What's the Differerence?

[Ocean 22]

I believe in choosing your battles. If you know that a couple weeks or months later you won't remember what the fight was about or how it even started then it's probably not worth bringing up that topic. But when is it worth fighting about versus just being a doormat to be walked all over by not bringing up the issue or letting something your bf say or do something that bothers you?

[Aurian]

Well, do you have to fight about it? If something bothers me, I might make a joke about it with my bf, or simply tell him that something he is doing bothers me. If you keep it low-key, the other person doesn`t usually take offense, especially if they now understand why its bothering you.

 

If its something bigger though, I tend to wait a bit until I see that it might be a recurring issue, then I just initiate a talk about it at a time when we`re both relaxed and at ease. Its easier to talk about things before you get really heated about something, so you both can be cool and accepting of the other's side.

[VeganBohemian]

Well, do you have to fight about it? If something bothers me, I might make a joke about it with my bf, or simply tell him that something he is doing bothers me. If you keep it low-key, the other person doesn`t usually take offense, especially if they now understand why its bothering you.

 

If its something bigger though, I tend to wait a bit until I see that it might be a recurring issue, then I just initiate a talk about it at a time when we`re both relaxed and at ease. Its easier to talk about things before you get really heated about something, so you both can be cool and accepting of the other's side.

 

I do this with my bf. I will casually mention something that he is doing that is bothering me, make light of it, and usually then he is willing to discuss it, debate, and explain WHY he does something. It is an excellent system. We rarely actually FIGHT.

 

He did something like this to me the other night. I never put the cap back on the toothpaste and I also usually leave toothpaste hanging off my toothbrush. Haha. That bothers him a great deal because he always cleans up after me after I brush my teeth. He made a joke about it when I mentioned that I was going to go brush my teeth and because of it, I now put the cap back on and consciously wash my toothbrush.