why?

[caligirl26]

do guys act like they dont like you, when infact they probably do? seriously what is up with that? there is this guy, and I'm 99 percent sure that he likes me, I just have that gut feeling. Others have told me that he probably likes me but yet he won't admit it. He's constantly teasing me, he's always hanging around me when he gets a chance, he's always waving and smiling and all that stuff, I've caught him starring at me a bunch of times and so have other people...but thats just when we're alone. When there are people around he acts all mean, and doesn't look at me and pretty much talks to everyone but me. He even gave me his number and told me to call him so we could hang out, and when I asked him to hang out he said he would let me know but then he never did. So ya why don't guys just admit when they have feelings for you instead of all these mixed signals?

[nuttybuddy]

i donno.... maybe he doesn't really like you.

[Entropy Smith]

He likes you but is scared of you.

 

He is probably inexperienced and is finding a million reasons why he can't hang out with you even though thats what he really wants to do.

 

Don't call him. Show alittle interest in someone else. When he starts acting mean tell him " you know, its ok if you like me." Stay poised. Don't react emotionally to his taunts.

 

You have to teach guys to behave sometimes, we are alot like dogs only easier to train.

[nuttybuddy]

we are alot like dogs only easier to train.

 

I donno about easier. My bf was pretty resistant to all my good teaching.

 

But back to the topic, if he liked her, why didn't he follow up on her call? don't tell me guys play hard to get!!

[caligirl26]

I donno about easier. My bf was pretty resistant to all my good teaching.

 

But back to the topic, if he liked her, why didn't he follow up on her call? don't tell me guys play hard to get!!

 

yeah well thats the part i dont get. he defintily seems interested and told me to call him to hang out, but then when i actually do it, he doesnt get back to me...maybe he didnt think i'd call him at all and panicked? i dont know...i try to avoid him to get over my crush on him, but he literally finds ways to be around me...

[Entropy Smith]

I already said he was scared to. Once she agrees to hang there is now pressure on insecure guy to impress/perform (in his mind anyway). His fantasy/ego boost he gets off of getting caligirl to call him is interrupted by this thing called reality. If he's communicating by being mean to her in front of friends i'd say his immaturity/insecurity/inexperience is quite evident.

[caligirl26]

He likes you but is scared of you.

 

He is probably inexperienced and is finding a million reasons why he can't hang out with you even though thats what he really wants to do.

 

Don't call him. Show alittle interest in someone else. When he starts acting mean tell him " you know, its ok if you like me." Stay poised. Don't react emotionally to his taunts.

 

You have to teach guys to behave sometimes, we are alot like dogs only easier to train.

 

Yeah, i haven't called him in about two weeks. he hasnt called either but left me a comment on myspace, and then I saw him today. and he was acting like he was before. Infact I asked him why he is always mean to me a few weeks ago and he just said that he likes being mean to people, especially me. but i've never seen him tease or be mean to anyone else...so who knows.

[caligirl26]

I already said he was scared to. Once she agrees to hang there is now pressure on insecure guy to impress/perform (in his mind anyway). His fantasy/ego boost he gets off of getting caligirl to call him is interrupted by this thing called reality. If he's communicating by being mean to her in front of friends i'd say his immaturity/insecurity/inexperience is quite evident.

 

why would he be scared too? I mean im pretty obvious about the fact that I like him. I compliment him and always ask him how he's doing, I've hugged him, asked him to hang out...there is no reason to be scared?

[Entropy Smith]

I can say with metaphysical certitude he likes you. ALOT.

 

His meanness is his intensity for you only reversed.

[caligirl26]

I can say with metaphysical certitude he likes you. ALOT.

 

His meanness is his intensity for you only reversed.

 

well thats good. cuz I like him a lot too. but what am I supposed to do? I've asked him to hang out already and he didnt do anything. I feel like if I keep asking he'll think im desperate or something...really im confused.

[Entropy Smith]

why would he be scared too? I mean im pretty obvious about the fact that I like him. I compliment him and always ask him how he's doing, I've hugged him, asked him to hang out...there is no reason to be scared?

 

You have to look at it from his perspective...insecure guy...he may not be able to get out of his own way in order to express how he feels...don't react to his meanness...it'll start to eat him up and he'll implode and thats when we see if he has the courage to reach out for you or remain a scared insecure guy not willing to put it on the line.

[caligirl26]

You have to look at it from his perspective...insecure guy...he may not be able to get out of his own way in order to express how he feels...don't react to his meanness...it'll start to eat him up and he'll implode and thats when we see if he has the courage to reach out for you or remain a scared insecure guy not willing to put it on the line.

 

 

yeah. he definitly is insecure. infact the one time we did have a real conversation he told me that he never thinks anything good will happen to him so that he wont be disappointed later, and then he totally talked himself down, saying stuff like he is a dork and a horrible athlete and stuff like that... i have no idea why he is insecure, he is very good looking in my opinion and smart..but yeah maybe he doesnt even think i like him...

[Robinson]

bingbing, I think that guy likes you. I would act the same way if there was something that prevented me from acting (eg, not being sure if you are interested in him).

 

Some things:

 

girls do exacly the same thing, only better than us. Some ppl, when attracted, act as defensively as they can. So when that happens the way they behave is the sign you need. Basically if he acts differently with you than with others that's a sign there is something there, no matter if it's overpresense or weird distancing.

 

ppl sometimes fight feelings, for several reasons. Then they act like you describe, trying to cut but not being able to fully do it.

 

Mixed signals is a basic ingridient of flirting, you have to deal with it.

[ghost69]

i used to be like this when i was immature and had a crush on a girl. very classic.

[sddeaston]

i donno.... maybe he doesn't really like you.

 

Hmm, I don't know about most guys, but when I sense my girl is trying to "train" me, it makes me wanna do what she wants less. Usually I stay away from women who feel a need to mold me.

 

Anyways, I probably would say he likes you. I was like this in high school when I liked a girl. Worse, really.