My life is just so boring.. I don't know how to have fun.

[Myles]

Lately I've just been overwhelmed by so much in my life right now. It seems like I'm missing something in my life.I'm just finding it hard to be happy. My life is completely dull. I work at a job I hate with a passion. Constantly on a job hunt to find another one but to no luck! It seems as if my friends are slowly disappearing in my life and it seems like we're growing apart, especially since so many left for college and I started school last week. I started college and so far I'm not enjoying it. I know it's too early to judge but it just seems like it sucks right now. I see no familiar faces from high school and the whole experience just seems dull, from the teachers,buildings, just everything is turning me off now. Not to mention, I'm not really feeling the classes I'm taking and I'm finding myself wanting to go to sleep during lectures. I just want my life to be a little more interesting.

 

My life just seems to be the same routine everyday,school,work and I go home to emptiness. I would like to do more things, what I don't know. I would like to make new friends and maybe even possibly get a girlfriend. I suck in the love department and it hardly seems any girl is interested in me. It's hard making new friends and it's going to be hard in college. I'm not much of a social person, not to mention most people think I'm weird anyway so a lot of people don't even want to be bothered with me to begin with, which makes me feel lonely and isolated at times.

 

The friends I did have stemmed from Elementary school and I had a total of 5 real good friends.Lately they're too busy in their own lives to talk so I'm feeling extremely lonely. I tried going out to the mall last weekend around here to watch a movie and it was soo depressing. Here I am buying a ticket for myself. While I looked around, there were so many people hanging out together, you either saw couples, a bunch of friends walking around together or you saw happy go lucky families just having fun. It made me feel worse and I didn't even bother to go see the movie, I just went back home and I actually cried. I'm just feeling very lonely and miserable and I don't know how to be happy. I'm trying so hard to be happy and to be positive but it's not working.

[Shin kensen]

"It's hard making new friends and it's going to be hard in college."

 

I don't know what country you're from, it's different in all. But in the UK when you go to university, you tend to go to another, not the one of your home area. So people from all different schools go to the same university. No one knows each other, they're all in the same boat, so it's really easy to make friends.

 

How's that different to your situation, and if not, why is it going to be so hard.

[LostInMyThoughts]

It could just be a point in time where things just really suck. No real reason to remain positive given all the things that you've written.

 

Have you thought about going to see a professional to sit down and talk?

 

I know when I left for college, it was hard leaving my friends and family. I was miserable. Eventually things ended up working out for the best, but at the time I hated it. I'm sure talking to someone and getting it off your chest would help. Is there a school counselor, or student advisor you can talk with?

[Lana0120]

"It's hard making new friends and it's going to be hard in college."

 

I don't know what country you're from, it's different in all. But in the UK when you go to university, you tend to go to another, not the one of your home area. So people from all different schools go to the same university. No one knows each other, they're all in the same boat, so it's really easy to make friends.

 

How's that different to your situation, and if not, why is it going to be so hard.

 

 

Not strictly true. Increasingly more and more people all over are living at home and going local because of the expenses of living away from home.

 

It's true though that the majority of people are going to be in the same boat as you and it's normal to feel miserable. You just have to try and talk to people in your lectures, sure some will take or leave you, but you'll make acquaintances and start to feel a bit better and get more confidence.

[Shin kensen]

Not strictly true. Increasingly more and more people all over are living at home and going local because of the expenses of living away from home.

 

It's true though that the majority of people are going to be in the same boat as you and it's normal to feel miserable. You just have to try and talk to people in your lectures, sure some will take or leave you, but you'll make acquaintances and start to feel a bit better and get more confidence.

 

hmm yeah true. I met a lot of people from joining a sports team, they've become very good friends.

[Daligal83]

Myles, have you thought about checking out the clubs at your college and picking one or two to try out? I met my best friends and my boyfriend through getting active in school like that. Plus it just adds fun to college life, away from the classes and homework.

 

The start of college is tough. You don't know anyone and you have to take the gen eds that no one really wants to take. It doesn't stay like that. You get to know people and you get to sign up for classes that YOU want to take. They really do become a lot more interesting. Are you living in the dorms this year or commuting?

[Myles]

At this point I really don't feel like I need to talk to a counselor. I'm not depressed, just finding my life dull and boring and it seems impossible for it to brighten up. Making friends is hard because I'm a really shy person. Even when I do talk, I make a lot of associates than friends. Like the only time I really talk to them or see them was at school.Like in high school, I was well known but I never really had true friends that wanted to hang out with me outside of the school experience, like going to the movies or just hanging out in general.Also not to mention people considered me weird for some reason. I came off too talkative and goofy to some people & I guess that's what turned people off. Then there were people who just didn't plain like me so whatever, I don't expect it to be much different in college.

