them have way worse problems... yeah... that often shuts me up fast.

 

Of course then I start to feel guilty for not being a more helpful human being.

And of course, the way to get over crippling guilt is to go back to being self-centered right?

 

exactamente!!!!!

i've been to over 20 countries, mostly developing ones. I am barely ever sad or mad at life because I know where I am is paradise. I have food on the table. I have a job. There are doctors around me. I'm not sleeping in the streets. I have all the reasons to be happy, not sad. And then I think to myself, whats the point of being sad? Is that going to change the circumstance? NO IT DOESNT!!!! don't worry, be happy, cuz every little thing, is gonna be alright~

[itsallgrand]

I dunno..sometimes it helps me to go for a walk to the hospital and just chill in the outside area. Look around, notice that I'm not the only one going through some pain at the moment, and get some perspective.

 

Though the cry, hug, laugh is a very sound suggestion. Gonna try that more often.

[Jess...]

 

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Music helps me.

[Desiderata]

Music helps me too. So does baking actually. When I'm really stressed or sad I bake things and it works out great because everyone on the floor of my dorm comes running and I get to share what I've created.

 

I also dance around my room aimlessly to fun songs and as for the music, I just listen to songs that my friends and I love and sing along. These are just things when I'm generally sad, but when I'm sad about my ex I just think about everything great that I have in my life. Or I post on here, which is given.

[Jess...]

Music helps me too. So does baking actually. When I'm really stressed or sad I bake things and it works out great because everyone on the floor of my dorm comes running and I get to share what I've created.

 

I also dance around my room aimlessly to fun songs and as for the music, I just listen to songs that my friends and I love and sing along. These are just things when I'm generally sad, but when I'm sad about my ex I just think about everything great that I have in my life. Or I post on here, which is given.

 

I'd come running!! lol.

 

I love to dance around too, in the comfort and privacy of my bedroom with the door shut tightly haha! I get out the hairbrush, or the can of hair mousse, and off I go, pretending I'm Delta Goodrem hahaha, always makes me feel better.

 

Everyone should do that I think, its great fun!

[bubblyblonde11]

A good cry

 

An excellent comedy or stand up comic

 

Being around happy people or just calling up a friend

 

Shopping

 

A good swim or run at the gym followed by steam & jacuzzi

 

Worst case = a cigarette and bottle of wine!