is this a valid reason?

[idc]

i dont know if this has been said before, but does it ever occur to you girls(not trying to place blame or be threatening) that the reason us guys get jealous is that we don't trust other guys? i mean, we're guys, we know how we think and what we're capable of, is it wrong to be scared of what could happen?

 

i think what a lot of people don't do(not gender specific) is place themselves in their partner's shoes. reverse the roles a little and see how it feels.

[MargaretK]

Of course we know you know, ya know?

 

Thats really not the point. The point is that men should TRUST their girlfriends. If you cannot trust that your woman or gal is not going to cheat on you then there is no point in continuing a relationship.

 

How pointless it all is when you have to come home from a night out (or whatever) and spend an hour having a tiff with your boyfriend because "I know what guys are like, I don't trust other guys!" and the gal saying "You don't have to trust other guys! You have to trust ME! I am your girlfriend and I wouldn't cheat on you!"

 

Ya see?

[Scotcha]

Hmm.. My husband knows I only have eyes for him and trusts me 100%. If he has ever been jealous he's never shown it.

[southerngirl]

It is not wrong for you to feel the way you do. However, you should give your partner trust 100% unless they have shown you reason to do otherwise. You can not use your fears and insecurities as an excuse to try to control her.

[agent1607307371]

is it wrong to be scared of what could happen?

 

What could happen?

 

If you're afraid of a partner being raped, then that's one fear. If you're afraid of her being seduced, then you don't trust her. Plain and simple, and all the 'it's the men I don't trust!!' won't change that.

 

It's not wrong to worry, but it is wrong to try to control your partner through it.

[mizz_sweety]

I hear ya! Of course we get jealous and it is normal to a certain extent, we can't help the way we feel, we need to be able to build up the trust issue with our partners

[free2Bme]

Yeah, I understand what you're saying, but it's not fair to take it out on your girlfriend just cos of the way 'guys are'.

[strwberryshortcke]

It's simple; there is no room for trust if jealousy interferes.

[jellytot]

''i mean, we're guys, we know how we think and what we're capable of, is it wrong to be scared of what could happen?''

 

Straight from the horses mouth.....

 

Now does it ever occur to you, why WOMAN - find it hard to trust men......

 

so a guy gets jealous cos he knows what guys in general are like, but how hypocritical, because that means the guy whos getting jealous, is as bad as the rest of the guys..... mmmmmmm

 

For the record, I think WOMAN are more capable of seducing a man, than a man seducing a woman... A man that pulls moves can come accross really arrogant and pathetic to a woman - but a woman pulling moves on a man - im yet to meet one man that wouldnt LOVE the attention...

[russ978]

i dont know if this has been said before, but does it ever occur to you girls(not trying to place blame or be threatening) that the reason us guys get jealous is that we don't trust other guys? i mean, we're guys, we know how we think and what we're capable of, is it wrong to be scared of what could happen?

 

i think what a lot of people don't do(not gender specific) is place themselves in their partner's shoes. reverse the roles a little and see how it feels.

 

I think that why many women don't understand the jealous nature of most men is, as you said, due to the fact that they don't put themselves in their partner's position.

 

It can also be likewise difficult for a man to have trouble understanding why a woman gets jealous.

 

I don't trust other men around the person I'm dating unless I know them an a personal level but I do trust the person I'm with. For this reason, I generally leave it up to their better judgement as long as it isn't a situation that is screaming with red flags.