LostnConfused87 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I play alot of games over the internet. 1 time about a year ago, I meet this girl who shared a few pics with me. It turns out that she was really pretty and I was attracted to her right away...but we didn't talk much. It was always short and didn't go to far and i just stopped talking to her and didn't see her until a few weeks ago. We started talking again, but this time we actually kinda connected, and i found myself thinking about her so much...so this talking went on for a few weeks, and i slowly started revealing to her how i felt about her. Yesterday, i started telling her alot more and she said she likes me and thinks about me too....but today she hasnt said much to me...she just answered everything with a short sentence...she didn't go online last night either, she told me she was just laying in her bed last night and wasnt in the mood to get online. we live about 5-6 hours away, but we are both still doing school and i guess hasn't really known each other for too long. maybe i told her too much and too soon above how much i felt about her? she said shes going out tonight to dance with some of her girl friends...i think shes trying to forget about me. i asked her if ill see her tomorrow and she just said "we'll see". I feel so depressed right now...Im nowhere as good looking as she is, and still haven't shown her how i look like tho she never asked before...even if we were to be able to meet up id be way too shy to do so (ive never dated anyone or gotten anywhere that close with a girl before), shes far too good looking for me...i feel like this is a waste of time and its hurting me right now...but i can't stop myself from thinking about her, and i still want to be able to chat with her...i feel so stupid....
Lana0120 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I think you need to stop getting your hopes up. You talk about hoping to meet her one day, but from the sound of it, it isn't on her agenda right now. Just take a few steps back and don't always show up online to talk to her (coming accross as too needy will be making her back off, for one thing).
Shin kensen Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Internet + Anonymity + Desperate guys = it's probably a guy having a laugh. I know, because I've done it to people... because it's funny.
jettison Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Internet + Anonymity + Desperate guys = it's probably a guy having a laugh. I know, because I've done it to people... because it's funny. Wow, skin. Even for a 19 year old, that's pretty bad. I did some pretty lame things at 19, but I doubt I'd have bragged about it on a messageboard that often caters to lonely people who might be down on their luck. Care to rethink that?
Shin kensen Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Wow, skin. Even for a 19 year old, that's pretty bad. I did some pretty lame things at 19, but I doubt I'd have bragged about it on a messageboard that often caters to lonely people who might be down on their luck. Care to rethink that? Basically the number one rule of online games is : There are no girlz on teh internets. It's harsh, but then again it's completely harmless fun, and so easy to do plus it gets you major props with all your other immature buddies. Plus it's hardly the worst thing I've done at 19.
Lana0120 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Lost - some people do play games, but I don't think she is. From what you have said, she simply doesn't have the same level of interest that you have in her and she's trying to be polite about it.
jettison Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Basically the number one rule of online games is : There are no girlz on teh internets. It's harsh, but then again it's completely harmless fun, and so easy to do plus it gets you major props with all your other immature buddies. Plus it's hardly the worst thing I've done at 19. Well, the OP is pretty bent out of shape about it so "harmless" wouldn't be the first word I'd think to employ.
ghost69 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 shin is just saying it's possible. but i wouldn't get your hopes over the internet at all. now if you met this girl in person, hung out all weekend, and now are talking over the internet, then i'd say you are onto something.
LostnConfused87 Posted August 23, 2007 Author Posted August 23, 2007 I've seen atleast 30 different pictures of her, probably alot more than that, she cant be fake. i just don't want to be competely cut off from her, this is just happening so quickly. I think i know what shes feeling/thinking right now, but i still want to ask to make sure...and at the same time I feel like i should be giving her some space right now, but then if i wait, im not sure if i'll ever see her again...all she said was "we'll see" when i asked her if i'll see her tomorrow...that just leaves me feeling so unsure, but leaning closer to thinking that i probably won't ever see her again...but then i also feel that her seeing me isn't a good thing for her... im so unsure about everything right now...i need someway of asking her... =/
Shin kensen Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I imagine the OP has issues with girls in real life, so as soon as something possible came up online he went for it and got unrealistcally attached. Anyway, it's a classic case, happened more times than you would believe and I have a friend who's done it (on world of warcraft) and the guy gave him online money that he pawned off on ebay for real money. I'm saying, for falling for this, I have no sympathy, sorry bud. shin is just saying it's possible. but i wouldn't get your hopes over the internet at all. now if you met this girl in person, hung out all weekend, and now are talking over the internet, then i'd say you are onto something. Exactly, you hadn't even had any proof this person was real, any idiot can go on myspace and get a good looking girl's picture. EDIT: it's like falling for a nigerian scam!
Shin kensen Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I've seen atleast 30 different pictures of her, probably alot more than that, she cant be fake. Probably a lot less than that are on an average facebook profile or photobucket/flickr site...
Aurian Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 There are some girls on online games and other boy-centric online activities, but agreed, they are a minority. Either way you only know about her what she has shown you. She could be a different person in real, or is only showing her good traits. Some people are very different online and offline. However, even if you are seeing the real her, she might like you too, but has decided that she isn`t up to a long-distance relationship and is thus distancing herself from you. If this is the case, she is trying to "fade out" rather than hurt your feelings by saying something outright.
