the exclusive question!

[lovinmylife]

hey,

 

ok so how do you "ask" if we are or can go exclusive with a fella that you've only been with for a couple of weeks and really dont want to seem to heavy or scare him off????

 

please i need your help!....need more information...just ask!!

 

thanks!

[Lana0120]

I think that if you know he is seeing other people, then it means he isn't as serious about you. Otherwise, you'd be exclusive already and wouldn't need to ask? I am sure there will be some better feedback on this, but that's my opinion.

[lovinmylife]

thanks for the reply...well i kno his not been wit neone since me! and ive not been with ne1 since him! he seems interested but dono is it just a bit of fun for him...i kno i should just ask just dono how without scaring him off!HELP!

[Entropy Smith]

Don't ask...make him ask you...create some space...don't return his phone calls right away...no email volleys 30 pages long...he wants a challenge...so relax have some fun and give him one...

[Lana0120]

I agree with Entropy. It sounds like things are going just nicely now and if you just take it as it comes, he may broach the subject with you, or indicate with his behaviour that you are indeed exclusive. I think it's all about being patient here.

[Adoes]

well when i meet my girlfriend we were seen each other for a month until all her girlfriends asked us if we were going out. i wanted to ask her but i just thought that seen so how we looked like a couple maybe i didn't have to ask her. anyway getting back to the story so after we left her friends house in the car she asked me with a bit of studder in her voice. and i said yes and a weight was lifted off my shoulder. so the moral is get your friends to ask him when hes going to ask you out. then right after get him too or ask him your self. he might be afraid of the word "commitment" but not afraid to do it.

[Lily04]

hmm i think there's different stages of commitmnet...you may just start dating someone and sayyou're in a relationship but it's still fairly casual,and you can still see other people IMO... you are 'seeing someone' but there's less of a commitment. i.e. you're not 'exclusive' yet. so if you are in a relationship with someone... you don't have to get into all the commitment issues yet.. just my take on it

[sunnyday66]

i didn't ask until we'd been dating 2 months... and i told him about how when i was out some other guy asked fo rmy # but I didn't give it to him because I wasn't interested in dating anyone cept him. he said he felt the same way and was glad i said that. just relax... you'll feel when the time's right. a couple weeks is kind of early. its good to take your timein these things.

[Lily04]

i didn't ask until we'd been dating 2 months... and i told him about how when i was out some other guy asked fo rmy # but I didn't give it to him because I wasn't interested in dating anyone cept him. he said he felt the same way and was glad i said that. just relax... you'll feel when the time's right. a couple weeks is kind of early. its good to take your timein these things.

 

thanks i feel the same way