Some things that are pissing me off....

[WillamB83]

Hello I am a student going to college right now. I am known for always being happy and never losing my temper. I feel important and special to myself and my friends and family... Over the past 2 years I have met students at my age and level who seem like they are always out there to be better than me. Ive had roomates who knew it all, had it all, and act like they can do anything they want. In particular my roomate who is the same major as me but is ahead of me in licenses rubbed it in my face how well off he is now that he is so far ahead and how it sucks at what level I am at. Basically my major requires me to get 5 licenses in order and I have 3 of them but he has all 5. Ive tried my best to ignore their "showing off" and act cool and friendly to them but they keep talking and talking and talking so much * * * * aobut how much they do and how great their life is.... I am so sick of this and its all building up in me and I dont know how to express myself now. Again I have tried doing the friend steps, I have tried explaining how were the same major, etc... I dont understand why they keep bugging me about their fortune.

 

Is it because they are jealous of me? I ask myself that question every day. Is it because I show too much respect and they take it for granted. I mean what/how is (telling me how great their life is) gonna help them out? Or do they want me to be jealous of them???

 

I must say though that I have many friends that are normal and are not know it alls, etc... I'm just asking for your input. I want to see what you guys think of this and what I should do.

[HappyAsALark]

It may not be that they are jealous of you, it may be they just want the world to know everything good they have in their life and everything good they do. These people tend to actually have low self esteem and are always needing praise and reassurance, even though on the outside they seem like super tough know it alls.

[Daligal83]

Most of the time, people who brag too much really just feel insecure. Don't let it get to you. You know you've been doing well and that's all you need to go on. Can you spend less time with him? Or change the topic when he starts to brag?

[Zackinlaw]

If you are mature for your age, as your post indicates, you are going to run into these childish and frustrating things while in college. Take them with grace ... chances are they will grow out of them soon. Congratulate them on their self-aggrandized accomplishments, then smile to yourself, knowing that you don't need to put someone down just to lift yourself up!

 

Zack.

[WillamB83]

Well thanks for the support. I think I am gonna focus away from them and let them do their own thing. I am happy with what I am doing now and thats all that should really matter.... Thanks again for the advice you guys gave me a different perspective to look at it from.