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[harlequin19]

I'm a teenager, but I've always felt a lot older than I actually am. For about a year and a half I've been confused about my orientation. I was bi, and then I wasn't, and then I was, and then I wasn't, until finally I relized I wasn't bi or straight, but in fact a lesbian. The reason I was so confused is because I'm an insanely passionate person, and one guy in particular is a very good friend of mine, but my passion was leading me to believe I liked him as more than a friend. I moved away from home last month, and away from him, where I was finally able to see that I do love him, just not like that. I spent a couple weeks in dark self-reflection, still slightly confused. At last I emerged sure of my oreintation. That was about three weeks ago. At the time I decided to stay closeted for a little bit, to become comfortable with myself, etc., but since then I've grown restless. I really want to come out, but at the same time I really want to stay closeted for a while. You might be saying to yourself 'this girl hasn't been sure of herself long enough to come out' but the more I think about it, the more firmly I believe that I've been a lesbian for quite some time, and it just never occurred to me.

So my question is this: What should I do? Should I come out, or should I wait a little while? Is there anyway I can do both?

advice would be greatly appreciated

[WappyWippy]

Hey!

 

I feel the same way completely! I am 16 and a guy but have had the same feelings. I fancied girl(s) for a while until i realised that i was actually gay on the underneath. I have come out to soem friends but i do not want to come out to my parents. I love my mum SO much and am so worried to disappoint her, where i couldn't really care less about my father. This also makes me want to run away as soon as my school finishes and live in the states (i'm form boring old england!). Just play it by ear and try to keep calm. Maybe wait a couple of years? just remember, you are not alone on this!

 

hope this helped a bit

[Flap Jack]

I can relate. You can come out to whomever you want. If you don't want to, don't. BUT, do what's best for you. Whatever would make YOU happiest. I'm still struggling too. You're not alone. Find someone you trust and tell them.

[Flux]

Welcome to my world... I simply won't come out of the closet for my own health and fear of others and confusing them

 

I'm 17 and I am kindof into guys but not as much as I'm into girls. I've never done anything with a girl, hense not coming out. I mean i spend five minuite deicding what color folders I wanted for college yesterday. And I dont like the ones i chose and I wanna change them but I dont wanna take them back cus I want a different color and risk making myself look a * * * in the middle of woolworths

 

And I can't exactly do that with my sexuality, nor can you, you can't just walk out the closet and leave the door open just in case you wanna pop in and linger for a bit. So I know what your going through, I'm just in there for the safety of my health and I dont particularly want to come out as a teen because people just sneer and say 'oh how * * * *le' 'gay my * * * *' and 'shes just doin it for male attention' lol

[Flux]

why can i not say F!ckle? or Ar$e

[DancingShoes]

I know its easier said than done, but dont panic too much about putting yourself in a box sexuality-wise: I know theres this huge pressure to come out as soon as you know you arent straight but you need to do it at your pace and when you feel ready.

 

Remember when you do come out, its not like on tv where you stand up and say it and everyone knows- you might end up coming out to someone different every day so you can pick and choose who you tell and who you dont according to who you feel needs to know and who you would rather leave in the dark.