being kicked out

[MyOtherUserName]

i've always had problems with my parents. long story short, i'm no longer welcome here at home. i am terrorfied of what to do now. my time here is running out, and i have no plans of where to go, or what to do. i am 18, a senior in highschool, and just finished my usual, yearly, seasonal job. so i'm out of work also. i have $40 to my name. i would prefer not to go to family, because i know they are being brainwashed by my parents about my "menacing behavior" and i don't want to be around anyone under those circumstances. none live close anyways. i am scared. my girlfriend can't take me in now because her house is overcrowded as it is, so i won't ask that of her.

 

any suggestions for a well-paying job for a highschool student?

any suggestions for anything else? about how to handle the whole new lifestyle? what was it like for you being on your own for the first time? i really wish i would have had some kind of transition into it, rather than being thrust out there like this. but hey, what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

[MadGenius]

Okay, I have experience in this.

 

My brother made friends with some guys who got kicked out of their parents house, so what they did is took advantage of MY parents and lived with us. For seven months.

 

Don't be a deadbeat. Go back home, get along with your parents, look for any job, and just stick with it, because you need the money. If you really can't stand it at home, get a cheap apartment and put up ads around local universities or something for roomates.

[Gath]

You're in alberta?

 

I'm not sure about right now (unless you're going to leave school), but after you finish high school you should easily be able to find a job up at the oil sands faciliteis north of Fort Macmurrey. Garda Security hires a lot of non-construction people, and then there's always the trades. There's a massive labor shortage here, and most site work also provides housing in the form of camps. You might want to look into either the trade unions or the CLACK organization as well, as they would be a good connection.

 

I really hope you find a place to stay because finishing high school is more important than a lot of people realize. Is there any way you can settle things with your parents till the end of the school year? Once you've graduated there's a lot more options for being on your own, but working a job to support yourself and going to high school is going to be very difficult. Are you a member of a church that might be able to take you in?

[volpe]

I am sorry this is happening. I can catch a glimmer of understanding. I wonder if you feel comfortable sharing more specifics... I also was kicked out while in high school... so was my brother... and my sister was adopted. We were abused emotionally and physically. I was in high school.

 

I worked as a science t.a., as a hostess, as a sales rep at two stores, and i slept four hours a night. first i lived with my best friend for two months, then rented a super duper cheap room, then finally rented a room in a two bedroom apartment with a friend of mine. i slept just four hours a night, cause i then went to college full time while working full time.......

 

it was rough.

 

you basically have to work your butt off non-stop to go to school and work. hopefully you can get some hook ups with cheap rent and stay focused on finishing school. don't ever lose sight of that.

 

you have to get an education to get a better job and pull yourself up. nothing like getting kicked out to make that realization.....

 

it sounds like you had a bad childhood too..... i'm sorry. just don't lose hope, you work hard for a while to get an education and things do get easier.

[volpe]

and you are right.....

 

it really does make you stronger....

 

in college no one could really understand what i went through. actually i haven't yet met one person that really understands it. it was insane. but it built a lot of character. i now can advocate for myself and others and work with confidence because i'm pretty much not afraid of anything... well... except for men, but that's another story altogether.

[glegend]

Bro your in Alberta, the pay is great there. I hear that Mc D's is paying like $17/hour and for general labor $90/hour. Its sad to hear that your parents kicked you out and don't want you at home anymore.

What exactly happened if you don't mind me asking?

[Im Alive]

I hear that Mc D's is paying like $17/hour and for general labor $90/hour.

 

Wow, I'm in the United States (New Jersey) and the pay at McDonald's is 7.15 an hour.

[angelmaria]

I live in Alberta...general labor is NOT $90/hour. There is great money to be made though. Find a trade and stick to it...you'll be making $40+an hour in no time.

 

I was out at 17...my choice though. What happened with you and your folks? Are you being a stubborn 18 year old? I just ask b/c i am pushing 30 now and realize just how ignorant 'kids' can be nowadays. Take a step back and actually look at the situation...if you did do something wrong...apologize and pull up your socks?? If not, then you are really in a tough spot!! GOod luck...

[undeniyable]

Sounds hard...I know exactly what you're going through....I have been in the same situation as you...slightly different in age, but no difference...I've been living on my own since I was 16...Thankfully, I had somewhere to go and great friends who were willing to take me in...But, when I turned 18, me and my bf got an apartment together and have been living together ever since...

 

When my boyfriend graduated from HS, he got like 2,000 dollars, so he used most of his graduation money to get us an apartment. So we basically started off on his money...

 

Are your parents going to kick you out before you graduate? Or after?

 

If they're doing it afterwards, then try throwing a graduating party, but only asking for monetary gifts...Hey..It could work out for you...?

 

I would really like to know what's going on between you and your parents to make them want to throw them out...I don't think their going to kick you out for no reason....I'd like to help you figure out a way to stay at home, but first you'd have to say what is really going on....

 

Please reply asap...!!=)

[CaptainPlanet]

Avoid moving out at all costs. Apparently dead beats leave home early - atleast that is what I have heard.

