Why is he so nasty

[Snow_bunny]

Ok so this is my situation....sorry its a bit long. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 years on and off and we recently had a baby who is just over 3 months and he treats me terribly. He left me for four months in the middle of my pregnancy and started seeing another person immediately. He used to flaunt it in my face saying i love you to her a week sfter we broke up. But anyways that's another story and for some reason i decided to forgive him and we got back together about 6 weeks before my son was born. Prior to that time i had bought everything for our baby on a next to nothing wage as i had a lot of blood pressure related problems with my pregnancy towards the end (preclampsia and what not). Ok well thats not the problem...i realise i got back with him that time to try and have a sort of family for our son i guess...but yeah anyways thats just a bit of background information. Ok my problem now is that he just doesn't seem to care about me except for when it suits him. For instance toniught i had organised my parents to baby sit our son so i could have my first real night out but rather than wait for me he just went to the pub with his friends. I was completely dressed up and we had organised this some weeks ago but rather than pick me up to go out he went to the pub with his mates and when i rang him he talked down to me and kept hanging up. I don't think he is with another girl though. Ok thats just an example of how he treats me. I don't know why i am with him....in fact a fortnight ago i tried to break up with him and he wouldn't allow it. He kept saying "no we're a family now and i'm not letting you break up wih me". Ok so if he didn't want to break up why is he saying he doesn't care about me on the phone and doing that sort of stuff tonight?? I don't want to be with him but i always end up getting back with him....he makes me feel like no one else would ever want me and that i'm ugly and useless. Sorry i took so long. Any advice is welcome....i just feel like crap at the moment.

[CHEMICAL_ROMANCEXXX]

he sounds like a complete jerk. he's selfish, controlling, inconsiderate and makes you feel worthless. as you have said WHY ARE YOU WITH HIM?? he seems to have no respect for you're feelings and treats you like something he found on the bottom of his shoe.

 

he properly thinks he can get away with anything and you will take him back. I would usually say have a talk with him and tell him how you feel, but i don't think this guy is capable of changing himself - you have already given him enough channces. please kick this loser to the curve and find someone that will respect you and treat you how you deserve. you can do better than this

[Snow_bunny]

Yes but thats one of my problems i did try and break up with him but he just wouldn't allow it as i said he kept saying "we're a family now" but it seems like its ok for him to break up with me but not the other way around

 

 

Sorry i will just add that he does have a good side when he wants to and when he wants to show it i feel like i am just overreacting about all the other things like perhaps some how it is my fault and then i just seem to get back with him. He has this way of making me feel guilty like some how his money troubles or whatever it is at the time are my fault etc

[athena-lee]

Darl you can do sooo much better than him, you have a son and your son should have a good like too. And if the father isnt treating you well then i dont see why you should be with him for the hell of it. I nkow you tried to break up with him, but I dont know maybe you should move into your parents place or move away from him with friends or something and try to break off all contact with him and if he is the kind of guy to get violent then i dont know maybe see the police about him. He isnt being fair and its soo sad to see girls like this. And you arent ugly your georgous dont worry about what he said. good luck and let us know how you go ok.. x

[Snow_bunny]

The only problem with moving away or not allowing him in my house is legally because there is no court orders for custody for our son he can walk straight into my house any time and they can't do anything about it

[ButterflyWrists]

Then get a court order on your son. and make sure ur a single parent,s o he cant come chasing back at you as and when he wants. You are better then this.. And if u get distressed, and upset, your son will feel it, and become upset aswel.

please get away from him, leave him, go to ur mum and dads house, and call him and tell him its over.

dont let him get at you. You're worth 10 times more than he is.

[Bunney]

Get the custody for your son and walk away from him! He's an abuser, and you surely don't want your son growing up having a dad like this, right? He's bad influence for the child. You and your son deserve someone who treats you like gold, not a jerk like this! Don't give him the pleasure of being letting him control you and treat you like crap.

 

Have the guts to stand up for yourself and get rid of him! You're only wasting precious time.