girlie219 Posted August 26, 2007 Share Posted August 26, 2007 I'm a 22 year old female who would consider herself to be straight. I started a new job quite recently and there's this one girl who I'm working with who I just feel really attracted to for some reason. She is about 24, she's not outstanding looking, but shes really well spoken and educated and i just haven't been able to get her out of my head. I know I'm not a lesbian and to be honest it feels a bit silly having a crush on another girl at my age..like something people would have grown out of if they had gone through it! I don't know if i would wanna experiment with a girl or anything and i don't even know if its a sexual attraction with this girl. What do you think i should do? I know i'm gonna feel a bit uncomfortable seeing this girl at work when i can't stop thinking about her Link to comment
CluelessGuy321 Posted August 26, 2007 Share Posted August 26, 2007 Probably deep admiration for her? I know a few girls who have very very close relationships with each other but are straight. Anyways, your post reminds me of that one song "There she goes" sung by Six Pence None the Richer. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted August 27, 2007 Share Posted August 27, 2007 Hey girlie - unless you're more bi than you think its probably nothing more than just an attraction. She probably has a lot of charisma - something some people call a magnetic personality and you're drawn to her. I don't think that makes you gay. I mean, what do YOU think is the possibility that you're having latent feelings of that nature? And what if that WAS the case? Regardless, I don't think you should be worried about it. Maybe just get to know her a little better. You two may end up being really great friends. Link to comment
applejack Posted August 28, 2007 Share Posted August 28, 2007 Relax. It's really not a big deal. Perhaps you are bisexual. It is normal to have crushes on other women, when you are a woman. Are you afraid to experiment? Have you ever had these feelings before? Do you think that she is bisexual, or a lesbian? I have many questions. Also, the first woman I was ever in a relationship with was not a supermodel. I didn't really find her attractive in the beginning. But as time went on, I found her irresistible. Her mind and passion for life is what made her beautiful. Like I said before....I have many questions. Perhaps if you will elaborate more, then maybe I can help you. Link to comment
girlie219 Posted August 28, 2007 Author Share Posted August 28, 2007 Relax. It's really not a big deal. Perhaps you are bisexual. It is normal to have crushes on other women, when you are a woman. Are you afraid to experiment? Have you ever had these feelings before? Do you think that she is bisexual, or a lesbian? I have many questions. Also, the first woman I was ever in a relationship with was not a supermodel. I didn't really find her attractive in the beginning. But as time went on, I found her irresistible. Her mind and passion for life is what made her beautiful. Like I said before....I have many questions. Perhaps if you will elaborate more, then maybe I can help you. I'm not afraid at all to experiment and I have kind of had feelings for women before but I can't place whether they're sexual or not so it confuses me. As for her sexuality, I haven't got a clue, I'm just assuming shes straight as most people would do. She's not a real girly girl but you can't always tell someones sexuality can you. Link to comment
applejack Posted August 29, 2007 Share Posted August 29, 2007 I'm not afraid at all to experiment and I have kind of had feelings for women before but I can't place whether they're sexual or not so it confuses me. As for her sexuality, I haven't got a clue, I'm just assuming shes straight as most people would do. She's not a real girly girl but you can't always tell someones sexuality can you. When you hug a woman...tightly...you get butterflies. When you smell her.....you get butterflies. When she looks you in the eyes, and you get an intense warm feeling.....these are sexual feelings. Knowing whether or not a woman "swings that way" is tricky. Some lesbians wear the rainbow jewelry. I personally do not. Most people figure it out soon enough when they are around me, so I choose not to broadcast it. I'm not ashamed, I just don't look good in rainbows. A woman that is attracted to you will let you know in subtle ways. If you sit next to her, (say on a sofa) very closely, and she doesn't move. That is a good sign. I realize that I am all over the place with this post, but I remember being your age, and wondering the same things....so I am trying to help. So she is 24....unless she has been out and about for a long time, she probably isn't going to just open up and tell you. I did not openly pursue another woman until I was 29. But I had experienced those "feelings" since my teen years. Oh well....I hope that this helps. Link to comment
Cadence308 Posted September 4, 2007 Share Posted September 4, 2007 I think it's hot to have crushes on other women! You may be bi-sexual. If you've never had feelings like this for another girl, then I could see how it would be confusing. I could also see how you feel like it's something that you should have grown out of. It sounds like you really like her. I would say that if you are having fantasies about her, kissing her, touching her, etc. then you are probably bi-sexual. It will take some time to get used to those feelings. It's really nothing to be embarrassed about. Link to comment
Flux Posted September 5, 2007 Share Posted September 5, 2007 Hmm tricky situation.. I've been there a few times myself... She sounds very charasmatic which may be waht your drawn to and you might have just miscontrued this and its formed a sort of crush Whether she's gay or not is tough though, i mean you can't just ask, and there probably is a like 90% chance she is straight... I mena you could always go out and get her drunk, not so you can take advantage, so she opens up a bit and tells you more about herself then you can work it out for yourself. Or like someone said before sit close to her and see if she moves but don't do anything rash, especially not if you work with her. you wouldn'y want to make it more awkward lol Anyways good luck Link to comment
illnvrluvher Posted September 29, 2007 Share Posted September 29, 2007 it could probably be a "girl crush" which is something i saw on the today show or good morning america (its been a while so i dont remember). anyway it is when you really admire someone, but not sexually attracted to that person. Link to comment
girl friend Posted September 29, 2007 Share Posted September 29, 2007 perhaps attachment. Where you really admire someone and want to make the characteristics of them that you love a part of yourself. This form of attachment can often get mistaken for a crush as it shows many of the same characteristics - such as wanting to be close, wanting to talk about anything with them, wanting them to admire you and you to be special in their eyes, wanting alone time, You may think about them that much that you ''jump' or get butterflies when you see them. BUT no sexual feelings indicate that it is attachment but not a crush. Link to comment
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