How often do you see each other?

[Yates33]

When you begin dating someone new, (say its only been two dates), how often do you guys expect or want to see them? Do you guys think its okay to go a week without seeing them...maybe two...if you at least keep in contact through phone?

 

how often do you guys think is good? how often is bad? how much is too much and how little is too little?

 

no specific scenario...just curious....

[333]

personally, i'd say once a week or every two weeks for the first few dates, then around the third date, when you decide whether or not to further persue the relationship based on the previous dates, the dates will most likely become more frequent since you will probably be more serious about the relationship. i see my boyfriend about every other day during the summer, but just a word of advice from previous experience, make sure you don't over do it. try not to see too much of eachother, because even though the idea of it may sound great, you'll get tired of eachother veryyy quickly.

[Lily04]

personally' date=' i'd say once a week or every two weeks for the first few dates, then around the third date, when you decide whether or not to further persue the relationship based on the previous dates, the dates will most likely become more frequent since you will probably be more serious about the relationship. i see my boyfriend about every other day during the summer, but just a word of advice from previous experience, make sure you don't over do it. try not to see [i']too [/i]much of eachother, because even though the idea of it may sound great, you'll get tired of eachother veryyy quickly.

 

i'm honestly scared this is what's happening with me... we started off pretty hot and heavy, seeing each other almost if not everyday the first 2 weeks we met, then cooled off and only saw each other once a week... and i haven't heard from him for a bit. i think he's beginning to think he can take me for granted or maybe wants to cool off... or is playing games... either way, i'm taking it slower now.

[Tezza]

At the beginning perhaps it should be like once a week, then later on it should build up to more days a week...

 

I have been going out with my bf for about 6 months now, and we see each other about 2-3 days a week, we both work and have a life as well...

[Lily04]

At the beginning perhaps it should be like once a week, then later on it should build up to more days a week...

 

I have been going out with my bf for about 6 months now, and we see each other about 2-3 days a week, we both work and have a life as well...

 

how often do you chat on the phone/msn now compared to when you first started dating..?

[beauty21]

Well guys I guess I'm in the minority here. I want to see my bf everyday. As soon as I get off of work. I'm a clingy person, so it would make my whole day just to spend an hour or 2 with my bf everyday. Me and my bf have been together for a while now and we both want to see eachother everyday. Sometimes, it's hard to believe because he is the one that initiates it, but I don't mind. I have never had a bf whom I didn't see everyday.

 

Do you guys think its okay to go a week without seeing them...maybe two...if you at least keep in contact through phone?

 

Yes. I think that is fine. Everybody is not the same in relationships. Somepeople prefer to see eachother on a regular basis and some don't. I think talking on the phone more and seeing less is good, because it gives you time to miss the other and arguments won't be so easy to come about.

 

how often do you guys think is good? how often is bad? how much is too much and how little is too little?

 

Like I said, everyone is different. But I think that everyday without living together is not good. Although I say I don't mind it, there are times when I want my own space and need to be alone for some time. Since me and my bf are together all day everyday when I get off of work and on the week-ends, when I tell him I want to be alone for the night he takes it as me saying I am tired of him, when really all I want is my bed to myself or to sit at home alone after a hards day at work and just think and enjoy some ME time.

 

I think too little time, is a couple of times a month, then you should be worried.

[android12]

yea i think afetr 2 dates, once a week is good. seeing as you have seen him every day for 2 weeks and now your cooling off you might need to just talk to him about it. maybe since its such a drastic change from everyday to once a week, you could find a middle ground ur both happy with. i know for me i had to talk to my bf about it. i liked seeing people once a week and talking every 2nd day - im not a clingy person. He on the other hand was used to talking to his ex's every day and seeing them 2 - 4 times a week and was finding it difficult with me, so he brought it up. thats the key.. communication. talk to him about it! thats the only way to work out whats good for both of u

[Tezza]

how often do you chat on the phone/msn now compared to when you first started dating..?

 

Just the same, or more so less, cos we actually prefer talking to each other face to face...

 

With my ex however, I was with him everyday and called him every night for hours and hours...

 

Everyone is different in different relationships, not all of them are the same...

[333]

i'm honestly scared this is what's happening with me... we started off pretty hot and heavy, seeing each other almost if not everyday the first 2 weeks we met, then cooled off and only saw each other once a week... and i haven't heard from him for a bit. i think he's beginning to think he can take me for granted or maybe wants to cool off... or is playing games... either way, i'm taking it slower now.

 

it's exactly what is happening with me, i met him and he was the greatest guy ive ever met so i guess i got wayy to excited and we both saw eachother everyday for the first month or so, then we slowed down to 3 times a week and he isnt as intimate anymore, but he sayshes stressed out and he is a really busy guy, so i cant make any assumptions yet, whats your situation?

[Lily04]

yea i think afetr 2 dates, once a week is good. seeing as you have seen him every day for 2 weeks and now your cooling off you might need to just talk to him about it. maybe since its such a drastic change from everyday to once a week, you could find a middle ground ur both happy with. i know for me i had to talk to my bf about it. i liked seeing people once a week and talking every 2nd day - im not a clingy person. He on the other hand was used to talking to his ex's every day and seeing them 2 - 4 times a week and was finding it difficult with me, so he brought it up. thats the key.. communication. talk to him about it! thats the only way to work out whats good for both of u

 

thanks so much, perhaps you're right...

[Lily04]

how do i bring it up though... we've only been dating about 3-4 weeks now... almost a month now. but... i've honestly been trying to create distance between us as a result as i'm scared of getting hurt. so if he blows me off on friday, i don't talk with him... i make myself unavailable. i'm honestly not sure if it's just his ADHD/spontaneous personality that makes him so.... not into plans and doesn't msg me or what.....

 

i thought maybe we should take it slower, but i haven't seen him since friday and just talked a bit since then and now i don't even know if i want to be in a relationship anymore...i force myself not to think about people and can easily block them out of my life if I choose... I mean at first i'll think about it and such, but I just essentially numb myself and move on and subconsciously i think that's what i'm doing...

[kaoticbaby]

we see eachother about every other day, but each week i like one time where there's at least two or three days between the last time we saw eachother. this is because when we finally DO see eachother, we missed eachother so much and it is a great day and very intense... even after two and a half yrss.