Workplace is very sexual. Kinda freaks me out.

[glegend]

Basically the employees at my work place (Starbuck's) are very sexual. Literally, so many comments about the customers especially the women.

 

My boss/manager, well the boss is the two owners who are his father and uncle, is very sexual. All the time we get a whole lot of people coming in and out the store but when some hot girls/women come in right after the store leave he comes up to me and starts "thats was some nice [name body part]" or "I wish I could bang some of that" or "theres so much nice [name of body part] today I with I could have time alone with that".

 

Than the employees start off some how with other employees and my boss/manager on how often they clean there body parts, getting laid, how they get laid, if they shove vibrators or other foreign objects in them and how it feels.

 

I want to tell all of them something. Like I don't care what they say about themselves as long as they keep it to themselves. I do want to tell them

listen those are your customers treat them with some respect those are ladies you are talking about. Am I right or wrong? And is there any clause of some sort I can use to make them stop, like it kinda makes me feel uncomfortable that they are saying these thing. Like personally I'm not one who goes around and says a lot of sexual things, okay I admit sometimes during high school my buddies and I would but it always started up somehow like a joke. An example of how it would come up in high school would be when my buddy wanted to go on a road trip and he was like oh we can do this and that and that he could pick up a girl and then get laid and then I would carry on being like yeah and nine months down the live knock knock heres your kid you remember that magical nigh.....

[Samedy]

Well, since it is happening at management it would be pretty hard for you to complain to management. You could make an annonymous (or formal) complaint at headoffice.

 

This is actually a form of sexual harassment. The comments are sexual and are making you uncomfortable, which, by definition, is sexual harassment.

[Dako]

You know you have three options.

You just have to make a decision.

 

Complain to the boss (retaliation)

Ignore it. (stress)

Quit. (unemployment)

 

I'd ignore it and apply at the nearby Starbucks.

[DavidWebb]

If it's happening at the workplace then talk like that can be considered harassment. YOu say it makes you feel uncomfortable then you have a right to say something, if the managers are in on it and saying it just as much if not more than other employess then call corporate about the problem. Being that it's a conglomerate company like Starbucks they take things liek that very seriously, I used to work at one so I know a little bit about it. Somewhere in the store will be a number or Point Of Contact for situations like this. If you fgeel that talking to the managers about it will end up in losing your job you can usually report them anonymously or ask to have your name kept quiet if it's investigated. Best thing is to go through the proper cahnnels if possible i.e. manager first, then district manager, and so on. but if your manager is part of the problem don't be afraid to go over their head about it.

[ElektraHere]

Have you called the SBUX Corp line? There is a formal complaint line that keeps it anon. This is along the lines of sexual harassment. Not towards you but discussions that are inappropriate and can constitute as as sexual harassment.

[musicguy]

I say that kind of stuff at work a lot..if you're not happy with it, leave or talk to upper management about it

[ElektraHere]

I say that kind of stuff at work a lot..if you're not happy with it, leave or talk to upper management about it

 

All I have to say is WRONG WRONG WRONG! No one should have to be subjected to such crass comments.

[glegend]

Well yeah it kinda makes me feel uncomfortable about it. Like I'm not the type of person to go around saying "yo that girl is so hot look at the butt I just wanna bang" like thats not me. I don't know if its because I have a girlfriend and that I don't like saying things like that but I've never been like that.

 

Complain to the boss (retaliation) Wimpy way out and that the last resort cause the boss and his son talk a lot and I'm trying to avoid him cause he gives me this crap feedback and that the last thing I need more pressure from them on top of the pressure on me already

 

Ignore it. (stress) This is like my only option and thats what I've been trying to do but it makes me kinda uncomfortable.

 

Quit. (unemployment) Honestly I'm looking for another job cause I'm getting too many headaches there so until that happens I need the job.

[glegend]

Have you called the SBUX Corp line?

 

No I have not called this Corp line can you tell me a bit about it?

[ElektraHere]

I PM'd you the info.

[StarLily]

That's horrible! Any good company makes you watch a sexual harassment video at your orientation day. If Starbucks doesn't do it, it's a bad place to work obviously! It's good that you're looking for another job... there should be a lot of openings right now because college students are leaving for college. I myself had my last day at Target today.

[ElektraHere]

^SL SBUX has a very STRICT policy against this.

[glegend]

I PM'd you the info.

 

Thanks a lot I appreciate it

[glegend]

That's horrible! Any good company makes you watch a sexual harassment video at your orientation day. If Starbucks doesn't do it, it's a bad place to work obviously! It's good that you're looking for another job... there should be a lot of openings right now because college students are leaving for college. I myself had my last day at Target today.

 

They didn't do that with me. However when I was working for a grocery store I did watch the Safety in Workplace video which covered a sexual harassment but it said how to deal with it yourself if that doesn't work work then report it to your manager. They just gave me online training modules to work on at home, very smart at home = no pay.

Honestly I'm looking for another job thats a bit more laid back cause the barista calls are giving me a hard time especially on huge order where they want like a decaffeinated skimmed milk low fat no sugar mocha late. Plus knowing what it every food item and being able to describe the food items and drinks. So basically its a lot of stress for me and I have a lot of pressure on my shoulders already and I don't need that much more on top of that.

[CrazyKing]

In most cases it means that they have sexual problems, if they talk like that... I know like two guys who are always talking about girls [body parts (LOL)] and so, but actually they have so much sexual & sex-related problems, they just try to hide it by trying to talk like gigolos...

