I think he cheated or dont know

[akldorba]

Hi, this is my first post.

I need help, some advice; I don’t know what to do. I met my boyfriend 2 months ago, in a very surreal scenario, (as we were both on a business trip for the same company), and we clicked and everything happened so quickly; we talked honestly (or so did I) about what we wanted, what we were looking for and how would our relationship be. A week later we were living together, for one month we lived this wonderful honeymoon… I fell deep, and I thought the feeling was mutual… it seemed so genuine. I have always been a kind of cold, uncaring, indifferent to emotions person but this time I was open and authentic, emotional, blabla bla

A few weeks ago we returned home, and everything went by as we had planned, we were looking for an apartment to live together, I even introduced him to my family.

Two days ago we went out and he told me there was a gossip he was flirting with some girl from work; he told me his version and asked me to trust him.

Later that day someone told me that this girl and my bf were kissing at a party a few weeks ago and that they’d been seeing each other since that night.

I broke up with him. He is still calling me, msg me, he insists nothing happened. At all. Someone is lying. I don’t know what to believe, these last days I can barely sleep, my body aches, I don’t have any strength, I feel demolished , I have cried my eyes out. I can’t believe everything was a lie. Sometimes (like right know) I want to call him, want to believe in him. We have talked; he won’t change his version. I don’t understand, I have never been in any similar situation. The person I know wouldn’t do that to me, but, who could just come in and create this conflict and what for? And if it’s true why wouldn’t he accept it?

I don’t want to go back with him and be played again.

I wish I could leave this place and forget, but I can’t. What can I do? What should I do?

[annie24]

welcome to enotalone. WHOA!!!!!!! do you think you rushed things, just a tiny bit? moving in together after 1 week? wow.

 

So, you heard a rumor and you broke up with him. why? because you don't trust him. and why don't you trust him? because you don't KNOW him. if you knew him well, (or at least, better than the person who spread the gossip), you would know which person to believe. but you don't, because you guys really rushed things.

 

My advice is to move out of the place, and continue dating this man, but at a reasonable pace. ie, wait a year before moving in together. i think over time, you will see if he is a good guy who was slandered by a gossip, or if he really is a cheater. just take things slow.

[barbielovesmac]

welcome to enotalone. WHOA!!!!!!! do you think you rushed things, just a tiny bit? moving in together after 1 week? wow.

 

So, you heard a rumor and you broke up with him. why? because you don't trust him. and why don't you trust him? because you don't KNOW him. if you knew him well, (or at least, better than the person who spread the gossip), you would know which person to believe. but you don't, because you guys really rushed things.

 

My advice is to move out of the place, and continue dating this man, but at a reasonable pace. ie, wait a year before moving in together. i think over time, you will see if he is a good guy who was slandered by a gossip, or if he really is a cheater. just take things slow.

 

^^^that's the best advice. i couldn't have said it better myself!

[Fruitfull1]

If multiple people have told you that they saw him doing these things with this other girl chances are he's a liar and he did! I really don't see a bunch of people wasting time to make up something like that and what does it benefit them? He won't accept it because he got caught! So don't expect him to change up his innocense now and give you what really happened. Just move forth and do you.

[akldorba]

He asked my bestfriend to help him, he talked for about an hour about how much he loves me and wouldn’t do such a thing to me. He even called the girl he hooked up with and asked her to tell the “truth” to my friend… and kept calling me, and I almost go back with him

Yesterday I talked to the girl that saw him , she is best friend of the girl he was kissing and she told me how he asked everyone to deny everything and to say they’d been wrong and nothing happened; she said she had asked him to tell the truth and ask for forgiveness, but he didn’t do it. He kept on lying and burying himself deeper in his lie. She told me everything because she has been in my position before, but she found out the worst way.I feel great now that I know what happened and can move on. I thank everyone that opened my eyes, I wont go back with him. This is over. I will move forth indeed.

Thanks so much for the advice-

[annie24]

glad to hear you are moving on. I hope next time you take a while to get to know someone before diving into a new relationship so quickly. good luck