How do I CONCENTRATE!?!

[Haleylyn]

I can't focus on anything right now. I've got tons of important things to do for WORK and school and I can't seem to get myself out of this rut of thinking about him and strategizing on how to get him back (with improvements in our relationship). He told me last Thursday that he 'made the biggest mistake" breaking up with me, etc. So I spent all weekend reading about how to help Momma's boys set up boundaries with their mothers and researching about getting back together.

 

I have so much work- I need strategies to help me focus! Any techniques others have found effective?

[Never_the_same]

if he wants to get back with you, let him do his thing and prove to you that you can accept him again.

 

as for you, choose one task at a time. if u start to think of all the things you need to finish, you'll think that you have a lot so you cant even start. pick one task and start working on that now. one step at a time and you'll be surprised on what you've achieved. you can do it. good luck!

[nuttybuddy]

so you're back together with him, or you want to... but you also want to focus on what's at hand?

 

just set your mind to it that when you're at work, you're ONLY going to think about work. and if thought about him creep up in your mind, just put it aside and tell yourself to look forward to thinking about it after the day is over, out of work. keep yourself busy doing your work.

[CharLit]

It's unbelievably hard to focus on your responsibilities through times like this. What has worked for me is allotting time in which I allow myself to focus on whatever it is I'm obsessing about, so for instance study for an hour, and then I'm allowed to think about whatever is bothering me for 15 minutes, or write or post about it, or call a friend about it.

 

I find that not only do my thoughts keep straying to *insert obsession here*, but they are just generally all over the place when I have an emotional issue going on... I'll find myself reading the same sentence ten times while thinking about how I need to get washing powder. I combat that by keeping a piece of paper beside the work I'm supposed to be doing, and every time something else pops into my head I write it down there. Again, I set aside time in which I am "allowed" to work on whatever has turned up on that piece of paper, e.g. "buy washing powder" or "send nan postcard".

 

It still doesn't work perfectly, but it does help me concentrate more than if I don't try to structure it at all.

[jenny_mcs]

It's unbelievably hard to focus on your responsibilities through times like this. What has worked for me is allotting time in which I allow myself to focus on whatever it is I'm obsessing about, so for instance study for an hour, and then I'm allowed to think about whatever is bothering me for 15 minutes, or write or post about it, or call a friend about it.

 

 

That's what I do also.

[Lana0120]

Every time you think about him think about something awful that he did, think about the bad things about him. Then start thinking about the good things in your life that are nothing to do with him. Just keep forcing your mind into thinking about other things and in time it will come.