Where has my mojo gone?

[Lovmigrl]

Jezz, Ive done it before - dating and the whole sex thing etc. I even have a daughter to my ex partner to show for it.

 

Then why the hell do I have the balls to go out and talk to women, you know actually try to meet and talk to a complete stranger in a bar or whenever.

 

Where has my mojo gone (I'm 43 very soon is that why?). Is is because I've lost my confidence? Maybe god or fate has led me to where I am in this life today? Do I fear the pain of rejection.

 

I look around and I see all these happy couples keeping each other company and I think that was me 6 years ago before all the * * * * started happening in my life. I feel like I am bashing my head on a brick wall sometimes getting nowhere in life and I am half way through it already. ](*,)

 

I am thinking if I don't try to do it I will not get hurt again but then again I feel so lonely in my flat by myself. Have to look on the bright side though, at least I can do what I want at home with out bothering anybody. Help - any ideas??

[Beec]

Our lives are created by us making choices, every day, every week, every hour, etc. You got here because you are makin a choice. You seem to be chooosing to feel safe and not risk rejection, but that come with the consequence of being alone.

 

If you want to get your confidence back, then you can try to begin by jsut getting back into the simple conversations, without seeking the relationship, date or sex, and begin just talking, and see what happens.

[ButterflyWrists]

If you want to get your confidence back, then you can try to begin by jsut getting back into the simple conversations, without seeking the relationship, date or sex, and begin just talking, and see what happens.

 

Agree with that!

 

You're looking for a relationship.. Why not just go out, to have some fun. Flirt and be a fun guy. Don't show that you're too interested, turns people off (i think?)

Don't dwell on the past nor right now, you can only change the future, so look, and deside what it is you'd like to get out of life before you can't do much more.. And have fun.. Lifes too short to waist worrying over mistakes.

[CluelessGuy321]

It's a confidence thing I think. I know an Indian guy (Indian accent and all) who was 49 and starting chatting with a 21 year old girl he met on a plane. They ended up hooking up and going out for a while.