Motivation

[Dougie_D]

How do you get motivated? I regret that I've been unmotivated all my life...it's just causing me to become in deeper depression. I don't know how to fix it. Is there some sort of drug that can cause me to get excited about something?

I feel like I've never achieved anything. I have 2 college degrees that I could care less about. I didn't study. I didn't even open a book. I took classes over again because I failed them. I really didn't care. All I cared about was being away from home, partying, and a social life.

Now, I'm 26. I'm done for school forever. I have a crappy job/part-time. For the past few days...I have never left my apartment...only to go to my job and back. I don't care about answering my phones or calling people. It's useless. It get's me nowhere in life.

I'm pissed off. Where I want to be is in the entertainment industry. Internships are out of the question...unless it's paid...and that is rare. I am worrying so much now...

Am I dying?, going blind?, deaf?, going bald?, do I have a disease?, my health?....

I am so unmotivated to do anything... I just browse my T.V and the computer.

I feel so much like a loser.

[Catatonic]

Hey as long as you're alive you have the chance to change things. If you're not happy with what you have now, then what have you got to lose to try to make things better?

 

You said you want to get into the entertainment industry. I remember your thread about punk rock, did you want to get into the music industry? What are your dreams? It's good to think about what would make you happy. Then come up with a plan to get where you want, and make sure you have concrete steps. It may be tough but take it a step at a time.

 

Maybe you're feeling unmotivated because you don't feel like you're going to get anywhere. If you never try to make a change, how do you know that you're not going to succeed?

[talo]

As seen here, you do not really give a passionate reason as to why you want to become motivated. It appears you are actually motivated to stay as you are. ....And yet this motivation is somehow not sufficient for you.

 

One may be constantly self sabotaging by being motivated to stay the same and also motivated to change. It just depends on which is the stronger motivation. ...In other words, the real motive(ation) is actually self sabotage whereby one really wants to stay in this flux.

 

One is always really motivated to do what one is currently doing.

[CaptainPlanet]

I would suggest exercise

[alphaliterati]

Douggie D, you are not alone. Catatonic and Talo have a point. In a nutshell, you do not seem to have compelling enough goals to get you out of bed every morning in excitement. It is said that man is a goal seeking animal. Take this away from him and you would have almost taken away his life-force. In other words, any goals you have set for yourself will give you a life-force injection each time you accomplish them.

 

Ever wondered why some people do seemingly pointless activities like sky-diving, trekking, fishing and exercising (even when perfectly healthy)? I believe there is intrinsic value in setting goals for yourself and striving to achieve them. I believe it is hard wired in us. You might want to start with something simple like exercise. To build motivation on this, you need to use your imagination to the best effect. See yourself getting fitter and better looking.

 

Imagine the knock on effects. Are the girls getting more attracted to you? Are your colleagues paying more attention to you.......observe. One profound thing I learnt about life is your company makes you. Find people who seem to have it, that life-force you so much crave and hang out with them. Surrounding yourself with positive people will go along way in changing your circumstances. The list of things you can do is endless. I would start with exercise........go to the gym. While at it, look for an inspiring soul working out alongside you and strike a conversation. Before you know it, you have a friend.

 

Take it to the next level. Break from your comfort zone and routine. Minimize your exposure to the T.V. and internet. Program yourself to call at least 1 person you know every single day. They say no, thank yourself for trying and find better ways of approach. It is going to be hard. But you will make it. Set yourself a written time-table with all the details of when you will do what and stick to it. Rest assured after every successful attempt, the happiness rush you will get will be your bench-mark and you will naturally want to better that feeling.......and before you know it, you have broken that endless, vicious cycle of depression. You can do it, just do it. Start tomorrow. Till next time, Alex.

[alphaliterati]

Douggie D, you are not alone. Catatonic and Talo have a point. In a nutshell, you do not seem to have compelling enough goals to get you out of bed every morning in excitement. It is said that man is a goal seeking animal. Take this away from him and you would have almost taken away his life-force. In other words, any goals you have set for yourself will give you a life-force injection each time you accomplish them.

 

Ever wondered why some people do seemingly pointless activities like sky-diving, trekking, fishing and exercising (even when perfectly healthy)? I believe there is intrinsic value in setting goals for yourself and striving to achieve them. I believe it is hard wired in us. You might want to start with something simple like exercise. To build motivation on this, you need to use your imagination to the best effect. See yourself getting fitter and better looking.

 

Imagine the knock on effects. Are the girls getting more attracted to you? Are your colleagues paying more attention to you.......observe. One profound thing I learnt about life is your company makes you. Find people who seem to have it, that life-force you so much crave and hang out with them. Surrounding yourself with positive people will go along way in changing your circumstances. The list of things you can do is endless. I would start with exercise........go to the gym. While at it, look for an inspiring soul working out alongside you and strike a conversation. Before you know it, you have a friend.

 

Take it to the next level. Break from your comfort zone and routine. Minimize your exposure to the T.V. and internet. Program yourself to call at least 1 person you know every single day. They say no, thank yourself for trying and find better ways of approach. It is going to be hard. But you will make it. Set yourself a written time-table with all the details of when you will do what and stick to it. Rest assured after every successful attempt, the happiness rush you will get will be your bench-mark and you will naturally want to better that feeling.......and before you know it, you have broken that endless, vicious cycle of depression. You can do it, just do it. Start tomorrow. Till next time, Alex.