Lostinthecity Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Hi everyone I met this guy online via an online game, we started talking on Msn and webcam *everyday* for 7 months which started febuary, he is at Uni and he came to meet me this summer twice for 15 days,as he had two months off from uni in summer and usualy spends all holiday with hes parents. He is very close to hes parents, hes father calls him everyday at uni, and this guy seems somewhat imature in respect of hes connection to hes family ( he does most what they command ) Dureing summer we got very close and intimate he was a virgin before this visit to meet me. He has been back at uni now for 12 days and we continue talking everyday and use webcam. dureing hes visit here in August he promised to meet me again at least twice before november at w/e but he wouldnt know excatly when until he got settled into uni routine. I have been asking him for the past week about when he will come again and I cant get any solid answer from him now he just tells me he wants to meet me again but dont no if he can because he is worried about what to say to hes parents when he goes away from uni for w/e as hes never done this before, and he is insecure about uni and telling hes parents, I ask him why he did not think about this in summer when he promised to meet again, he replies by saying he meant what he said at the time. Each time I ask him about meeting again he replies with I want to meet you yes but not sure if I can, then he goes onto say Im not saying I will come and I am not saying I wont come as both would be lies as I just dont know . Iv asked him if he wants me to go away from him and he says no he wants me to stay. im very confused here and am in desperate need of advice. What should I do ? what should I think is this guy useing me ? HELP Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Why don't you suggest going up to uni to spend the weekend with him? If he responds positively, then I would say that he does want to be with you, but is just concerned about what his parents will think of him. If he is less keen, then I would analyse this further. It does sound to me though, like he does like you, but just worries what his parents will think if he spends the weekend away with a girl. Fact is though, they're going to have to get used to this sooner or later! Link to comment
Aaron20b Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 This is why long distant relationships suck. You don't get to see each other as much as you want to. All you can do from here is wait and see what happens. It sounds to me he is not really sure. So maybe you should stop bugging him about it for now and see what he does Link to comment
Lostinthecity Posted August 28, 2007 Author Share Posted August 28, 2007 This is why long distant relationships suck. You don't get to see each other as much as you want to. All you can do from here is wait and see what happens. It sounds to me he is not really sure. So maybe you should stop bugging him about it for now and see what he does Yes I do keep talking about this subject asking if we will meet me again almost everyday its like im terrified I wont see him again and just *need* to hear the words that he IS coming again. am I messing things up by seeking reasurance ? Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Yes I do keep talking about this subject asking if we will meet me again almost everyday its like im terrified I wont see him again and just *need* to hear the words that he IS coming again. am I messing things up by seeking reasurance ? Yes, because it can come accross like you're too clingy and that can make you very unattractive. I still think though, that suggesting you stay with him instead, might be an idea. Link to comment
Aaron20b Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Everyday?? If I were the guy on the receiving end i'd be extremely irritated with you by now. I know you want to see him again. I know you miss him and all but your doing yourself and him no good by bugging him about this issue everyday. Just wait and see what happens. Its all you can do at this point Link to comment
Lostinthecity Posted August 28, 2007 Author Share Posted August 28, 2007 Everyday?? If I were the guy on the receiving end i'd be extremely irritated with you by now. I know you want to see him again. I know you miss him and all but your doing yourself and him no good by bugging him about this issue everyday. Just wait and see what happens. Its all you can do at this point Ok I will stop talking about this to him and wait Link to comment
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