bubblyblonde11 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 The not checking Facebook/Myspace/Google/Dating sites etc for details about your ex Challenge for 60days. Ok checking these things only hurts the person trying to get over the break up, it just isn't worth looking. It is hard there is no denying that. I've done this challenge cause I see so many threads about looking at these and how naff it makes us feel, myself included. IT JUST IS NOT WORTH IT. I have been in NC for well well over 30days now but for about 2 weeks I have not looked at the above mentioned and am going to be strong and not look for at least 60days by which time I will not care. Link to comment
mintblossom Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I'm joining you on this challenge! Not for an ex. But for a current! I'm serious. No more networking sites for me. All they do is create insecurity, drama and discomfort. Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I don't know why peopel are so into facebook and myspace - they're so superficial! Link to comment
Benjyh Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 my ex doesnt have a myspace/facebook huzzah! Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 my ex doesnt have a myspace/facebook huzzah! Thank goodness- big relief for you! Link to comment
Clabs Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Hey Bubbly! This thread is long overdue because it is amazing how many people make the mistake of snooping about on those daft websites and then get burnt! Mark Link to comment
Gath Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I don't know why peopel are so into facebook and myspace - they're so superficial! aww. . .. but facebook is fun. . . and its real handy for sticking up pictures for friends who are too far away to visit! everyone here is bloody addicted to it. although if we blocked it i think my job site's productivity would quadruple. . . Link to comment
Jess... Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 The not checking Facebook/Myspace/Google/Dating sites etc for details about your ex Challenge for 60days. Ok checking these things only hurts the person trying to get over the break up, it just isn't worth looking. It is hard there is no denying that. I've done this challenge cause I see so many threads about looking at these and how naff it makes us feel, myself included. IT JUST IS NOT WORTH IT. I have been in NC for well well over 30days now but for about 2 weeks I have not looked at the above mentioned and am going to be strong and not look for at least 60days by which time I will not care. Ooh!! Me! Me!! I need this challenge!! (wasn't my latest thread that inspired you was it? Ok, I start today! I can do this!! Link to comment
Thunderforce Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Glad myspace is not popular in my country but we have something simular called HYVES! To be honoust I sometimes look at the profiles of some of my exes of the past ... just curious to know where they are, what became of them, if they are married etc. But that's fine since I have no feelings towards them. Just healthy curiosity I think! Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 aww. . .. but facebook is fun. . . and its real handy for sticking up pictures for friends who are too far away to visit! everyone here is bloody addicted to it. although if we blocked it i think my job site's productivity would quadruple. . . Haha! Now there's a thought. I don't know why - it's just not something that appeals to me. If I want to stay in touch with someone, I keep their e-mail addy and contact details and stay in touch and it actually really annoys me when an old friend sends me one of those automated, 'join this site' messages (so obviously has my e-mail addy), but can't just say 'Hi'. It's like, first there was talking in person, then there was mail, then the telephone, then e-mail, then IM, and now we've got this! Link to comment
Gath Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Haha! Now there's a thought. I don't know why - it's just not something that appeals to me. If I want to stay in touch with someone, I keep their e-mail addy and contact details and stay in touch and it actually really annoys me when an old friend sends me one of those automated, 'join this site' messages (so obviously has my e-mail addy), but can't just say 'Hi'. It's like, first there was talking in person, then there was mail, then the telephone, then e-mail, then IM, and now we've got this! i used to agree. . . but i was forced through mass peer pressure at work to sign up. and then found a bunch of college buddies were on it too, so it ended up being pretty fun. i like it mostly for the ability to share pictures real easy, so everyone was able to see my best pictures from my trip to japan without me having to email them all around or something. some people spend waaaaaaaaaaay too much time on it though. Link to comment
bubblyblonde11 Posted August 21, 2007 Author Share Posted August 21, 2007 But back to the challenge, who is up for it. I always like a challenge........so I've done 14 days another 46 days at least to go. Link to comment
mmisty2001 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I don't know why peopel are so into facebook and myspace - they're so superficial! I must be one of the few people that don't use them !!!! Link to comment
