Is he interested?

[lolli123]

I met a guy about four weeks ago at a party, we hit if off and did some kissing the first night. He asked for my number and texted me while I was away on vacation. We hung out the night I got back and we have been hanging out 2-3 times a week for the last two weeks, lots of kissing and cuddling. However we never went out on a real date, just hanging at his house. He texts and calls everyday. However I left for college today and last night he wasn't as kissy and told me to keep in touch. Has invited me to party at his house next weekend. College is only 1 hour away. Is it normal not to go out on a real date and just to his house. Made comments that I was "leaving him tomorrow." I don't know what to think but don't want to scare him away by asking about where this is going. Does anyone have an opinion. I really like him. I'm 19 and he is 24

[mizz_sweety]

I understand what u mean by saying u dont want to scare him by asking but think thats ur only option hun, maybe u cud just hint at it a little more i spose?

[Lana0120]

To answer your question, yes, he is interested. If he didn't he would have dropped you like a hot potato by now. The fact that you haven't gone on a 'real date' is not something I'd say to worry about, as long as you're enjoying each other's company, getting to know each other and having fun!

[Day_Walker]

If you want to continue doing what you are doing with this guy then you dont have to say anything but if you want something else then you are going to have to state what you are looking for. He may not want the same thing but then the situation isnt more drawn out then it has to be

[Meow18]

I think that he seems interested. Just because he doesn't take you out doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy your company. Obviously he wants you around.

 

It might just not cross his mind. For him just as long as you are together, it might not matter if you actually go out.

 

But, I think that it's good to go out as a couple. Why not just ask him to go out and do something?

[Yates33]

Yeah, he is obviously interested. I am dating this girl now and she does the same....she likes hanging out at her house, around her area...we haven't really gone out on a "real" date, but what is a real date? As long as you two are spending time together, thats all that matters.

 

Ask him to go do something.

[ghost69]

i think he is trying to get some. or he isn't the dating type. he is more of a 'hang out' type of guy. it's the way i am. i take a girl out to dinner though, but i never really call it a date. i just ask.

[lolli123]

Well he finally took me to a movie, introduced me to his family and friends at a house party and then took me to another party. He's calling me everyday and says he thinks about me alot and misses me when I'm at college. We have plans for the next two weekends already. I guess things are going pretty good. I figured I would wait awhile to have the exclusive talk. Does everyone have the exclusive talk or can it sometimes just be assumed?

[ghost69]

it can go either way. sometimes i've dated a girl for years and it was assumed we were bf/gf. we introduced each other as that, etc. then there have been times where i had to ask what they thought about being exclusive cause i was unsure what was going on.

 

glad it's going well now though.

[Batya33]

Well he finally took me to a movie, introduced me to his family and friends at a house party and then took me to another party. He's calling me everyday and says he thinks about me alot and misses me when I'm at college. We have plans for the next two weekends already. I guess things are going pretty good. I figured I would wait awhile to have the exclusive talk. Does everyone have the exclusive talk or can it sometimes just be assumed?

 

I never ever assume particularly if there is a level of intimacy involved. It sounds like he might now be stepping up to the plate and treating you like someone he wants to date rather than just hang with. I've never had to have the exclusive talk with a guy who was sincerely interested - they always brought it up first typically in the first month or two of dating. When I was 19, I dated a 24 year old guy for about 8 months. On the second date he took me out for valentine's day (gave me my first dozen roses ever) and within the first month or so told me he was very serious about me and wanted to be exclusive.

 

There's a difference between "I'm not dating anyone else right now" and "I'm not interested in dating anyone else except you" so if you want to know, particularly for being careful about STDs etc I would ask. My guess is he will bring it up within the next month because he seems to have sincere intentions of dating you now.