Falling apart. (Probably me)

[willy2002]

Hello. I hope I'm posting in the correct place. I've been with my girlfriend for 9 wonderful months (not a baby, just a coincidence...thank god). She's at college and I'm not seeing her much anymore. We talk everyday for probably an hour total, and I feel like she wants more. The problem is I don't know if I do...Ya see about a week or so ago I was over at a friend's house when she expressed some feelings to me. She had a crush on me, and has had it for quite some time. To tell you the truth, I have liked this girl for quite some time myself. Bottomline: We made out. Unfortunately, this girl is also someone my best friend happens to like. They're in the "dating" stage of things where they go out every once and awhile and spend time together. This girl and I have decided there's no way we can be together right now, and so it should just be put on the back burner on the conditional basis that we'll always keep it right there. So naturally she's moved into her relationship with my friend, but I haven't been able to get back in the swing of things with my own girlfriend. I feel like I'm starting to like my girlfriend less and less each time I talk to her. I KNOW it's horrible, but I just don't know what to do about it. Each time I get a call I can't wait till the conversation is over. She keeps wanting me to come down every other day when I have daily things I have to do....I just don't know if I can pull this all together anymore, and I'm afraid of hurting my girlfriend. I truly do love her. I would HATE to see her get hurt. I'm just stuck and confused. I need someone else's insight on this...and quick.

 

Thanks in advance.

 

-Will

[spinstermanquee]

Dump. Her. Now.

 

Do yourself, and just as importantly, her, a favor and stop this charade. You are just not that into her.

 

As for the other one, doesn't matter, that will sort itself out once you get free if you are really in fact wanting her and not just b/c she was forbidden fruit...

[Daligal83]

I hear you saying that you love your girlfriend, but you sure aren't acting like it. It sounds like if this other girl were available, you would go for it. How is that loving behavior? Be fair to her and let her be with someone who truly does love her and will treat her right. It's not fair to string her along like this. She'll just be more hurt in the long run.

[barbielovesmac]

You love your girlfriend? No, you don't. You cheated on her. It's as simple as that.

 

I feel sorry for your girlfriend. You need to do HER a favor and break up with her before she gets hurt even more. Because you know what? I don't like the saying "what she doesn't know won't hurt." It still hurts. You've already hurt your relationship by cheating on her.

 

It's not fair to her at all.

[Lam]

Willy2002, I'm sorry to say this too, but I agree with barbiegurl87. If your dating someone and your making out with another girl...that's considering cheating and frankly thats wrong.

 

If you were willing to make out with this girl then you do not truly love your girlfriend, because if you did, none of this would've ever happen.

 

You better off to let your girlfriend go now then to drag on this relationship when you think you have less and less feelings for her.