Jason1080 Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 I recently started school again after summer, which was great NC. But when I started school recently, my ex lent me her camera and all of a sudden i had the feeling of getting back together, I brushed it off and went home. When i was lying in bed, i could not get the thought out of my head. I know it is gonna be bad and wont work out if i do get back together, but the thought just keeps coming back to me. I returned the camera, she answered with a shy and sad "thanks..." which made it seem like i was a source for her sadness or sth, which made me feel kinda bad. But the thought of getting back together does not leave my mind. It bothers me, why do i want sth that I KNOW will be bad for me? does anybody have any input? Thx in advance Link to comment
CatsMeeoow Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 So why is getting back together with her going to be bad? Obviously there is still attraction on your part. Something in the relationship was left unresolved? Link to comment
dreamguy Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 Why do people eat more than necessary ? why do they smoke ? Why do they speed while driving ? Why do they use drugs ? All those things are bad but they make the person who does them feel better than when they are without them. I am not aware of the details that caused your break up or the intricacies that went on during your relationship but all I can tell you is this: You need to think long and hard before going back to a relationship, whether you are the dumper or the dumpee. You need to make sure the issues that led to the demise of the relationship have been taken out of the way. Otherwise, it's just a matter of time before another break up occurs. I've been there lately... Link to comment
Jason1080 Posted August 29, 2007 Author Share Posted August 29, 2007 Ahh, I forgot the details of the break up here ya go: Status: Dumpee Broke up around 9 months ago from a 3 month relationship she broke up with me because she "lost" her feelings She had a new bf during the summer, but broke up after the summer I dont talk to her, and she doesnt talk to me during school time She has a commitment problem, she never commits to anything, seriously... Link to comment
Muzatsu Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 I'm sorry but 3 months is kinda short for a relationship...I don't know if you created enough history together for her to feel toooooo bad about leaving you. Not meaning to be harsh or negative, I'm trying to be realistic here... Link to comment
Jason1080 Posted August 29, 2007 Author Share Posted August 29, 2007 I'm sorry but 3 months is kinda short for a relationship...I don't know if you created enough history together for her to feel toooooo bad about leaving you. Not meaning to be harsh or negative, I'm trying to be realistic here... I know, but doesnt it count how DEEP the relationship was? I mean if you were with a person which didnt really mean much to you for two years, when compared to a person you loved with all your heart for 6 months, wouldnt you pick the person who you loved more? Link to comment
Up and Down Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 I know, but doesnt it count how DEEP the relationship was? I mean if you were with a person which didnt really mean much to you for two years, when compared to a person you loved with all your heart for 6 months, wouldnt you pick the person who you loved more? Yes it counts for a lot! and obviously it must of affected you deeply if you are 9 months out and still thinking about it. Link to comment
beauty21 Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 Yes. But if she has committment issues, I would think twice. Link to comment
joiboi Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 Ahh, I forgot the details of the break up here ya go: Status: Dumpee Broke up around 9 months ago from a 3 month relationship she broke up with me because she "lost" her feelings She had a new bf during the summer, but broke up after the summer I dont talk to her, and she doesnt talk to me during school time She has a commitment problem, she never commits to anything, seriously... Did you atleast say HI when you sis see her at school?? Link to comment
Jason1080 Posted August 30, 2007 Author Share Posted August 30, 2007 Did you atleast say HI when you sis see her at school?? I tried to, but she just ignores me, so i stopped trying a while ago Link to comment
JUSTBLUE Posted August 30, 2007 Share Posted August 30, 2007 Hey... If anything i would put the 'get back together' thoughts to oneside and think in terms maybe of re-instating a good friendship 1st and foremost. (if you can) U didnt seem to have a bitter breakup If u see her around from now on, say hi or wateva..if she recipocates COOOLL! See how it goes from there. If not then hey u know u both are not n the same wave length. And continue to get on with ur studies/life. Link to comment
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