 

I've accepted that I'm not your average person and I may be a little geeky so I guess it's hard for people to relate to me. That's why I find it soo much harder to make friends. I have no problem actually conversing with people, I just don't know how to get it to the step where we're actually talking on the phone and hanging outside of school. I've just always felt so awkward asking people for their number, I normally wait for them to do it. I guess it's in fear of them saying no or they're not interested in talking to me and it's happened before and it hurts.

 

Plus I feel like I want to do more than just go to school and work. I find both really boring. I'm not really interested in the schoolwork and sadly I'm just studying and doing my work just to pass and move on. I just want some excitement in my life but I honestly don't know what I want and how to achieve it. That's the part that's perplexing me! I would like to have a girlfriend and I would just like to do so much more than what I'm doing now.

[Myles]

Myles, have you thought about checking out the clubs at your college and picking one or two to try out? I met my best friends and my boyfriend through getting active in school like that. Plus it just adds fun to college life, away from the classes and homework.

 

The start of college is tough. You don't know anyone and you have to take the gen eds that no one really wants to take. It doesn't stay like that. You get to know people and you get to sign up for classes that YOU want to take. They really do become a lot more interesting. Are you living in the dorms this year or commuting?

 

I was thinking about joining some clubs but like I said I'm like really shy and I just don't like to get involved in things, it sounds crazy. I would be interested in some sort of art or drama club, I will definitely check those out too. I have to step out of the box of security. I'm like so scared to try new things it's ridiculous but I'm going to have to start somewhere.

[HeavenlyDemonic]

try changing your rountine a little bit at time. I know it's hard( I'm in a similar situation, and just now starting to break out of my runt) but adding diffrent activites to your schedule will give you the oppertunity to socialize with people not associated with your school, and you can start fresh with them.

 

 

Also, I was just wondering what makes you say your not a social person, it sounds to me like you just the opposite. You want to interact with people, u just have a hard finding people to connect with.

[Daligal83]

I can understand the anxiety of trying out something new like that. Even when we don't like our patterns in life, they are comfortable and hard to change. But this is the perfect time to do it! Try out the clubs. You don't have to keep with them if you don't like it. I tried out some and stopped going, but stuck with others. It's all about trial and error and finding where you belong. What have you got to lose?

[Myles]

try changing your rountine a little bit at time. I know it's hard( I'm in a similar situation, and just now starting to break out of my runt) but adding diffrent activites to your schedule will give you the oppertunity to socialize with people not associated with your school, and you can start fresh with them.

 

 

Also, I was just wondering what makes you say your not a social person, it sounds to me like you just the opposite. You want to interact with people, u just have a hard finding people to connect with.

 

 

It's weird, there are some periods where I'm feeling very confident in myself and I can laugh and talk with different people. There are times where I can be just the opposite and shy. It depends on where my self esteem is at it. It varies from day to day and even week to week or month to month. Right now I'm feeling a little nervous and shy. I'm very unstable and I have low self confidence, I'm always wondering what people think of me or if I'm ugly etc etc. Right now I don't know what I can say to complete strangers or to even start a topic. It's very intimidating to just walk up to anybody and start a conversation, I don't know why it's so hard. Most of the time, I just keep to myself. I just truly fear being teased or looked at weird because it's happened before. I want to step out of my box but I always like to play it safe and that's what stops me from doing a lot of things. Then there are times where I'm feeling great and I can talk to people with no problem but now it's just one of those shy periods.

 

I can understand the anxiety of trying out something new like that. Even when we don't like our patterns in life' date=' they are comfortable and hard to change. But this is the perfect time to do it! Try out the clubs. You don't have to keep with them if you don't like it. I tried out some and stopped going, but stuck with others. It's all about trial and error and finding where you belong. What have you got to lose?[/quote']

 

I will try and look around my community and try something. Hopefully I'll get out of this problem of worrying about other people so much and just step out of this safety zone I'm in. I even annoy myself because I'm so scared of everything, I'm just a big chicken.

[Daligal83]

Don't be so down on yourself. It takes time to be comfortable with who you are and be confident about it. In high school, I was SO insecure. I was not popular at all, but thank god had some great friends who I am still friends with. But just to establish how not popular I was....I thought high school parties were this "hollywood" thing that didn't actually happen. Yeaaaa guess who just wasn't invited. I had zero confidence at that time.

 

Fast forward to college and everything was different. It's the time when you become so much more independent and for the most part, people aren't so judgmental. Yea some people can't get away from that, but you'll meet a lot more open-minded people and people who are a lot like you. It's really a time to learn about yourself. You're basically forging your own path through life. It's an incredible time.

 

I wouldn't describe myself as a totally secure person now. I have my issues. But I am able to appear much more confident than I was before. I care less about what people think of me. I'm not ashamed of who I am or my "nerdiness" and this is something that I grew into because of my college experience.

 

I think once you put yourself out there and try, you'll be really surprised about how well you'll do and the amazing people you'll meet.