Girlfriend concearns

[ryan123]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months and throughout that time we've hung out constantly and where the issue comes in is when I don't see her shes always bored and this makes me feel bad.

 

I love spending time with her so this is not something(spending time with her) I do outta pity for her. I just wish she'd make friends so she can have a life outside of the relationship because I understand that its not a very healthy way of living.

 

She's lost touch with all her old high school friends throughout the years and gets myspace comments from one of her friends asking to hangout.

 

So last night she was being very emotional and feeling worthless and was saying how that when she doesnt see me shes bored out of her mind and that she has no friends and was saying she's a loser. Yeah, she was saying some pretty hurtful stuff towards herself which I hate when she does that.

 

I suggested that she hangout with her friend thats been commenting. She gives some lame excuse, oh she doesn't have a car...I'm like...but you do. And she said "oh we weren't even that close of friends."

 

Iunno why she complains that she doesn't have friends when shes clearly pushing herself away from them. It just doesn't make sense to me.

 

I don't know what to do as I can't make friends for her. I try introducing her to my friends(so she can get acustomed to being more social) and she always shuts the idea down. It's like im a wicked sensitive person just like her and I wouldn't be friends with mean people so she knows my friends are nice.

 

Any suggestions would be appreciated.

[Konarmi]

she likes spending time with you.. I wouldn't start hating that. Usually life partners don't have the issues you're bringing up.

I hang out with my girlfriend every night but a few.. even then we talk constantly.

[p_fred]

Maybe its better she does something that will help her meet new friends... or maybe she isn't the kind of person that needs a lot of friends.

 

You shouldn't feel bad.. as long as she is happy when you are together that is all you should be concerned about.

[ryan123]

she likes spending time with you.. I wouldn't start hating that. Usually life partners don't have the issues you're bringing up.

I hang out with my girlfriend every night but a few.. even then we talk constantly.

 

I don't hate the fact that she enjoys my company. I just think its a little unhealthy in respect towards her freedom.

[ryan123]

Maybe its better she does something that will help her meet new friends... or maybe she isn't the kind of person that needs a lot of friends.

 

See at first I thought she just didn't need friends. And when I asked her if it bothers her she doesn't she said "sometimes, but oh well I deal." So it got me thinking that she really does, yet her actions speak differently.

 

And i think once she works with people her own age she could mingle with co-workers.