i love my bestfriend who loves someone else

[elementduffs]

ok this is how it goes... my best friend says he is completely in love with this girl 1500 miles away that he only sees once or twice a year if that. i am completely in love with him. i am sad and depressed all the time. when he talks about her i feel like crap. i feel like a nobody. he knows i like him and hes even told me that if he wasnt going out with the girl 1500 miles away he would go out with me. my friends keep telling me to make a move on him since his girl is with another guy up there but i dont know when to do it or IF its a good idea to do it. someone help me in some way or another

lindsay

[mel_o_dell]

I would suggest not making a move on your friend because if he knows that you are interested in him, and he won't make a move because of this other girl, he probbaly won't appreciate you initiating something. I would suggest waiting to see what happens with their relationship, eventually long distance relationships (especially in younger people) tend to not work out very well (not all, but a good portion of them). He seems to really be into this girl, and as much as it hurts you to hear about it and not be able to be with him, you were probably his friend first, and your friendship is probably very important to him, and should be to yourself. Men come and go, but friends last forever. If things don't work out with this other girl, talk to him and see where it goes, but until then I would suggest just being there for him, and being his friend. Hope I was some help, although i am sure its not what you wanted to hear.

[elementduffs]

thanks for the advice. i am being a good friend about it ive gotten them back together once... they got in an argument and i talked to the girl and she decided to get back together i dont know why i did either... but what is weird is that last night he stayed the night with me at my ex step dads house and we were talking about penis' and boobs and all that sex stuff and he told me what his "specialty" is and then he slid over on his bed and like tapped the bed like he wanted me to come and lay with him... but i didnt... weird or normal?

lindsay

[elementduffs]

i wouldve if he didnt have his gf but if i wouldve done anything i wouldve felt guilty about it and i dont like feeling guilty but once they break up ill be all over him lol

lindsay

[mel_o_dell]

well thats a good way to be because if you let him cheat on this girl with you right now, how do you know that he won't do the same thing to you if you were together, or whenand if you get together?!? You need to let their relationship run its course, and when their course is over, i hope for you that yours may begin.

About the bed thing last night, I wouldn't read too much into it, he is probbaly very lonely since he never sees his girlfriend, and is probably very sexually frustrated (if they are sleeping together or not). Try to keep your hands off of him and see what happens in the future. good luck to you and hope i helped a bit. Mel

[Lost2]

i'm sorry to tell you but being the second choice is never a good idea, try hard to think about what's better for yourself in the end, if he comes to you because they broke up it's not good for you and your self esteem. you think you need him now, but if you work hard as to make him a less important part in your life. it's sad, but that's what is best for you. because you fl like crap because of him not loving you as much as you love him, i felt the same, it's nonsense and dangerous.

[Cid]

You did a good thing by geting them back together. I think I know why you did that sense you love him you did what was best for him and that is a good deed. Should you wate for him. I think not lost has a point but if you what to it is up to you I wish you the best of luck on what ever you do.