Feel like I am going crazy

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My ex and I broke up a few weeks ago and I have good and bad days. By good I mean I have the feelings of, who wants to be with someone who doesn't want you and try to think of all the bad things in the relationship. However today all I can think of are the good things, I am even trying to think of the bad things and I still miss her terribly...this is driving me crazy.

 

Its slowing my work to a crawl! I hate this feeling of complete loss. I know I just need to let her go but man is that easier said than done. It might be because today's her birthday but still doesn't make me feel better. I guess I feel like she is moving right along and I am left sitting in the wake. She has so many new distractions around her, new roommates, starting grad school that I feel it will be easier for her to move on. Don't get me wrong I have great friends and go out with them on the weekends, still just having a rough day. Aghhhhh!!!!

[Sadman84]

Hey buddy I feel for you. I'm only in my 1.5 month mark of NC she's dating someone else, its harder and easier at the same time. Harder cause you know she's replaced you, but easier cause you just wanna be like "F YOU!" lol.

 

Anyway my advice to you, is to find things that make you feel like a million bucks. For me its jogging, and recently started playing raquet ball with friends, its funny out of the whole day I'll go 2 hours with out thinking about her, its amazing!

 

It make take time to get to this point of your breakup but things are getting better all the time, I do take steps backwards though sometimes.

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Hey buddy I feel for you. I'm only in my 1.5 month mark of NC she's dating someone else, its harder and easier at the same time. Harder cause you know she's replaced you, but easier cause you just wanna be like "F YOU!" lol.

 

Anyway my advice to you, is to find things that make you feel like a million bucks. For me its jogging, and recently started playing raquet ball with friends, its funny out of the whole day I'll go 2 hours with out thinking about her, its amazing!

 

It make take time to get to this point of your breakup but things are getting better all the time, I do take steps backwards though sometimes.

 

Funny I think we both replied to each others posts at the same time! I go to the gym a lot, I am in the middle of cutting phase to get back to my single day shape and weight. You know how relationships pack on a few pounds. Anyway I am good at doing this when single. As opposed to being one to sit and wallow, excercise, is sort of a saving grace, that and good friends.

[cabman]

Sadman84,

 

You must have taken a page from my story. It's been almost 5 weeks for me. She broke it off. For me there are really bad days. Sometimes a few in a row. Then there are much better days. Today has been one of them. When the incredibly strong craving to call her comes on (which is several times a day) it subsides quicker now. I am taking it one day at a time. I am ever so slowly getting into the thinking that we will not get back together and that she is not going to call or change her mind.

 

All I can say is to keep plugging away.

[MarkD]

The feeling of being alone in the world is so strong sometimes going through break ups like this, and then you come on here and see how many other guys like us are going through the exact same deal. It really sucks. My GF broke up with me around 3 months ago and I'm going on 3 weeks of NC. It really does hurt like hell and I've definitely been having more bad days then good ones...but they are coming. I have also hit the gym to keep me busy and started jogging too. Stuff like that keeps my mind busy but I still think of her.

 

I am also still kinda stuck on thinking there is that possible chance of her coming back, but I know even if that did happen, it wouldn't be for a very long time. From what I have read, the only time it would be good to get back together, is when both people have completely moved on and would be okay with dating other people, but still feel the strong love for each other and want to give it another try.

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She broke up with me around a month and a half ago and and it still hurts pretty bad for me. Ive started hanging out with friends alot more and doing things with them to get my mind off of her as much as i can and that really helps alot. Currently i have alot of free time at work, and on the days that i dont hang out with friends and end up sitting at home i thinking about here alot, and thats when i reallly get down. i also feel like she is moving on alot better than i am because she is alread dating other guys as well, so that just adds to my depression. I just wanted you to not feel so alone, i know it kinda hepls to see that others are going through the same stuff and that we have eachothers backs.

 

Its funny that you guys are hitting the gym and getting back into the shape, im doing the complete oppisite. Ive been eating alot more, and eating more unhealthy since my gf broke it off with me. I know its kinda a subconscious comforting thing with me though.

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No it is nice to know we are not in this alone. As for doing the opposite to hitting the gym, indulging for a bit is probably ok to soothe your soul, but you don't want it to snowball out of control. With my last bad break-up prior to this, dated six years she cheated on me, I drank myself to sleep everynight so I could stop thinking. However this time around I only drink in social situations and don't drink at home at all. Just thought it would be better for me this way around, its a temporary patch if you know what I mean.