Help!!!!!!!!!asap!!!

[midoribailey]

hi,

I have been with my bf for over a year now.. and the last couple days he has been telling me he is not happy... i am not affectionate enough..do not give him the oral sex he "needs" (wants). And he keeps reminding me of all the things he has to offer me.. and that i have nothing to offer him.. i do not even show him how much i love him.. i do really love him and i do want to be with him.. but how do i show him that without making myself look like a retard?? i dont know if i am scared to show him any affection.. or what.. but i need to make him happy... how?!?!?!

[melrich]

Do you have a problem with showing affection? Why do you think you are scared to show him affectyion?

[nightw0lf]

hi,

I have been with my bf for over a year now.. and the last couple days he has been telling me he is not happy... i am not affectionate enough..do not give him the oral sex he "needs" (wants). And he keeps reminding me of all the things he has to offer me.. and that i have nothing to offer him.. i do not even show him how much i love him.. i do really love him and i do want to be with him.. but how do i show him that without making myself look like a retard?? i dont know if i am scared to show him any affection.. or what.. but i need to make him happy... how?!?!?!

 

Why do you need to give him oral to show him how affectionate you are or how much you love him ?

[midoribailey]

i am not sure.. i dont know what is wrong?? we have been fighting about it for the last 2 days non stop.. and it is driving me nuts.. he has even stopped making any kind of moves at all.. no sex.. nothing.. he says when i make the moves and when i make him happy.. we will have sex again..

[melrich]

Is this just about giving oral or is it about showing affection in general?

[Hope75]

Like Melrich,

 

I'm curious, is this specifically about oral sex, or do you show him any affection in general? Things like holding hands, a backrub, a hug, telling him what he means to you... those sorts of things?

[nuttybuddy]

do not give him oral sex! that's not the issue here.

 

he's suddenly picking fights with you over affection?

 

hmmmm, it sounds like he's looking for a reason to break up. and he's not gonna come out and say it, so he wants YOU to break it off so that he doesn't feel guilty about it.

 

is there a new girl he's met that you don't know about?

[Gath]

hi,

I have been with my bf for over a year now.. and the last couple days he has been telling me he is not happy... i am not affectionate enough..do not give him the oral sex he "needs" (wants). And he keeps reminding me of all the things he has to offer me.. and that i have nothing to offer him.. i do not even show him how much i love him.. i do really love him and i do want to be with him.. but how do i show him that without making myself look like a retard?? i dont know if i am scared to show him any affection.. or what.. but i need to make him happy... how?!?!?!

 

It's kind of hard to get the whole picture here.

 

First, if he's saying something to the effect "you have nothing to offer him" thats

1. Downright mean.

2. Absolutely untrue or he would never have been with you to begin with.

 

Now its possible that he has a point and you're not satisfying his needs with regards to affection, but its equally possible that he's just being a selfish ass. We need more information before any real judgment can be made.

 

When you two met, were you more affectionate? Do you ever initiate things? And when he reminds you of the things he has to offer, is that the way he's putting it? Because thats pretty asinine and insulting right there, he shouldn't be talking to you in that fashion.

[ghost69]

does this guy NOT turn you on? i remember when i first started going out with my last ex. she was wild in the sack and all the oral i wanted, etc. then as we got more comfortable with each other it stopped. the newness left.