Boyfriend cant get it up/keep it up

[SaRaHmArIe8588]

Me and my boyfriend have a little problem. Well my boyfriend does. This only seems to happen late at night. he works night shifts and doesnt get home until after midnight so its always late when we are having sex. This has happened to us twice..

 

We will get into the mood..be making out..lots of foreplay and we are about to have sex and he goes completely soft. He thinks its because hes tired. The first time this happened was veryy disappointing because we both wanted to have sex. But he just couldnt get hard so he went to bed. A few hours later he woke up and we started kissing and had great sex.

 

This happened again last night. he got home around 130 and we were fooling around and he couldnt get hard. he was able to get hard three times but it lasted about 10 seconds so we couldnt have sex..

 

Does anyone know why this is happening?

Is it because hes tired?

Is he lying about being horny?

Is it just ME?

 

It doesnt seem to be just me because he gets really disappointed and embarrassed. We both laughed about it though..

 

Help!

[Lana0120]

Sounds to me like he probably is just tired.

[tictactoe2006]

It can happen sometimes. A variety of reasons really - stress, overtires, too much ot drink, etc.

 

My advice: don't make a huge deal out of it, be supportive, and help him to relax, and before you know it, things will be back to good.

[KG]

Tiredness can do terrible things. And if it happened once, he may be spending time at work wondering...???if it's going to work later?

Which makes it worse.

Give him space, plan it when je's rested!

Good luck!

[dtm123]

Tiredness, hunger, needing to urinate, defacate, things like that can take his focus away.

 

He should start eating decent and taking his vitamins, if he's not already.

 

Other than that, if you guys have everything always planned out, that could get a little boring.

[JimJohnson]

Sounds like he is stressed. That happened to me before and it was pretty embarrasing.

[Cardinal]

That kind of thing happens all the time. A lot of times when a guys is tired and stressed it is just best to focus on things that don't require an erection on his part. That is where cool and fun stuff like oral sex comes in.

 

A lot of problems in the bedroom can be avoided by taking the pressure off. The pressure to orgasm, to perform whatever. And having lots of other sexual options is always nice.

[Scare]

He's just tired. And since it's late night his brain nerves are blocking most actions. Including erections.

 

Don't worry its not you.

 

and also it's a very good possibility that he needs to urinate. If he does that cuts off ALL passages for the sperm or blood to get to the penis to make it hard. If it continues you can always try the ring. Like when he does have it hard put a ring on the base of the penis and it holds the blood in there. keeps it hard.. but not for forever..

[Red Fox]

This only seems to happen late at night. he works night shifts and doesnt get home until after midnight so its always late when we are having sex. This has happened to us twice.....

 

We will get into the mood..be making out..lots of foreplay and we are about to have sex and he goes completely soft. He thinks its because hes tired....

 

This happened again last night. he got home around 130....

 

Does anyone know why this is happening?

Is it because hes tired?

Is he lying about being horny?

Is it just ME?

!

 

I would say it's most likely because he is tired. Shift work can be tiring... if he is getting home after midnight and 1.30am at times (and especially if his shift patterns change) he may well be very tired.

 

When you are tired it's very difficult for your brain to keep everything on track and working in top condition (it's just wants you too sleep!). When people are tired they may still think they have some energy (hence perhaps why he is not just wanting to sleep straight away), they will however probably find it harder to concentrate, their reaction times are likely to be slower, and it might be harder to concentrate. All this means its not easy to get an erection if you are tired, and the more tired you are the more difficult it would be.

[Shin kensen]

Does he drink his 2l of water a day?