ok here it goes..... things that piss me off about my boyfriend

[Galaxie]

hello, ok first off my boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for six months. he owns his own business and makes quite a bit of money. i on the other hand struggle for the little things i have.

 

the thing that pisses me off is that i go to his house on the weekends and end up doing all his chore inside his house and out. when it comes to things being done at my house he never helps. my car is broke down he has the ability to fix it but doesn't.

 

we go out alot and he will spend money on me then but then later i will hear stuff like i can't afford to do this all the time. i tried talking to him about stuff but don't get anywhere with him.

 

it bothers me cause i feel like i do alot for him and i beginning to think he is very selfish. maybe i should break it off?

[SeaBisquit]

it sounds like your keeping score. you should be doing things for him because you want to. not because you expect him to do something for you in return.

[Aurian]

If you resent doing chores, then what would happen if you stopped?

 

What happens if you try discuss being more equal in helping each other out? You could say that you would love it if he could help you out sometimes as far as being handy goes. If he isn`t able to have a reasonable talk (doesn`t have to agree, but should be able to discuss things at least!), then he might be self-centred.

 

However, just because someone makes more money doesn`t equate that they have to spend more money. They might have more bills (ie, house, car, business expenses, etc) for instance.

[Mavis VDSande]

Why do you do these things then? Why not just stop. If you don't like doing his house chores, don't do it!! Simple as that. You're not his maid or his mother, and it's only been 6 months!!

 

Perhaps you should speak to him (in a non threatening way) to work out how he likes to spend money, what he likes to spend it on and figure out his habits. It shouldn't really be an issue of "he's richer than me", just because he is, it doesn't mean he has to do certain things for both of you. Rather, it seems like you're realising there are differing opinions on helping each other out and spending money.

 

It seems like you're at the 6month post in your rels, good luck!

[flower99]

the thing that pisses me off is that i go to his house on the weekends and end up doing all his chore inside his house and out. when it comes to things being done at my house he never helps. my car is broke down he has the ability to fix it but doesn't.

 

 

well honestly I think is an indicator of the future. It's only been 6 months. this is where you show your best & if he's not returning your kindness & helping you out with your house chores. than that's a indicator of his character.

Sure you shouldn't keep score, but you aren't blind. It's obvious when he doesn't help you. And if he isn't helping at 6 months into the relationship....imagine 6 years later.

 

As far as the car goes....same thing. He has the ability to fix it & hasn't. A car is a big deal, when your car breaks, that's a huge problem. And he hasn't helped you fix it?? that's an indicator of the kind of person he is........Question- Have you asked him to help you with the car? or if he could fix it for you?