Wooo, the ex called after months!

[crapie]

And I was not set back to square 1. It felt like talking to someone I used to know. He, on the other hand, tried to bring up the old memories and said he would come see me one day.

 

And I had a great date with a new guy today too! Just want to tell the world that there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

[Nixee]

This is awesome

 

I'm so hoping I can be in that position with my ex one day.

[Stambler]

YES THERE IS!!!!

 

Isn't it funny, it always gets to the pont where the dumper remembers only the good things about the relationship, and the dumpee remembers only the bad!!! I've been on both sides, currently as the dumpee remembering only the bad.

 

I've had several wonderful dates with a new woman, and when I see my ex (we have a young child) I look at her and think - "I can't believe I wanted to stay with her!".

 

Yep there is a light, always!!!! It may not be right around the corner, but you'll find it!!!!

[desert_rose26]

Yayy for you! I can almost feel your energy! yep, my ex called 2 weeks later and i know how that feels. haha.

[nightw0lf]

Yayy for you! I can almost feel your energy! yep, my ex called 2 weeks later and i know how that feels. haha.

 

I hope my ex never contacts me again, i havent heard anything since the 26th of July and im going strong, each day without contact is healing time. I think if she contacts me its going to open wounds. I really need to change my number.

[Ripples]

Congratulations!

 

I expect that from mine too, just as soon as she is let out of the local asylum!

 

Cant wait!

[bubblyblonde11]

And I was not set back to square 1. It felt like talking to someone I used to know. He, on the other hand, tried to bring up the old memories and said he would come see me one day.

 

And I had a great date with a new guy today too! Just want to tell the world that there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

 

This is excellent to hear and equally excellent to know

 

 

[TijuanaJones]

Yep! they always call back after you start to move on... Here are some dialog lines from the movie Swingers, great conversation between the two main characters. They somehow sum up everything about the No Contact "rule".

 

Mike: Okay, so what if I don't want to give up on her?

Rob: You don't call.

Mike: But you said I don't call if I wanted to give up on her.

Rob: Right.

Mike: So I don't call either way?

Rob: Right.

Mike: So what's the difference?

Rob: There is no difference right now. See, Mike, the only difference between giving up and not giving up is if you take her back when she wants to come back. But you can't do anything to make her want to come back. In fact, you can only do stuff to make her not want to come back.

Mike: So the only difference is if I forget about her or just pretend to forget about her?

Rob: Right.

Mike: Well that sucks.

Rob: Yeah, it sucks.

Mike: So it's just like a retroactive decision, then? I mean I could, like, forget about her and then when she comes back make like I just pretended to forget about her?

Rob: Right. Although probably more likely the opposite.

Mike: What do you mean?

Rob: I mean at first you're going to pretend to forget about her, you'll not call her, I don't know, whatever... but then eventually, you really will forget about her.

Mike: Well what if she comes back first?

Rob: Mmmm... see, that's the thing, is somehow they know not to come back until you really forget.

Mike: There's the rub.

Rob: There's the rub.

[Coyote9]

I have always loved this movie and need to rent it again....it's the perfect explanation for NC and why to do it....

[afonselaca]

TJ, that made my head hurt.

[crapie]

And he called again the next day just to say hi, the same day that the new guy asked if I wanted to go for a vacation with him. Did he sense that I am moving on? I never told him anything.

[Up and Down]

That movies awesome, I just told another ENA member to go rent it. I think I may just go buy it!

[mushmouth]

Crapie

 

THAT'S GREAT!

 

You have options. And you have your self respect. And you have a man who wants to be with you! And you have yourself to thank for it!.

 

Isn't it wonderful when one can move past the pain, hold their head high and be open for better things to come their way?

 

Kudos to you.