jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 ok i need some advice. my gf moved from Florida like 2 yrs. ago. and now she lives in the bahamas. we both love each other. unfortunately, shes 1 year younger than me, 17; and she is immature in the sense, she cant stop flirting online. but in real life even her friends tell me she doesnt look twice at any guys. which i am proud of, but what am i supposed to do about her online flirting, like, shes on Teenspot, Stickam; constantly flirting. for example, theres this guy lewis she's talking to that was "singing" to her at like 3am this morning, What the F*ck?. on myspace she was flirting through comments until i confronted her and she now has to Approve all comments [she's deleting all the ones from the dudes]. What do i do? she put stuff on her about me about ME, and her display has my name in it. what more can i do to end this stuff with her flirting online? i mean its only online, and none of them even live on the same island as her. am i just overreacting? PLEASE, i could use someones help on this link removed Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 I can't get your myspace page to load up, so is there any chance you could give us a selection of some of the things that she has said that are flirty? Link to comment
jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 yeah i'll put a screenshoy of her comments, then the kid lewis Link to comment
jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 hers. link removed his in chronologic order. {they wouldnt fit in one pic} link removed link removed and her about me: link removed Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 She does seem quite immature, I'd agree with that assessment. However, the flirting seems like phoney flirting to me, not as bad as I was expecting, so I don't know that it's something I'd worried about? Link to comment
jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 even through him singing to her early in the morning and such? i just wanna make sure its not going any farther than that y'know? i guess im overreacting? Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 I just don't think this myspace stuff is enough to go on. People write all kinds of stuff on there that they don't really mean that they wouldn't say in IMs, e-mails or anything. How much time does she spend each day talking/singing to this guy? The fact that she is flirting with guys who live nowhere near her sounds pretty harmless, but if it makes you feel uncomfortable maybe you need to sit down and ask her why she feels the need to do it. Link to comment
jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 no thats what i mean, i KNOW im overreacting, but i cant make myself realize, its weird, i feel like its too good to be trrue, what i have with her. and there has got to be something wrong, y'know? btw, i really appreciate your input. whats your background? Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 I'm 22 and I live in England. I know what you mean - if something feels like it's really good, you're just waiting for the catch, or for something to go wrong. The fact is, she is a bit immature and she is acting a bit silly, but from what you're saying it sounds like she's really into you and there's nothing to worry about - unless she starts spending more and more time talking to this guy and becomes distant. Link to comment
jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 thanks. when you hear it from more peopl it makes it easier to believe it. my myspace should work now. i had some Javascript, conflicted w. server. made it mad...lol. add me if you can. thanks Lana. Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 It seems overboard. She said things alluding to sexual references to this Lewis guy. It may not mean she wants to be with him or is attracted to him. But come on saying that indicates she has zero consideration for how you would feel. Link to comment
jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 i dont know, i like Lana's explanation, its all phoney, online stuff, none of them live even on the same island as her. whats the worst that could happen? Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 i dont know, i like Lana's explanation, its all phoney, online stuff, none of them live even on the same island as her. whats the worst that could happen? Of course. You want to hear something positive. Like I said it amy mean nothing. However its the disrespect part I would have a problem with. Would she be ok with you telling another girl how she gets you going? To me its a simple issue of respect and maturity. 2 things I look for in a relationship with a woman. Link to comment
jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 yea thats very tru. but how do you make a immature person, mature, y'know. i do mind. i have tried telling her about how the things she says, bothers me. and like i said, now she screens her comments. i dont know what to say to just end it all together Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 yea thats very tru. but how do you make a immature person, mature, y'know. i do mind. i have tried telling her about how the things she says, bothers me. and like i said, now she screens her comments. i dont know what to say to just end it all together What do you mean by "screens her comments"? Truth is YOU cant make ANOTHER person mature. They have to find that themselves. Some people find it sooner than other some dont find it at all. The fact that she was openly disrespectful again would concern me. If it was my GF I would dump her and find another one who lived closer to me and was more respectful. Link to comment
jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 i mean, she made it so she has to Approve all comments first, so she can delete the ones the doesnt want me too see. and no i couldnt do that. theres SOMETHING about her. but yea i do want her to mature, and she told me from the start that she has problems in relationships. and that she was willing to work on them. and were trying, dont know if it is paying off, but were trying Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 i mean, she made it so she has to Approve all comments first, so she can delete the ones the doesnt want me too see. and no i couldnt do that. theres SOMETHING about her. but yea i do want her to mature, and she told me from the start that she has problems in relationships. and that she was willing to work on them. and were trying, dont know if it is paying off, but were trying Then you will have to see where this goes. Life is all a learning experience. Link to comment
jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 i mean it might be ignorant. but its a fork in the road. you dont know where either will take you. and i like taking risks. Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 i mean it might be ignorant. but its a fork in the road. you dont know where either will take you. and i like taking risks. Sure and with experience comes maturity and the ability to take calculated risks. Link to comment
jamesdoe1234 Posted August 27, 2007 Author Share Posted August 27, 2007 thanks man, well i gotta go work out now. link removed its been having some errors today but add me if you can Link to comment
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