Down day

[cabman]

Man....I am really in the dumps today. I have been trying all day to shake the urge to make contact with my ex. I have been thinking about her all day. I am missing her very much. Feelings of sadness and despair are filling my head. I feel as bad as I did a few weeks ago. I wish there were a magic pill.

 

Thanks for listening:sad:

[nuttybuddy]

How long has it been since no contact? I'd say keep at it. You've come this far. It will only get easier as time passes.

[Delia22]

You're not alone there. I've been fighting the urge to pick up the phone and dial his number all morning... I keep wondering if he's missing me as much as I miss him.

 

At least take comfor in the fact that you're not alone in feeling bad today... there's me, you and a thousand others...

[bubblyblonde11]

Hi I have had a couple of down days but am feeling much better today so it does pass hunny.

 

Is there somewhere you can go, some friend you can visit - something to distract your mind from thoughts of the ex, usually works/helps me.

 

xxxx

[cabman]

How long has it been since no contact? I'd say keep at it. You've come this far. It will only get easier as time passes.

 

Tomorrow it will be 2 weeks. All I keep thinking is that I want her back.

 

J...

[cc2006]

Tomorrow it will be 2 weeks. All I keep thinking is that I want her back.

 

J...

 

Keep at it. Find other things to occupy your time. The more you sit in silent contemplation the more you'll think about it.

 

It will break ... one day, you'll wake up, and you'll have this weird zen-like moment where you realize you're alright without her and you don't need to worry about it anymore.

 

At that moment you're free, and it feels so good. Once you're standing on your own without feeling negative anymore, you can do whatever it is you want with your life.

 

I try and tell people not to call (or answer a call from) the ex until you reach that point - because before that moment if you call or answer a call you'll be making a decision based on overwhelming feelings of despair and not with your total self and a clear mind.

 

 

 

Yeah so it is corny - sue me

[cabman]

Yep...My brain tells me all the time these things are true. If I could just get my heart and emotions on the same page. It's like an internal war going on. Sometimes I feel that the brain is losing. There are so damn many conflicting thoughts and feelings. It's quite overwhelming at times.

 

J....

[MarkD]

I am going through the exact same thing cabman. It's been around 5 weeks of NC and I still take it one day at a time. It hurts sooo much. I never thought I could feel pain like this.

 

I just keep telling myself that in time...I will get better.

[cabman]

I am going through the exact same thing cabman. It's been around 5 weeks of NC and I still take it one day at a time. It hurts sooo much. I never thought I could feel pain like this.

 

I just keep telling myself that in time...I will get better.

 

 

I keep saying that also...but I can't seem to convince myself

[nuttybuddy]

2 weeks is still pretty fresh from the break up. It's understandable that you are feeling the way you do. Just remember, you're not the first person to feel the way you do... and you certainly aren't last. It's almost a rite of passage. You have to get through it. It hurts... but stick to your guns. You can pass this test.

[Murasaki]

Strength comes not from feeling strong but from being strong. You do not feel strong yet you did not contact your ex. This makes you strong. It means you have what it takes. Run with your power and remember that no matter how bad you feel you have it and have exercised it. Keep going, friend, keep going.

[cabman]

2 weeks is still pretty fresh from the break up. It's understandable that you are feeling the way you do. Just remember, you're not the first person to feel the way you do... and you certainly aren't last. It's almost a rite of passage. You have to get through it. It hurts... but stick to your guns. You can pass this test.

 

 

Actually it's been a little over 5 weeks since the break. Just 2 weeks into N/C. Either way I know it has not been that long.

[MarkD]

Like I said cabman...same thing here and again, I know exactly what you mean. I keep telling myself that it will get better in time...it has to..I don't think I can get any worst...it's hard to believe you will actually be okay with this situation some day. Every time I think about her, I don't see how we can't be together? Stay strong buddy..you are not alone.

[cabman]

Like I said cabman...same thing here and again, I know exactly what you mean. I keep telling myself that it will get better in time...it has to..I don't think I can get any worst...it's hard to believe you will actually be okay with this situation some day. Every time I think about her, I don't see how we can't be together? Stay strong buddy..you are not alone.

 

Thanks.....

 

It's amazing what physical toll this takes on a person isn't it? I have actually lost 24 pounds since this started. Some hase to do with filling my enormous amount of spare time with excersise.

 

At least I am getting slim and trim.

[nuttybuddy]

Woah... 24 pounds in 5 weeks?! That's a lot... I think you're depressed. But that's natural too... you wake up early in the morning? you lost your appetite?

 

Exercise is good. It'll keep your adrenaline pumping. But eat as well!! Try to find things that make you laugh or smile. You need to get your mind off of her. When you exercise, stop thinking about her.

[cabman]

Woah... 24 pounds in 5 weeks?! That's a lot... I think you're depressed. But that's natural too... you wake up early in the morning? you lost your appetite?

 

Exercise is good. It'll keep your adrenaline pumping. But eat as well!! Try to find things that make you laugh or smile. You need to get your mind off of her. When you exercise, stop thinking about her.

 

I know I am depressed. I have up days and really down days. Today happens to be a down one. I still have an appetite, just not like before. I quit eating junk and snacking. I have trouble sleeping. Rarely I sleep through the night. When I excercise I mainly ride a bike. All I have to do is think.

 

I have been through breakups before, but not like this. I really fell hard this time.

[nuttybuddy]

hang in there man. it's just one of those down days. maybe you'll have an up one tomorrow! keep looking ahead. "the----sun will come out, tomorrow, BET your bottom dollar that tomorrow, there'll be sun." know that song?? it's from Annie.