Lana0120 Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 I think it is essential that you give her space. Yes, you may 'lose' her, but you will anyway if you don't back off as you'll come accross as clingy.
mizz_sweety Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 Oh sweety, don't feel bad, it's not your fault, sometimes our feelings have no control over what we say, she doesn't seem to be interested but be confident, I'm sure u will find ur dream women someday x
lovelyc Posted August 23, 2007 Posted August 23, 2007 hey if she's interested...guess what? she would have given you her number..if you wanna be brave...just ask her for her number..because all these online conversations can be misleading and can be misunderstood..so ask her for her number and get to know the "real" her instead of being misled by this "online" personality... If she gives you the cold shoulder, guess what...it's ok..she doesn't know you so forget her
annie24 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 To the OP - I think you should just ask her out, and meet in person, and see if there is any chemistry there. don't worry about the looks, just meet and see if there is a connection in real life. I think you should ask her out soon, as in tonight. When I did online dating, if a man took more than 4-8 e-mails to ask me out, I'd lose interest and move on. I have plenty of pen pals on enotalone. I don't need more. If a man didn't make a suggest that we meet in person, I'd stop replying to him after a while and move on to the next guy. Now, some people aren't who they say they are, or sometimes you build a person up in your head, which is why if you do online dating, it's best to meet ASAP for ice cream or a cup of coffee and verify that yes, it is an attractive female that you are talking to and not some kid with too much time on his hands. Basically the number one rule of online games is : There are no girlz on teh internets. It's harsh, but then again it's completely harmless fun, and so easy to do plus it gets you major props with all your other immature buddies. Plus it's hardly the worst thing I've done at 19. Don't you have a real hobby? Something else to do that's more constructive than this?
JadedStar Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 Basically the number one rule of online games is : There are no girlz on teh internets. It's harsh, but then again it's completely harmless fun, and so easy to do plus it gets you major props with all your other immature buddies. Plus it's hardly the worst thing I've done at 19. Wow. Even for 19 that is cruel.
LostnConfused87 Posted August 24, 2007 Author Posted August 24, 2007 Im 20...and i still have a little bit of a acne problem....=/ we live almost 6 hours apart...i could go meet her one time, but how am i going to keep that up? the way i see it, shes probably going to find a guy that she'll be interested in in real life as soon as classes start for her. or maybe even after tonight cuz shes going out with some of her friends to dance... i just dont know what to do...i should be searching for more classes to add into right now before its too late, but i just cant concentrate. i just feel like my chest is caving in...im breathing different... =/
annie24 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 well, you could always meet halfway. but if you don't think that you can do long distance, then don't worry about this woman and find someone closer to you. as for the acne, well, i don't know how bad it is, but go to a dermatologist or an aesthetician and have them sort it out. plenty of treatments for it. go to sleep, and sign up for some more classes tomorrow, don't worry.
LostnConfused87 Posted August 24, 2007 Author Posted August 24, 2007 she talked to me a little last night. it wasnt bad...i tohught itd make me feel better. but today i feel about the same or a little worse... =/ should i tell her how i been feeling? > i want to talk to her again...but now im afraid to...
ghost69 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 300 pictures, doesn't matter. ur still on the internet. it's like calling some random phone number and a girl picks up and you start talking. you have never seen her, but her voice is oh so hot. same concept. you still don't know until you are in person. this why i always choose in person first. that is how i meet my ladies.
annie24 Posted August 24, 2007 Posted August 24, 2007 I think you should meet her ASAP. right away. meet somewhere halfway and just meet. don't waste any more time. the more time you waste, the more you are getting attached to someone who don't know, and the more chance of her getting bored playing "pen-pals" with you. just meet and get it over with. e-mail her right now.
LostnConfused87 Posted August 26, 2007 Author Posted August 26, 2007 i dont think ill be able to meet her...i think shes reluctent to give me her number, i havent asked her for it yet but we got close to the subject 2 times and i could just feel it. i also just found out that she talks on the phone alot at night and i told her i bet she gets tons of guys calling her all the time. she didnt want to go there...i dont think shes going to stop chatting with me tho, but thats all its going to be...shes given her number to a few other guys before tho that i know of...shes known them longer than she knows me. but she told me she likes me and thinks about me, and she was hurt when i left her that one time =/ i found out my cousin lives in the same city she lives in, i told her this...and its a small city too...i dont think she will let me meet her tho...i need a way to stop thinking about her...this really isnt good for my health...
schueysgirl Posted August 26, 2007 Posted August 26, 2007 Shin can i just say i am a girl and i have played on internet games....some of US ARE REAL!!!
KG Posted August 26, 2007 Posted August 26, 2007 Shin, That's pretty low, and mentioning it here is lower. Keep others feelings in mind. Some people are sensitive to this stuff! KG
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