Day 6 of NC and the rollercaoster continues...

[milesaway]

Yesterday was a pleasant day. I finally thought perhaps I may brgin to heal. Although, i woke up this morning and I cant seem to get my ex off of my mind. I am occupied of thoughts if she has even thought about me, does she even remotely miss me? I just wish wish I could get over her? I cant understand how a person could break up with you but tell you they love you so much, consider you one of the most imporatnt people in their lives and a best friend. I thought this is what relationships were built on? Now i just think she was just trying to pacify me.

[stranger75]

I am NC on the 5th days I guess, I feel the same like you. Just be strong! Sometimes they say all those thing not to make you upset because they feel guilt of doing it. If you break your NC trust me it would drive them even futher away, heal youself and if they want you let them crawl back to you if not move on and there are tons of people out there who might love us 10 folds than our exes. We can't see it because we closed our heart for others. Trust me, I felt so bad as if there is no heart left inside now. Last time my ex begged me to stay because the guy she liked showing affection to her best friend. Our exes just using us as a safety net or insurance, if they failed they would come back to you. By breaking the NC, it would show them that indeed you are their safety net so they can say goodbye to you and even call you crazy, stalker etc if you are contacting them because they know you would always be there for them. While they are enjoying newly love things we are here pissed off and crying like wolf.

 

Let this NC heal us and at the same time making them to think how it is like to live without us. You have nothing to lose with NC, either you heal or get back your ex and if you don't get back your ex, you are at least healed and ready to write your own destiny without feeling sad or moody.

 

It is hard trust me, I cried sometimes. Who say men don't cry, they do! Someone so dear to you who loved you now leaving you and most of the time for someone else. It is better happening now not after your marriage and with kids, it would be even worse. You learn and they learn to appreciate things and true loves never die and if you are lucky it would come back and stay with you firmly!

[Clabs]

Hey milesaway - listen to what stranger has to say here.

 

" You have nothing to lose with NC, either you heal or get back your ex and if you don't get back your ex, you are at least healed and ready to write your own destiny without feeling sad or moody."

 

Stranger - that is right on the money. Do this and you put yourself in a win win situation.

 

Great post fella!

 

Mark

[milesaway]

I will continue with NC. I just wonder if she even thinks of me? I know I hve to stick with NC otherwise I will never get over this pain.