Good friendship gone. Advice please

[Shin kensen]

Hey guys.

 

I used to be friends with a guy, we met online (blah blah), but we got chatting and ended up being a good friends. The kind of good friend you could talk about your personal stuff with, who you would call or would call you at random times of the day if you're feeling down.

 

Anyway, he's been with a new girlfriend for quite a while, every time I initiate conversation with him, it's either silence (on IM) or just some other excuse...

 

So basically, I don't want to lose a good friend, but I also don't want to confront him too much.

 

What should I do?

[HellFrost666]

How long has he been with the new girlfriend?

 

When people get into a new relationship they forget abut everyone else for a while. I've seen this happen with my friends. And I am sure I neglected them a little when I started seeing my girlfriend... It's just something that happens.

 

If he hasn't been with her that long I am sure he will come around.

[Shin kensen]

How long has he been with the new girlfriend?

 

When people get into a new relationship they forget abut everyone else for a while. I've seen this happen with my friends. And I am sure I neglected them a little when I started seeing my girlfriend... It's just something that happens.

 

If he hasn't been with her that long I am sure he will come around.

 

Yep, that's what I'd hoped. But it's been at least 4 months now, I'm pretty good at moving between friends, I do it oftenn so wouldn't mind if he would just say something, give a reason or anything. Anyway I spoke to his brother, he said he doesn't see him around so often any more, I also spoke to a friend of his, and he said the same. I guess between his work and his GF, there's no time left for others.

 

It's been on my mind for a long time, however, I decided to ask for advice, because today he started speaking to me online (recently it's been me doing the initiating) and he asked me how I was, so I asked him how he was, and the conversation ended there, no response...

[Lana0120]

I don't like to be negative, but it sounds like the guy has a classic case of girlfrienditis and that no one else matters to him right now. Hell, when he's online, it wouldn't surprise me if it he talking to her. It hurts, but it sounds like you've done all you can - just hope that eventually he'll see the light and start contacting you again. On the positive side, at least if you know he's like that with others, that it isn't anything personal.

[Shin kensen]

I don't like to be negative, but it sounds like the guy has a classic case of girlfrienditis and that no one else matters to him right now. Hell, when he's online, it wouldn't surprise me if it he talking to her. It hurts, but it sounds like you've done all you can - just hope that eventually he'll see the light and start contacting you again. On the positive side, at least if you know he's like that with others, that it isn't anything personal.

 

Yeah good point, would you completely give up on him, or would you (try to) talk to him about it, parhaps send him a mail to get it all out in one go?

[Lana0120]

I would say don't send him an e-mail, because it's unlikely that he'll respond. If you send it to him and he doesn't respond, you're going to feel even worse. I really think the best thing to do is to move on and hope that at some point in the future he realises what a big mistake he made in ditching all of his friends. *hug*