Tricked Bf On Messenger

[jerk chicken]

My friend tricked my bf on msn and he ended up giving his number to

"a random girl" and said he was single,

he said he only did it to play along and was curious of who it was, i know i went looking for something bad becoz i aimed to test him, im a bit shocked that he gave out number what do u think i should do ???????????

[RayKay]

My friend tricked my bf on msn and he ended up giving his number to

"a random girl" and said he was single,

he said he only did it to play along and was curious of who it was, i know i went looking for something bad becoz i aimed to test him, im a bit shocked that he gave out number what do u think i should do ???????????

 

This is not the first time you have tried to "trick him" though is it? I wonder if he knew you might be doing it again.

 

I think what you should do is stop trying to lay traps for someone. If you do that, they are bound to somehow fall into it even without negative intentions. He may have as he said just been curious as to what the heck was going on, or maybe he would of followed through...but either way you would never know the truth as it was a TRAP and an artificially laid set-up.

 

I also think you need to walk away from this relationship because either:

 

1) You don't trust him because he is not trustworthy which makes for an unhealthy relationship.

 

2) You don't trust him though he is trustworthy which is highly unhealthy and unfair.

 

I have never "tested" my boyfriend, and I have no reason to not trust him. If I felt I had to "test him" I would find that extremely unhealthy and either indicate an issue with myself or him...to which there are solutions other than keeping to lay these traps.

 

There are a LOT of trust issues in your relationship going by your threads. Maybe it is time to sort THAT out and decide a proactive solution, rather than laying traps.

[jettison]

RayKay's advice is spot on. End it. It's unhealthy.

 

You can't judge someone for their faults when you go about judging him by engaging in highly questionable, borderline unethical practices. You are determined to torpedo your relationship it would seem one way or another. Sometimes, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[Meow18]

I agree with RayKay as well. This relationship has no trust and I don't exactly blame you for being untrustworthy.

 

I'm surprised your boyfriend isn't hurt that you trapped him like that. Seriously, if my boyfriend did something like that to me, I would not be able to handle it. And I wouldn't expect my boyfriend to stay with me if I didn't trust him enough to do that.

 

However, whether or not he said he was single and gave his phone number only because he was curious.. you are always going to have this in the back of your head. And what he did was not right any way.

[Hope75]

Another vote for ending the relationship.

 

If you feel you have to set traps for your boyfriend to catch him doing something wrong than yo obviously don't trust or respect him, two very important factors for a healthy and loving relationship.

 

I've never felt the need to set up my boyfriend, he's never given me any reason not to trust him. If yours has, you need to re-examine whether this relationship is right for you. If he hasn't, he does not deserve to be with someone who does not trust him and who tries to trick him.

[nuttybuddy]

Actually, I gotta say, I've done something similar too... but it was all in good fun, although I guess my bf didn't find it all too funny. And I was young and immature... (more so than now.) And my bf didn't fall into the trap. He in fact, told me every step of the way what was going on. I have a really good bf. I know I'm bad... and I've learned my lesson.

 

I hope you've learned your lesson too and never do this again.

 

I really felt bad after doing it, cuz my bf just couldn't believe I did that.

[HappyAsALark]

Be done. You obviously did not trust him to begin with to do something like that. Without trust there is no relationship.

[jerk chicken]

He told me what was going on and that some girl was tyreing to tlk to him while my friend was writing what he did, im only upset that he gave the number but he said he was only curious. I am not suspicious of him the reason i did it was just spontaneous, dont think its enough to end the relationshjip but i wont trick him again, he has learnt his lesson and i have 2.

[nuttybuddy]

Well, if he's been telling you what was going on... and you're only upset that he gave out the phone number..... I think you can forgive and move on. Trust your bf that he really had no intention of meeting up with this girl. Maybe he just wanted to hear her ugly voice. who knows. he got curious.

 

My bf said he was curious about the girl that was messaging him too. so in my next message to him, I described myself as a fat girl and he was IMMEDIATELY turned off. teehee.

[Hope75]

He told me what was going on and that some girl was tyreing to tlk to him while my friend was writing what he did, im only upset that he gave the number but he said he was only curious. I am not suspicious of him the reason i did it was just spontaneous, dont think its enough to end the relationshjip but i wont trick him again, he has learnt his lesson and i have 2.

 

I find it hard to believe that you trusted him and yet tried to trap him into getting caught chatting with another woman. I'm not sure you are being 100% honest with us and with yourself.

 

But I hope that you have learned your lesson- if you don't trust your guy, don't be with him.

[free2Bme]

I have to say I am a little surprised HE has not ended things with all these tricks you are playing on him. It makes me wonder if he is very serious about the relationship.