 

I moved out and lived off of about $200 a week I find it to be a bit of a LOL when people talk about how expensive it is too live. People need to harden up IMO its not that hard to support yourself if you don't want to live with your parents move out. It really is not a big deal you know. You just pay rent somewhere and buy ur food its actually fantastic having complete privacy and independance. Except ppl will look down on you and want to know why you left home. IT is seen by a lot of people as a bratty thing to do. Those people are idiots. I had the time of my life living on my own and I learned more about the world than any of those stuck up uni kids living under their parents wings (although I have been a student, what a lol). Do it move out and you might live in poverty for a while. It will teach your heaps and you will harden up pretty quick. Be prepared to have to make financial sacrifices that is it is often hard to save often not, depending on your job and your spending patterns.

 

I worked as little as possible and lived as cheaply as possible. It was fantastic I had the time of my life.

[Altruist]

Go back home and sort things out with your parents. You can move out when you school is over. Get your education first.

[undeniyable]

Avoid moving out at all costs. Apparently dead beats leave home early - atleast that is what I have heard.

 

 

 

I moved out and lived off of about $200 a week I find it to be a bit of a LOL when people talk about how expensive it is too live. People need to harden up IMO its not that hard to support yourself if you don't want to live with your parents move out. It really is not a big deal you know. You just pay rent somewhere and buy ur food its actually fantastic having complete privacy and independance. Except ppl will look down on you and want to know why you left home. IT is seen by a lot of people as a bratty thing to do. Those people are idiots. I had the time of my life living on my own and I learned more about the world than any of those stuck up uni kids living under their parents wings (although I have been a student, what a lol). Do it move out and you might live in poverty for a while. It will teach your heaps and you will harden up pretty quick. Be prepared to have to make financial sacrifices that is it is often hard to save often not, depending on your job and your spending patterns.

 

You are absolutely right when you say that it's better to live on your own Me and my bf moved in together when we were both 18...He'd been living with his parents in one house his whole life, and I moved around way a lot before we got our apartment. But here we are..still living where we moved 3.5 years ago, and have only been late with rent once...

 

I think we have both learned so much from this journey...We are both very responsible, NO...we may not be able to drive around in new cars that mommy and daddy bought for us, but we love having the independence...We are both still in school, doing very well...and we are completely content not being able to have the luxury of living at home...I couldn't anyway...But you get the point...

I also work as little as possible, due to school, but still bring home enough for my half of the light bill, telephone bill, food, car insurance and rent...and maybe once a month I'll by myself a shirt or something...But, I'm not into keeping up with fashion though, because to me, it's a waste of time and well earned money...I'll leave that to the people on TV

 

But yeah...You may want to stay at home, because you probably heard it's SO EXPENSIVE LIVING ON YOUR OWN TWO FEET, but that only comes from the people that are LAZY, and are expecting handouts from mommy and daddy...I don't mean to sound so harsh against living at home, but I think it's ridiculous that there are people out there who have a working body who are still living at home with there parents, driving around in a new car, going to school, with no job, and are living carelessly...It's just "BLAH"!! It makes me sick to my stomach truthfully... But, not to worry, because those are the people who don't learn responsibilty and are not able to graduate from college, and if they do, then it's very rare...JUST MY OPINION!!

[angelmaria]

Captain planet is obviously ignorant and so are his sources. People who leave home early ARE NOT DEADBEATS!!! I have accomplished more then most poeple that i know in my short 27 years. I know the value of a hard days work and don't appreciate being told that i am a deadbeat for having moved out early. Ever think that maybe some poeple dont' want mom and dad to walk them through life holding their hands? The same thread you go on to talk about how it was the time of your life!! Some poeple like it and some people dont. No need to put people in a category like that. If anything...people who move out early are the complete opposite of being a deadbeat...can't pay rent or your bills if you aren't working!!

[spinstermanquee]

MyOtherUserName, I like that you quoted Nietzsche!

 

undeniyable ^^^ word.

 

It is both the best and the worst feeling in the world - the first moment when you know "It's me, only me. No one will rescue me, I am truly on my own."

 

It's a great feeling because you are the cause of your own destiny, and it can suck because you don't have the "cushion" any more.

 

I think the origin of this thread is lack of cushion. But like you said, MOUN, it's really up to you. I think you will do fine!

[CaptainPlanet]

Moving out of home is very silly. If you stay at home and are not lazy you can save a lot of cash. I learned that they hard way by moving out and spending all my money on living instead of saving it.

[CaptainPlanet]

Screw independence, your time will come. It is far better and far more important to have a good relationship with you immediate family. If you cannot have that it is a different story. I applaud those people who work good jobs and live with their families I want to be one of those people. That is, if I have not ruined any and all chance of ever getting a good job.

[CaptainPlanet]

Captain planet is obviously ignorant and so are his sources. People who leave home early ARE NOT DEADBEATS!!! I have accomplished more then most poeple that i know in my short 27 years. I know the value of a hard days work and don't appreciate being told that i am a deadbeat for having moved out early. Ever think that maybe some poeple dont' want mom and dad to walk them through life holding their hands? The same thread you go on to talk about how it was the time of your life!! Some poeple like it and some people dont. No need to put people in a category like that. If anything...people who move out early are the complete opposite of being a deadbeat...can't pay rent or your bills if you aren't working!!

 

Hey , lol people ask questions they want to know why someone so young does not live at home. There is no easy answer "I don't get along with my parents" people will think, o you are a brat then. You don't appreciate what they've done for you kind of look ? People almost always side with the parents. Thats what I was trying to bring to this guys attention.