She's off to college..too little too late?!

[dtchaos1254]

SO!, there's a girl I kinda had a thing for off and on over the last few years. Over that time we have harmlessly flirted a bit, talked a bit less, and hung out even fewer times. Realizing she had become available and that she was soon going off to college, I figured I'd at least drop her a line and wish her luck and whatnot. Long story short she eventually decided to drive over to my place (which is 40 minutes away mind you) for a movie. We did all the usual talking and cuddly stuff, after which we made out and headed for the bed room for some fooling around (by which I do not mean intercourse nor oral relations). After all that jazz she had to head home for curfew (lame, haha), so we kissed goodnight and had a big 'ol hug.

 

So here is where it hurts to overthink things. She's going away to college in Vermont in a week or so, and I go to college in Rhode Island. The wonderful problem is that I think I actually have feelings for this gal (as in, I'd hate to let it go as just a booty call). When I talked to her this morning we both said that we had a great time and didn't rule out the possibility of seeing eachother again before she ships off to VT.

 

I guess the questions start HERE: How do I handle this situation? Part of me wants to say something to her, but the other part realizes that it's her first semester of freshman year that she's starting, not to mention the fact that it may be difficult to maintain a relationship from 6 hours away. I guess I'm looking for really general advice on what to do, realizing that I am completely incapable of making these decisions on my own, that's why I have you guys!

 

Thanks so much in advance!!

-dtchaos1254

[Lana0120]

Just stay in touch with her and make noises about meeting. See where it goes from there. Either one of you may meet someone else about uni, but if you like each other, it certainly doesn't hurt to see if it goes any further.

[mizz_sweety]

If you really like her, there's no harm in talking to her about your feelings? By the sound of it i'm sure she feels the same but probably doesn't want to say something to you just yet incase you think she's moving too fast or you don't want that kind of relationship.

 

Then there's the whole long distance thing that doesn't usually end up working out, but like i said talk to her and see what she thinks, it won't hurt trying.

 

If you think it may be love, just bear in mind its hard to find real love.

[ghost69]

i'd just tell her. whether it's her senior year or her freshmen year. i never hold back my feelings for a woman. why wait? i hate that 'what if' feeling or 'i should have said something.' worst feelings ever. yes, worse then being rejected. cause then you know the answer whereas now you are just pestering yourself with the maybes.

[dtchaos1254]

So I kinda brought up the whole liking her thing tonight with a side of the 'it really sucks that your going away to college'. Turns out that that feeling is mutual, which is a good thing We both agreed that even though we'd be a ways away that it was certainly worth trying (which seems to indicate to me a pretty decent level of attraction, am I wrong?). So now I'm more looking for advice from you guys/gals who have been there on maybe how to maintain a psuedo-relationship that is gonna go from nothing to something one week, and something to an LDR in another?

 

Once again, thanks for helping with that whole "I can never follow my own advice" thing they all talk about!

-dtchaos1254

[ghost69]

just stay in contact. emails, phone calls, etc. don't do it every day though. she will get flustered. especially with college going on.