Never orgasmed?

[butthairz]

Apparently, my current girlfriend has been in relationships and ingaged in sex, has masterbated and has never had an orgasm over the coarse of the past two years. could this be a personal problem like she may be uncomfortable with herself or can it actually be like a physical issue.

[lovelyc]

neither buddy...many women just can't orgasm from sex alone and then again some can...that is def. NOT bad nor is something wrong with her...if I remember correctly around 75% don't orgasm from intercourse alone...I don't really like to give sex advice but just try other things that may get her to orgasm..

[MargaretK]

I didn't orgasm for years during sex. Then I had about a two year gap without sex. I used that time to get to know my body and get comfortable with myself and I was able to orgasm on my own and now during sex as well. Your gf just needs to relax, feel the moment and let herself go. Maybe encourage her to try and orgasm on her own, like with masterbation and then, in time, she may be able to achieve orgasm through sex.

 

The important thing is to not put pressure on her or yourself. If you are thinking it is something you are doing or not doing then stop thinking like that. It is so much harder for women to orgasm than men and usually it is not the mans performance that has any say in the matter. She just needs to relax and let herself go.

 

ALSO some women (like me in the past) still really, really, really enjoy sex without orgasm. Women do not have to orgasm to enjoy sex.

[Tethys]

Before I give advice, I need some clarification --

 

When you say she hasn't had an orgasm in the past two years, do you mean she has orgasmed before, but just not in the past two years? Or do you mean she's only been having sex/masturbating in the last two years and never had an orgasm?

[MargaretK]

Before I give advice, I need some clarification --

 

When you say she hasn't had an orgasm in the past two years, do you mean she has orgasmed before, but just not in the past two years? Or do you mean she's only been having sex/masturbating in the last two years and never had an orgasm?

 

hehehe I probably should have asked that same question before I went on my ramble