First date topics of conversation......

[bigthings46]

So I am sitting here thinking about first date topics of conversation. Topics that should be discussed and avoided like the plague. I know that one thing that ruins a good date is a bad subject and interest flies out the window so I would like to ask the board what you people think about the subject. Obviously politics is a bad one. What do you men/women think is great first date conversation? I say we make a list of things that should/should not be discussed on first or second dates. Lets go!

[Dating Coach]

So I am sitting here thinking about first date topics of conversation. Topics that should be discussed and avoided like the plague. I know that one thing that ruins a good date is a bad subject and interest flies out the window so I would like to ask the board what you people think about the subject. Obviously politics is a bad one. What do you men/women think is great first date conversation? I say we make a list of things that should/should not be discussed on first or second dates. Lets go!

 

From friendzoned:

 

Here is some advice I was given for going on a first date.

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3. Topic of conversation. First, you need to learn that just about everything to do with your car, computer, job, religion, political views, and other stuff that is boring or controversial should be *strictly* off limits at this point. Your goal is to not bore her to death! You should also focus on positive, fun, and entertaining topics. So no blood and guts, no talk about Saddam Hussein unless you're talking about the Southpark movie and she brought it up and loves it, no guns, no crime, no sex jokes or crimes, stuff like that. Do NOT talk like a creep. Do NOT talk about ex GF's or BF's, no blatent sex jokes, and other offensive topics.

 

You have to remember one thing: You are here to get to know HER. Now I know a lot of guys say "Oh, I'd be so happy if ANY woman liked me and I would do anything to date so-and-so" but that is a crazy concept. Women are not all perfect - they are human, just like you or I. They do crazy things just like us. They may do things that are downright offensive. Your job is to find out on a high level if she is SANE. You do this by asking her lots of questions, and then getting her to expand on them. Such as "So, have you lived around here long? Really? Where did you live before that? What was your favorite part of living there?" Etc. If she starts to let you know that she's a **** user who goes to clubs and takes a different guy home every week... well, I would not want to date a woman like that. In the end, you want to talk away knowing 100x as much about her as she does you.

 

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6. Flirt. Joke. Have fun. Never be serious. Be confident in a funny way. That means that you need to lighten up and be yourself, but at the same time avoid serious topics. If she asks how old you are, make her guess. If she asks what you do for a living, avoid the cliche "If I tell you I'd have to kill you" but instead say that you do something that is as outrageous as you think you can get away with. Then see if she "catches" you. If she doesn't wait a minute or two and let her know. For example, I may tell her that I'm a lumberjack. Of course, I'm not a muscle man, so any woman with half a brain should say "Bull!" and then we can have a good laugh. I generally don't talk about work too much, though, other than to say I am a manager at such-and-such government agency and it's a good job. Any more details are boring.

 

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8. Set up another date. And the end of the date, if things went well, be sure to let her know that you would like to go on another date but will call her. Don't tell her when and where yet, because I doubt you've planned it yet. This will give you some time to think what to do next. Anyway, I would recommend waiting 1-3 days to call her again and set up another date.

 

9. Finally, I would *strongly* reccommend avoiding email and phone for long conversations. They do not lend themselves well to romantic situations, so instead you should use them as they are intended - for short exchanges and to set up times to go on another date.

 

So, I hope that helps. Let us know how it goes!

[Dako]

Food, nature, work, pop culture, science, art, books, film, family, travel, school, weird experiences, childhood, people watching, history, and her eye color might be a start.

[bigthings46]

This is starting to get good : ) Keep em coming

[Blue Skittles]

Things to talk about: favorite movies, food, interests, family, school, sports, past experiences, future plans, find something you are both interested in and talk about it..

 

Things to avoid talking about: Ex boyfriends/girlfriends, being negative (like complaining a lot), STD's, your porn collection

[Alexander DeLarge]

Man if I ruled out most of the things on the long post up at the top I think I'd have nothing to say. No wonder women don't like me.

[ghost69]

music, concerts, travels, college. i still use the basic stuff up top to start off. it usually gets me going into something else though. something will click when they talk and get you on another subject. don't go prepped with a list ready to go #1, then #2.

[boo121]

Actors, culture, music. heres a couple to throw in:

 

- which is the superior gender

- wheres the craziest place u ever had sex?

- what is the most embarrassing thing thats ever happened to you on a date?