sonador Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 The not checking Facebook/Myspace/Google/Dating sites etc for details about your ex Challenge for 60days. Ok checking these things only hurts the person trying to get over the break up, it just isn't worth looking. It is hard there is no denying that. I've done this challenge cause I see so many threads about looking at these and how naff it makes us feel, myself included. IT JUST IS NOT WORTH IT. I have been in NC for well well over 30days now but for about 2 weeks I have not looked at the above mentioned and am going to be strong and not look for at least 60days by which time I will not care. Ok why anyone would want to do this is beyond me - this doesnt' help you get over the break up process or get over him or whatever the terminology is. Ok so i don't have a boyfriend and have never had one either but i wouldnt' do that. Link to comment
1guygirl Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 i really must get me into this - cos yeah for now its been fun watching ex make a t!t of himself with his many profiles and sending himself gushing comments etc for my benefit...but one day he really will find someone real and a proper gf and it wont be so funny then....so why hand over the reigns ey? i should stop looking while the balls in my court and its not even brill...jus another boredom killer and id never date anyone with a faceparty profile anyway.... but i still cant help a looking hehe.... awww this is gunna be hard...the hardest part of nc i know it is....prob the whole split....jeez... 1 - 2 - 3.... sign me up arrrghh!!!!!!!!!!! thats done it! Link to comment
summerpeach Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Weird.....my ex of 11 yr and I broke up over 7 yrs ago. I have been on facebook for over 4 months and only last week I thought about looking for him. I found him and saw his wedding pic. He married the girl he left me for. That was weird. I wasn't sad cause after 7 yrs, I am so over it. But I love facebook. I am talking to ppl I have not seen in years. Link to comment
Sadman84 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I'll join this challenge, 30 minutes down, 2 months to go lol Link to comment
russ978 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Horray for bubblyblonde11 for starting this challenge! Link to comment
Beginningandend Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Hmmmmm, does the fact that I haven't done that in 2 weeks count? Link to comment
bubblyblonde11 Posted August 21, 2007 Author Share Posted August 21, 2007 Hmmmmm, does the fact that I haven't done that in 2 weeks count? Sure does, same as me then - 14days 46 to go Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 i used to agree. . . but i was forced through mass peer pressure at work to sign up. and then found a bunch of college buddies were on it too, so it ended up being pretty fun. i like it mostly for the ability to share pictures real easy, so everyone was able to see my best pictures from my trip to japan without me having to email them all around or something. some people spend waaaaaaaaaaay too much time on it though. I can see why it would be attractive to people, but it's not for me! Link to comment
andy5128 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Hi All I am not a my space or facebook active user myself. Did set a page up on both as wondered what all the fuss was about but have never really got into it.. Anyway shall I get to the point I am rambling on.. It's important everyone remembers when it comes to cyberspace that YOU can pretty much put anything or say what you want people to HEAR. So remember that as sometimes things you may see or read on these kinda pages is not factual more fictional! So bear this in mind and the best thing to do is as this whole thread is about DON'T look in the first place.. It really won't help and will just make you ponder and analyse.. So steer clear everyone.. Good post Bubs.. Andy PS.. did I mention I was an Astronaut..!!!! Link to comment
Desiderata Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I've been holding pretty strong with this - I mean it's hard not to see on Facebook when your ex has updated, but I've refrained from seeing what he has actually updated. The mini feed and my friends page are horrible to me and I cannot bear to take him off of my friend's list. But I think doing this and actually trying not to look at anything at all will be wonderful for me. It's been a really hard past couple of days. Link to comment
just M.E. Posted August 22, 2007 Share Posted August 22, 2007 I'm in, my ex doesn't have a MySpace or facebook, but he's on the adult dating sites I've quit trying to second guess his next move, I just want to be legally free so he can't hurt me again.l Link to comment
DeeTeeCee Posted August 22, 2007 Share Posted August 22, 2007 i hadn't known of this challenge but i've managed to not check the ex's pages ever since i initiated NC about 4 months ago. i basically removed EVERYTHING pertaining to her: facebook friends, AIM screenname, xanga friend, phone number. you can do it guys/gals! oh and i personally never cared to look at myspace pages for longer than 5 seconds as it hurt my brain. i won't get into how i feel like its just an online meat market, but just on an aesthetic level i can't handle myspace; the layouts and all the customizing that people do are just so messy, i can't stand it. being a graphic designer, i feel like when you let people who have no concept over good typography and color combinations and compositions and layouts and all the things that go into effective visual communication just do whatever they want, you get an overloaded myspace with various slideshows and audio and huge picture posts going on. it seriously reminds me of when homer simpson creates his first webpage with dancing jesus and all the animated GIFs and sounds he could copy+paste. Link to comment
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