date for friday need pointers

[Diablo7000]

hey whats up i havnt posted soemthing in a while lol but i've become sumwhat better with girls since my lasts few posts there was a girl at the mall i recently got her number, surprise but im not gunna tell the whole story, but the other day i asked ehr for dinner for friday night and she said ya sure, but today i asked hey are you still good for friday and she said well i promised my best friend i'd go to his first varsity football game this friday how about saturday? but im busy saturday and can't pull any strings.. soo she said well im really sorry but you can come to the game if you like? so i'm gunna go to the game with her, i have no idea who anyone there is lol soo im gunna be around her probably most of the night, but if her friends are there ya kno i dnt wanna seem shy and like a loner soo i plan on making the best of the night and if shes got friends there meeting them to show im a very social person and i did something i probably shouldnt have.. i said " Hey is there anything between us or am i stil just that random guy from the mall" and i was surprised at the answer i got back heres what she said, "I'll have to answer that after we hang out. and it will still be a lil bit ebfore im looking for a relationship/ i jsut got dumped recently." soo i didnt get rejected or a big no, soo im still in the game and she does wanna hang out, soo im glad i asked that, cause now i got something to look forward to and know that if i wanna be with her i gotta prove i'm nothing like her ex rite? but idk what all i need to do to prove that besides being nice, showing i'm caring and that i'm an outgoing person and social toward her friends and stuff, anyone agree with that or disagree? any other tips u can give please lay them down, thanks

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

just be who you are and be happy with it

and if she dont like it

 

dismiss her from your presense............and tell her you missed something special

[Diablo7000]

well that was plain and good lol if everything goes well friday im definitely asking for a movie date for next week =) and if i get the chance with that then i'll probably ask her out

 

i might add shes very interested in me and who i am, she's taking alike to my drumming believe it or not, the otehr night she asked how long i been palying and i said sicne i was 3 so thats 15 years and she wrote back wow! lol soo idk she really takes a liking to my intrests and shes a swimmer for school and lifeguard, so i think i done good there =D

[android12]

yea kinda like what sweet_buttabean said...just be yourself. if you act a certain way to show her that you're unlike her ex (who im assuming u dont know anyway so it kinda makes ith ard) then youre not being yourself. stick to who you really are and im sure she'll like you if your kind, funny etc...shes already said yes even though she hardly knows you so just keep acting like the guy she met at the mall. just be careful with the whole talking to friends thing because you dont wanna come accross like your hitting on her best mate cos youre talking to her alot. its your time to get to know HER so make sure u give her attention and when she needs her space to talk to friends, let her know that your there but you can still get along with others without always being by her side. if you do that then im sure ull be just fine ^_^

[Diablo7000]

ya thanks about the friends part ill remember what u said, i can talk to friends but make sure that shes my key target in that situation, and i'm sure that'll come accross to her i favor her alot but yet her friends are cool just like she is, and if i can show them i'm a good person especially to her, they'll favor me to and who knows they may convince ehr to go out with me lol friends are awsome =D

[JeckyllNHyde]

Yea, do what you would normally do. You don't need to do much to show her your not like your ex since I am sure she isn't comparing you guys.

She seems really interested in getting to know you like you mentioned or else I doubt she would invite you somewhere where more friends of hers are. Be yourself, friendly, treat her nicely but not like it's a date.

You did good by directly asking her what's up between you 2, but don't ask her again or for now anyways. Just enjoy her company, and get to know each other and when she is ready to date she will come around, or else you may push her away if you try to get a decision too soon.

[Diablo7000]

oh ya i kno i was jsut finding out if there was a possibilty of us or was that a no, and i've got my answer i wont push or ask anymore trust me i aint like that lol thats not who i am

[Sweet Buttabean Jellayroll]

look man just be calm, play it cool smile and be you

 

if need be i can replace you on the date and show you how its done

 

she can get the whole SBJ effect...........i wouldnt do nutting but be who i am, and who i am is exactly what you see on ENA no different

 

its going too work out be positive be you, have fun first and foremost and look at her as a friend right now

[JeckyllNHyde]

Buy your a jellyroll from the oven

[Diablo7000]

well i showed her im a postivie person she was doing this project last night that was 2 weeks laste and i asked what it was and she said it was this brochure and she was like it's gunna suck tho.. i was like, don't say that, jsut try your best, thats all anyone can ask, and she was like thanks, your so inspiring lol sooo thats a plus, and the other night she was like ya me and my friend heather wen to this concert and i was like who she said sister hazel i was like oh really! and she was like ya u know them? i was like yaa me and sister hazel go waaaay back i still got a cassette from them from when i was like 10 i used to like them alot and she was like thats soo cool cause everyone else i've asked has no clue who they are lol soo guess its good i listen to alota different music too so anotehr plus there, high five lol

[Day_Walker]

Personally that wouldnt have been my approach just to lay it out like that but it appears that there may have been no adverse effect. If you are going to hang out with her friday then what you need to do is just be cool, it appears as though you are going to meet her friends, so have fun with that. There is no need to hang on to her the whole night, give her plenty of space but continue to flirt with her. You have to understand that she is viewing this as a test more than anything else.

[JeckyllNHyde]

^^ I Agree...

[Yates33]

I highly disagree with most of the advice your getting here. To be upfront, this girl sounds like she's being NICE at the most and I think it has to do ALOT with the fact that you asked if there is something between you two when she is still a stranger you met at the mall!!!!

 

Don't wear your heart on your sleeve man. Play it cool. Have fun, being yourself would mean telling her how much you like her...think about it...is that going to work? No. So instead work on ATTRACTING HER. Be fun...have fun...keep things light and go with the flow with NO EXPECTATIONS.

[cosmo_lies]

As most other post said....BE YOURSELF hon!! Smile, have fun and just enjoy her company. Be attentive and kind, ask about herself and whats going on in her life. I am always myself on first dates, even if it means telling silly jokes! If I really like the guy then he needs to know that I am who I am. Take it or leave it.