[glegend]

ell its either they have sexual problems like how you say (CrazyKing) or they are very very horny

[musicguy]

you either quit complaining about it or do something about it, your choice

[CaptainPlanet]

Hospitality is a sexual industry I hate to say it, staff are typically hired for their looks and are young. What goes with that is a balance of hormones and close close proximity stressful environment is a text book recipe for sexuality. From my experience most of the staff LOVE it, in my experience it can be a tough job and a lot of this behaviour is just letting off steam from what can be a CRAPPY job.

 

Honestly when I was your age I worked out the back of a pizza restaurant the bosses were crazy about cheking out customers on the video, they'd always call us boys out from the back to check out the talent. I found it kinda pointless but from their perspective, they work in that place 14 hours a day they need some excitement ! Whenever a new person started, it was always "I hope its a chick", " I hope shes hot" kind of thing. My bosses behaviour annoyed me too at time and there were incidents of staff doing things to each other in the toilets and in their cars on breaks ( I wish I was kidding but I'm not). Being adolescents we spent a lot of our time flirting with the girls as normal kids would.

 

Some of my fondest memories of my adolescents come from that store. I had the time of my life and I maintain it was the best job I have ever had. Sexuality is normal, some people are more sexual than others we need to learn to tolerate each other. So as long as your bosses aren't propositioning employees or telling the new girl she has nice boobies. If they're just checking out customers, or talking about the girls behind their backs (hey they do it to us) I don't think any of us have a right to stop people letting off steam and enjoying themselves. Part of being a mature productive working adult is learning to tolerate people and their differences, I think this is a fantastic head start for you in deciding if you want to be tolerant or not.

[glegend]

Honestly when I was your age I worked out the back of a pizza restaurant the bosses were crazy about checking out customers on the video, they'd always call us boys out from the back to check out the talent. I found it kinda pointless but from their perspective, they work in that place 14 hours a day they need some excitement ! Whenever a new person started, it was always "I hope its a chick", " I hope shes hot" kind of thing. My bosses behaviour annoyed me too at time and there were incidents of staff doing things to each other in the toilets and in their cars on breaks ( I wish I was kidding but I'm not). Being adolescents we spent a lot of our time flirting with the girls as normal kids would.

 

Well yeah the must have been bored. But come on man its very childish, its like they just hit puberty and just discovered the opposite sex. You co-workers must have been very bored themselves and they needed to get off from the girls surveillance video.

As for flirting, that acceptable. Everyone does it even when your intention are not to. If a girl were to come in and my boss/manager were to flirt with her whatever it doesn't bug me he makes her feel good and he might even get a number out of it. But not be like "ohh glegend did you see the size of her rear I would sure love to stick my thing through it"

 

Sexuality is normal, some people are more sexual than others we need to learn to tolerate each other.

 

Of course sexuality is normal. And yeah some are more then others but there are times when its ok to show it and there are times when its inappropriate.

 

So as long as your bosses aren't propositioning employees or telling the new girl she has nice boobies. If they're just checking out customers, or talking about the girls behind their backs (hey they do it to us) I don't think any of us have a right to stop people letting off steam and enjoying themselves. Part of being a mature productive working adult is learning to tolerate people and their differences, I think this is a fantastic head start for you in deciding if you want to be tolerant or not.

 

I have not herd anything about any of the other employees like how big there breast are. Just stuff like, how often do you wash you balls and have you had anal or what does a vibrator feel like. You know things like that.

Its mostly checking out the customers. But don't forget it just takes one customer to hear one of those comments and then there like a sexual embarrassment charge or their boyfriend knocking one his teeth out + mine for hearing that crap.

I'm tolerant person. But there is only so much one can take until they explode. I'm very tolerant with them , I'm having enough problems with them already and I need to tolerate this on top.

[musicguy]

people are gonna say sexual things inside the home, at work, at a bar, library, etc. Sexuality is all around us. If you have such a big problem with it, do something about it

[glegend]

I'm gonna my pay cheque tomorrow and I'm gonna give their sexual harassment line a call and report it as well as giving the health inspector a call because its not very sanitary. I just want my pay first.

[Lana0120]

I Was just looking at careers and happened to notice you wrote this post. This is one good thing about you not being at Starbucks anymore. It was never as bad for me, but I used to work in a place where some guys were nearly as bad... like they'd see an underage girl and go 'wow she has a nice ass... whoops shouldn't say that', and a couple of times I got mine pinched (not very happy about that!). When it is only words, the best thing to do is to just ride it out I think, even if it does make you feel uncomfortable - or ultimately quit if it gets too much, which you have now anyway. God, your former co-workers just sound gross. Talk about wash their mouths out with soap lol.

[glegend]

It was never as bad for me, but I used to work in a place where some guys were nearly as bad... like they'd see an underage girl and go 'wow she has a nice ass... whoops shouldn't say that', and a couple of times I got mine pinched (not very happy about that!). God, your former co-workers just sound gross. Talk about wash their mouths out with soap lol.

 

It was exactly the same thing with me. They were like with the all the underage girls and the ones that are over the age. With my co workers its have even got to the extent to where its like I would like to have sex with her, just rip her clothes and got down on her, it was like look at the that camel toe on her.

My co workers were gross. Like they would even touch the food without washing their hands and depending what fell on the floor they would even put it back and give it to the customers. I once mopped the floor and the barista dropped the lids for the cup so I picked them up and went to throw them out and they are "no no they are still good we can still use them only the ones that are wet can't be used".

[Lana0120]

Ugh. You're definitely better off outta there.

[glegend]

Yeah I know. I was coming home very tired and with headaches from everything that was going on so its better that I'm gone.